How to edge

[sanjuinmood]

Any advise on the title

 

[dodgeboy2]

Edging is just that finding a way to bring yourself to the edge and backing off before you orgasm, then pausing a bit and starting over.

My record for edging was just short of 3 hours but found that to be too long as my balls hurt for 2 days. Now I only do it for maybe an hour to hour and a half.

 

[Britva415]

Any advise on the title

Have you tried it? What obstacles are you experiencing, if you've been trying and not succeeding?

 

[Wonderer67]

Unbeknownst to me, I had edged for many years before I knew the term, “edging.”

I just knew masturbating felt good. And I could draw out the good feeling, but slowing down or stopping when I approached orgasm. I would keep myself in this state of arousal for as long as I could. Sometimes I would cum by accident and sometimes I would wait a fixed amount of time, and blow my load.

I still practice edging and now with my wife, orgasm denial. I sometimes like the feeling of arousal thru edging more than ejaculating.

 

[Daddyd7044]

I started edging long ago. Now my wife will edge me from time to time. Orgasm denial is something I truly enjoy. I have developed the ability to have my own "ruined orgasm". They help me empty out without actually cumming. Being horny and on edge, is a wonderful feeling!

 

[yowser]

For some of us, the most exquisite edging, when performed by a partner, means being restrained. If you like stories about this sort of thing, you might enjoy this recent tale.

 

[Britva415]

I wish this thread and many other thread like it had an answer to the question. What I find is a lot of "what it's like to edge" and "why I like to edge" and "this is what edging means in case you don't even know” - but basically none of “how to edge.”

I'd like to be capable of edging but my arousal just goes away if I don't get off. I can't ride the edge because it slips away in one direction (crossing it) or the other (disappearing).

I mean, I can stop and resume again later, but these hours-long constant-arousal full-and-fuller-erection scenarios are impossible for me.

 

[Daddyd7044]

I can't say I have ever edged for hours either. My wife has edged me for half an hour 40 minutes. Then she won't "let" me cum. And I get her off with my mouth. The excitement for me is her using edging to keep me going for days or maybe a week before I cum. Maybe passing me in the kitchen and kissing me then running her hand down my pants then playing with my cock till I'm about to explode, then she stops and I go on my way. She can keep me wanting more for a long time. Again days or longer. When I'm edging myself, I'm only good for 15 or 20 minutes, then I have to stop or I'll cum. I love the feeling of being horny all the time.

 

[Oyster69]

Unbeknownst to me, I had edged for many years before I knew the term, “edging.”

I just knew masturbating felt good. And I could draw out the good feeling, but slowing down or stopping when I approached orgasm. I would keep myself in this state of arousal for as long as I could. Sometimes I would cum by accident and sometimes I would wait a fixed amount of time, and blow my load.

I still practice edging and now with my wife, orgasm denial. I sometimes like the feeling of arousal thru edging more than ejaculating.

I’ve practiced edging for years. Excellent way to spend the day.

 

[Samtran123]

I have been practising edging for quite sometime now. My sessions typically last for about an hour or so.

 

[Edgeallday78]

Any advise on the title

There are guided porn videos that will help you edge by providing a tempo to follow to help edge. Once you get the idea and have control over your orgasm you can chose what to watch I’ve gone 8 hours of edging before needing to release but I will say the edge is more exciting than the orgasm.

 

[Britva415]

Too bad we don't know what @sanjuinmood 's difficulty with doing it is. Most of this advice seems centered around the "get control so you don't come" idea, which isn't informative or useful for people who don't have the P.E. problem. What if his difficulty was about maintaining arousal for a long time? Like this guy.

 

[Edgeallday78]

Too bad we don't know what @sanjuinmood 's difficulty with doing it is. Most of this advice seems centered around the "get control so you don't come" idea, which isn't informative or useful for people who don't have the P.E. problem. What if his difficulty was about maintaining arousal for a long time? Like this guy.

It’s all about finding your trigger points small breasts, thick thighs, hairless, breeding, etc..: and then keeping that constant arousal going your taste may evolve the longer you go so it’s important to understand what you like and where to find it. There may be dips in erections but the key is to keep aroused.

 

[bigsexybna]

Pay attention to the person who you are pleasuring. You’ll know when they’re close to coming by the way their hips move, the heart rate is faster, harder breathing, and moaning. Every time they get close pinch the base of the shaft, take it out of your mouth or stop stroking that cock. Wait a few seconds and then start again slowly. Wash rinse repeat

 

[Britva415]

Pay attention to the person who you are pleasuring. You’ll know when they’re close to coming by the way their hips move, the heart rate is faster, harder breathing, and moaning. Every time they get close pinch the base of the shaft, take it out of your mouth or stop stroking that cock. Wait a few seconds and then start again slowly. Wash rinse repeat

You know, that's a good point. We don't know whether @sanjuinmood wants to edge himself or edge someone else.

 

[Daddyd7044]

If you edging with a partner, it's all about communication. If my wife is edging me, I simply tell her when to stop before I go over the point of no return. I control my desire to cum, because I truly love the feeling of being right there but not getting off. I love being horny!

 

[hulmule]

I think more of Almond joy.. " Sometimes you feel like a nut and sometimes you dont " lol

 

[TarnishedPenny]

For those interested in learning, there are a number of sites showing edging, etc. One of the better ones is Velvet Veronica. Sorry I can't provide a link here, but her technique is superb.

 

[Vivian251]

If you (or they) feel close to orgasm, stop sexual stimulation and wait about 30 seconds, before continuing. Repeat this until you’re ready to orgasm, which can elongate the time between stimulation and ejaculation. It also makes things hella hot, too.

 

[TruthSeeker12345]

The edging technique can be used by the man to avoid ejaculating before the woman has climaxed. It involves getting aroused through stimulation, backing off on the stimulation and going to a lower arousal level, and then repeating the arousal/backing off cycle. This is repeated over and over again until finally the final arousal with ejaculation is done. The climax at final ejaculation is not just in the groin, but it is full body and many times stronger than without edging. Since it takes a woman much longer to climax than the man, it is very beneficial for the man to practice some form of edging. Edging can allow the man to delay ejaculation for 12 minutes or longer. Since the average time for a woman to orgasm is 13 minutes versus the 5.6 minutes it takes for a man, edging is very useful. Kegels exercises can be very helpful with holding back the orgasm and holding the erection during edging. A big benefit of edging is that, when the climax and ejaculation eventually occur, the climax can be full body and many times stronger than the localized sensation in the groin that comes from not using edging. Sex therapist Helena Nista also has a YouTube video that describes the edging process.

 

[Britva415]

If you (or they) feel close to orgasm, stop sexual stimulation and wait about 30 seconds, before continuing

When I do this, it just ends.

Without even an orgasm.

This is what I wish the “how to” would address.

 

[TruthSeeker12345]

When I do this, it just ends.

Without even an orgasm.

This is what I wish the “how to” would address.

In order to end the edging session, you have to go to the very aroused state, and then you have to keep stimulating beyond that, in order to ejaculate. There is an article on the web from the Arkansas Health Care Access (AHCA) Foundation, "Edging Exercises for Men to Achieve Better Climax Control" that provides a how to guide on edging. To find this, Google "AHCA: Men's Health Guides", and search for "Edging Exercises for Men to Achieve Better Climax Control" on the AHCA website.

 

[Britva415]

In order to end the edging session, you have to go to the very aroused state, and then you have to keep stimulating beyond that, in order to ejaculate.

I can either do that, in which case it’s not edging, or, I can try to edge, in which case I can’t maintain that state, which also isn’t edging, and I can’t end it according to your instructions.

 

[TruthSeeker12345]

If you are having trouble maintaining the arousal state, you could look into Kegels exercises, which train the slow twitch fiber muscles in the pelvic floor and penis that maintain the erection. Pelvic floor therapist Michelle Kenway has Kegels exercise videos on YouTube which are very helpful. There is also other information on the web about Kegels. Kegels also helps to train the fast twitch muscle fibers, which control the ejaculation.

 

[Britva415]

If you are having trouble maintaining the arousal state, you could look into Kegels exercises, which train the slow twitch fiber muscles in the pelvic floor and penis that maintain the erection. Pelvic floor therapist Michelle Kenway has Kegels exercise videos on YouTube which are very helpful. There is also other information on the web about Kegels. Kegels also helps to train the fast twitch muscle fibers, which control the ejaculation.

I think it’s neurological or psychological. My PC muscles are in super shape. If anything, they’re over toned, so I do reverse Kegels, where you relax them instead.