How do you define who should be your dom? Too often it seems we fall into the convenience of assuming things about people. But how do you know when someone is the right dom for you. I'm not asking for a deep intellectual discussion here, just other people's experiences on how they knew he or she was it.
How to define your Dom
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Firebrain
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It's chemical. Your blood says "yes" before you do. (For me, anyway). You can't stop going back.
But above that: he makes you happy and secure. You trust him. A real Dom will never make you feel small, or wronged, or insignificant (unless a degredation game has been agreed).
But above that: he makes you happy and secure. You trust him. A real Dom will never make you feel small, or wronged, or insignificant (unless a degredation game has been agreed).
Firebrain: My apologies for the long over due thank you. It reassures me that my expectations of how it should happen is nearly exactly what you suggest. That alone tells me I'm not crazy (yet
). Thanks for taking the time to reply.
Bandit58
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I agree
Humiliation/degradation is a hard limit for both of us. A good Dom will also inspire you to want to please him. You will want to do your very best to serve, whether that be in the bedroom or out of it. For Him to be disappointed in me is the worst punishment ever.
Plus he makes you feel all warm and fuzzy....
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