How to control your period

[orgasmsgalore]

I want to control when I get my period, but I would be happy if I could find out how to block it long enough for sex. I figure prostitutes do something. I'd also like it to be something what a man cannot tell when their fingers are inside. Is something like this even possible? Thanks in advance.

 

[qrayze]

the only way I know of to controll your period is with birthcontrol...

 

[sunandshadow]

There are those cups, like the Diva cup, they are an alternative to pads and tampons. Supposedly you can wear one while having sex and they will collect the menstrual blood up out of the way temporarily.

 

[Recidiva]

There are those cups, like the Diva cup, they are an alternative to pads and tampons. Supposedly you can wear one while having sex and they will collect the menstrual blood up out of the way temporarily.

They don't work that way. Nor would I suggest wearing one during sex. Quick trip to the hospital for one or both of you.

The only way I know to control it without becoming entirely anorexic is birth control pills.

LoSeasonique gives you one week of a light period every three months.

 

[QUAMEY_T]

Try having sex in water

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Try having sex in water

salt or fresh?

 

[janeyl]

I want to control when I get my period, but I would be happy if I could find out how to block it long enough for sex. I figure prostitutes do something. I'd also like it to be something what a man cannot tell when their fingers are inside. Is something like this even possible? Thanks in advance.

Mirena IUD...no periods, no wires. I have no idea how that translates in the colonies...

 

[mynameisben]

Try having sex in water

Or in a kiddie pool filled with cherry jello.

 

[warrior queen]

Mirena IUD...no periods, no wires. I have no idea how that translates in the colonies...

there can be huge side effects to using Mirena IUD.
make sure you're fully informed before having one fitted.
best day ever when i had mine removed.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I love my Mirena, never had a days problem with it, been in situ for 3 yrs now.

 

[warrior queen]

just a small side note...
why do you need to control your period for sex?
you can have sex on your period, just make simple preparations like putting down a couple of towels etc.
if you're with a guy who thinks periods are disgusting, or you find it awful, then abstain for those days. if you have to, surely he can do without for a few days also?
alternatively there's bj's or anal sex.

seems to me that periods (being the natural normal female function) are something to be worked with, not worked around.

 

[Bandit58]

I want to control when I get my period, but I would be happy if I could find out how to block it long enough for sex. I figure prostitutes do something. I'd also like it to be something what a man cannot tell when their fingers are inside. Is something like this even possible? Thanks in advance.

I once worked in a brothel as a receptionist. The girls used sea sponges when they were on their period - they're soft and absorbent and the guy can't tell if they're wearing one. They can be taken out, rinsed and re-used (I heard diluted tea-tree oil was used as a disinfectant/odour reducing agent).

Here is a website with more information:

http://www.jadeandpearl.com/catalog/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=9&products_id=18

When I was on hormonal birth control I just kept taking the active pills and skipped the placebos if I knew I would be going to have sex at that time. I didn't do it for more than a couple of months though, because by the end of the second pack of pills my boobs would be extra tender

 

[orgasmsgalore]

Thanks for all your responses. I knew about using birth control pills. I am 43 and concerned about pills due to my age. Mirena IUD doesn't sound too bad. I've done some reading about it. Some things concern me like mood swings. The sponges sound good except they can be felt with fingers.

Nothing else?

 

[Bandit58]

Thanks for all your responses. I knew about using birth control pills. I am 43 and concerned about pills due to my age. Mirena IUD doesn't sound too bad. I've done some reading about it. Some things concern me like mood swings. The sponges sound good except they can be felt with fingers.

Nothing else?

orgasmsgalore at your age you will find you have less control over when your period arrives and even less options to try and control it I really can't think of anything else other than the sponges which would help you, other than as warrior queen said absinence or alternatives like oral or anal sex.

What's the big deal if your partner can feel them with his fingers anyway - the idea is to try and stop most of the mess which is the main problem (for me anyway). I admit I am not keen on having sex when I am bleeding. We abstain or I give blowjobs during that time. Sir has said He doesn't have a problem with blood - it washes off in the shower after all But my sheltered upbringing just won't let me get past this mental hurdle.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for all your responses. I knew about using birth control pills. I am 43 and concerned about pills due to my age. Mirena IUD doesn't sound too bad. I've done some reading about it. Some things concern me like mood swings. The sponges sound good except they can be felt with fingers.

Nothing else?

If the pill is a concern due to age, Mirena should be too, since it contains hormones and has far more side effects that the pill. And some women have more bleeding, constant bleeding or spotting for long periods, etc. with Mirena.

One more option: You could have a partial hysterectomy. No uterus = no uterine lining to be shed.

Out of curiosity, why is it so important for your partner to not feel a sea sponge or whatever? If your partner is concerned over a little blood, have him/her use a glove when fingering you, a dental dam for oral and a condom for penetration with a penis or toy. Or just abstain from the "icky" activities for those few days and have fun doing other things.

 

[orgasmsgalore]

My partner does not like to give OS when I am on my period. My pleasure goes WAY down when on my period. I don't get any oral, not much manual stimulation happens and all I get is the bone.

I don't get to see my partner regularly because of his work. When I do see him it seems that my period comes at that time. He is upset. I try to tell him I have no control over it. I have found my period coming earlier. I count 28 days every month to try and time things but I cannot control if it comes early.

 

[Bandit58]

My partner does not like to give OS when I am on my period. My pleasure goes WAY down when on my period. I don't get any oral, not much manual stimulation happens and all I get is the bone.

I don't get to see my partner regularly because of his work. When I do see him it seems that my period comes at that time. He is upset. I try to tell him I have no control over it. I have found my period coming earlier. I count 28 days every month to try and time things but I cannot control if it comes early.

Hmm....my suggestion - have a shower, and put a sponge or tampon in. If your partner keeps up near the clitoris he shouldn't come into contact with any "ickiness". It will take ages for any blood to work its way through and you should be well finished by then

I did this when I was in a long distance relationship. I was about your age then and my period was coming about every 21 days, and I even skipped three cycles when I was under a lot of stress. It seemed that almost every time we were together I was either starting, in the middle of, or near the end of my period My partner wasn't fazed by a bit of blood, we just put down towels and showered together afterward.

I know I have said that I'm not keen on period sex, but needs must and at that time that's what I did. However I'm in a live-in marriage now and we get lots of other times to have sex, so no need to if I don't want to

 

[Noor]

You can have sex while using Instead.

Just put a fresh one or empty one in before. You might need some lube as having sex during your period can be a bit more drying.

Maybe use a new partner, one who understands that women get periods and getting mad about it just will make things worse. Some guys love period sex.

 

[Cattypuss]

[astonished blurt] The things women will consider putting themselves through (risk of stroke and thrombosis, mood swings, fucked hormonal balances, pain, inconvenience.....) just to pander to men's squeamishness will never cease to amaze me[/astonished blurt]

 

[Scotsman69]

no problems

I for one enjoy sex with my partner during periods. Blood washes off, and towels keep the bedclothes safe.

[astonished blurt] The things women will consider putting themselves through (risk of stroke and thrombosis, mood swings, fucked hormonal balances, pain, inconvenience.....) just to pander to men's squeamishness will never cease to amaze me[/astonished blurt]

 

[Cattypuss]

My current partner is fine about period sex*. I've had partners who weren't. All my partners have been men.

Would I put my health at risk to avoid pregnancy? Maybe. But to pander to a man's squeamishness? I think not!







* he's even happy for me to sit on his face while he eats me out when I'm in full flow.

 

[SweetErika]

My partner does not like to give OS when I am on my period. My pleasure goes WAY down when on my period. I don't get any oral, not much manual stimulation happens and all I get is the bone.

Is he opposed to stimulating your clit with hands and/or toys?

We don't do oral while I'm on my period, but there's no problem with manual stimulation or one of us using a vibe on me. Our favorite vibe is the Hitachi Magic Wand w/ an attachment, but if you really enjoy simultaneous clit and vaginal stimulation, you could use a Rabbit-style vibe to add foreplay.

I'd suggest telling your partner that you still need pleasure when you two are intimate during your period. Ask him what he is comfortable with, and add some proposals of your own, like using toys, having him wear a glove for manual stimulation, etc.

That, and/or rethink your choice of partners. This guy sounds whiny, selfish and problem-focused rather than proactive and solution-oriented. And you wanting to hide your period from him altogether, rather than working with him to come up with solutions, doesn't bode well for your relationship.

You can have sex while using Instead.

Just put a fresh one or empty one in before. You might need some lube as having sex during your period can be a bit more drying.

We've tried using instead multiple times, and while it's great during foreplay, it's not a viable option for us for intercourse. The rim of the cup ends up hurting both of us, regardless of how much lube we use. I'm thinking a sea sponge would be a far more comfy option.

 

[Bandit58]

[astonished blurt] The things women will consider putting themselves through (risk of stroke and thrombosis, mood swings, fucked hormonal balances, pain, inconvenience.....) just to pander to men's squeamishness will never cease to amaze me[/astonished blurt]

LOL Cattypuss it's MY squeamishness that's a problem!

That, and/or rethink your choice of partners. This guy sounds whiny, selfish and problem-focused rather than proactive and solution-oriented. And you wanting to hide your period from him altogether, rather than working with him to come up with solutions, doesn't bode well for your relationship.

My ex husband would not touch me during my period (it came as a relief for me in the end!) but it also made me feel like there was something dirty about me when I was bleeding, hence the hangups I still have now

orgasmsgalore your partner sounds like a whiny child who spits the dummy when he can't get his own way. Like you have control over when your period comes and you're doing it just to spite him! It sounds like there's a real lack of communication here and he's laying all the blame on you instead of as SweetErika said working together to find solutions which would help the both of you.

 

[warrior queen]

i actually do control my cycle using the pill - but it's NOT for sex.
i get horrendous migraines from the hormone spike, so the pill is a godsend because it evens out my hormones and reduces the frequency.
i have one period every 3 mths. (mind you, i still get a hospital grade migraine every 3 months as a result.)

that was why i tried the mirena - only to find i was one of the few who bled continuously while i had it.

 

[LettersFromTatyana]

My partner does not like to give OS when I am on my period. My pleasure goes WAY down when on my period. I don't get any oral, not much manual stimulation happens and all I get is the bone.

I don't get to see my partner regularly because of his work. When I do see him it seems that my period comes at that time. He is upset. I try to tell him I have no control over it. I have found my period coming earlier. I count 28 days every month to try and time things but I cannot control if it comes early.

Your cycle is susceptible to non-reproductive hormones, and stress is one of the biggies. Are you really stressed before your partner visits, due to his issues? If so, this might be throwing you off your cycle. Stress has messed with my cycle a few times, even when I was on the pill.

All that said, wow. If he wasn't a fan of period sex, then that's one thing. I don't get it, but everyone has their hangups. But to be fine with the sex and not be ok with everything else that helps you enjoy sex? Not ok.