How to control female ejaculation?

[dollface007]

Hi everyone,
I didn't find this exact question anywhere, but I apologize if it's a repeat:

I'm one of those lucky ladies who can gush when I come. It doesn't happen every time, but when I do, it's A LOT of liquid. I'm talking: the bed gets totally soaked and I've got to change the sheets.

While it feels great, I'm sort of starting to see this as an inconvenience. Like, it doesn't really give me *more* pleasure than a regular orgasm, it makes a mess, and I get so wet that it's difficult for my partner to finish. I basically flipped a switch and I can't switch it back off.

My question is: have any of the ladies out there been able to control when you ejaculate? Have you found any sure-fire techniques that will allow you to orgasm without it, or lessen the chance that it will happen? How do you handle it with a new partner? Do you warn them ahead of time? Guys, how would you prefer a woman to handle the issue?

Usually when it happens, I have no indication that it will before it actually does. It has only happened when I'm on top (or by myself), so that's one thing I pretty much know for sure, but being on top is the best way for me to orgasm period. The last couple times it happened I was with relatively new partners and never even thought to warn them or put down towels. I think it took them by surprise...and it wasn't necessarily a bad thing, but the messy sheets issue was really a hassle.

Any words of wisdom would be appreciated.

 

[NippleMuncher]

I have nothing to help control the imminent flood, but with a little pre-thought and well placed towels, you can contain the aftermath.

We use a bath towel folded in half under us to contain the wet spot that inevitably occurs, though my GF is not a squirter she does get quite wet. When we're done, the towel is removed and the bed is perfectly dry.

Others here have recommended using a rubber sheet, such as those used in a crib. I'd still use a towel or two over the rubber sheet for comfort, but the sheet itself will keep the bed dry.

 

[night&day]

You Are Kidding Aren't You?

GO WITH THE FLOW! Get a cover or plastic sheets. If this squirting is making it hard for your partner to finish you need a new partner!

 

[dollface007]

GO WITH THE FLOW! Get a cover or plastic sheets. If this squirting is making it hard for your partner to finish you need a new partner!

No, I'm not kidding. I know it sounds like I'm looking a gift horse in the mouth (what a weird expression). Like I said, I don't necessarily get *more* enjoyment out of sex when I gush...so for me personally, it's just sex plus a lot of liquid! And to clarify, guys think it's totally awesome, but I just want to be able to control better when they get to experience the awesomeness.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I don't know if you can contain the flow unless you allow yourself to back off on the pleasure you're receiving, which in my opinion would be unfair to the both of you. Once properly aroused I've been known to flood a bed too, and yes changing the sheets is almost always a must in that case, but it's been a long time since I've gotten that lucky.

I'd suggest to keep your mattress safe, you definitely go with a plastic sheet. Over that put the regular sheet, and then the towels. If you're with a partner for the first time, and he's going down on you, then he should know that you may drown him - if it's intercourse and not oral, I wouldn't give him a warning, he shouldn't care if you soak him. It may surprise him, but a real man will only embrace that and think he's "all that".

Again, this is just advice from an old married woman, so it's only as good as the person giving it and doesn't necessarily mean it's the best advice either.

 

[vixenmalori2218]

I have this same issue, actually. I LOVE to squirt. Its the best feeling. I was really fortunate to have a guy who not only embraced my ability, he loved it. We had a rubber sheet, laid towels down on the bed and then a fitted sheet and then more towels....I make a big mess.

I haven't figured out how to broach the subject with new guys yet, as I'm celibate. But I've decided I couldn't conscience not telling him and just covering him in squirt. I will be telling him that I squirt and its something I'm unwilling to change.

You'll learn to appreciate the squirting. When I first squirted. It scared the hell out of me. I was too scared to masturbate again, until I found out what it was. I had a dry orgasm yesterday(as in I came so many times I was drained) and its the weirdest sensation. I don't feel satisfied unless I soak my lower extremities in girl cum.

I think of it as a blessing now.

 

[juan tractor]

I don't know if you can contain the flow unless you allow yourself to back off on the pleasure you're receiving, which in my opinion would be unfair to the both of you. Once properly aroused I've been known to flood a bed too, and yes changing the sheets is almost always a must in that case, but it's been a long time since I've gotten that lucky.

I'd suggest to keep your mattress safe, you definitely go with a plastic sheet. Over that put the regular sheet, and then the towels. If you're with a partner for the first time, and he's going down on you, then he should know that you may drown him - if it's intercourse and not oral, I wouldn't give him a warning, he shouldn't care if you soak him. It may surprise him, but a real man will only embrace that and think he's "all that".

Again, this is just advice from an old married woman, so it's only as good as the person giving it and doesn't necessarily mean it's the best advice either.

holy shit, you have 104K posts? wow.

with that aside, we have a tempur-pedic mattress and the warranty requires us to have a waterproof mattress protector. it's a lot less noisy than a plastic sheet and is easily washable. other than that, just make sure your guy gets to swallow all your squirt, it really cuts down the mess, and is really erotic to boot...

 

[Josiyummi]

I don't know how to control it at all,
but I believe there is a big difference in my orgasms with and without squirting/gushing.

If I cum without gushing - it is still a good orgasm... they all are .
But if I gush.... it's because I'm having a mind blowing orgasm, and
I completely lose control...and well... you know.

 

[Mr.G]

Surprised

... a bunch of "experts" didn't all claim "It's PEEEE."

Your question BTW is the # 1 question I get now from over on the TRY THIS thread. Some women claim to be able to hold it back by clenching or something. For the most part what I do get is what you said - FUN at first but as time goes by the novelty wears off and ejaculating eliminates spontaneous sex anywhere a mess can't be cleaned up quickly or like in a car where you just can't soak it all up and then summer and the interior cooks and the smell .... somewhere between a cholera hospitals septic tank and a menstruating YAK!!

With G-Gasms I think what can happen if you cum very very quickly and keep G-Gasming is that the skeene glands never get a chance to engorge like they do/might with extended intercourse. That's just lotsa feedback and emails suggesting ejaculating does not occur as often or as much that way.

So good luck with that and I hope some of the women can give you better advice.

 

[dollface007]

... a bunch of "experts" didn't all claim "It's PEEEE."

Your question BTW is the # 1 question I get now from over on the TRY THIS thread. Some women claim to be able to hold it back by clenching or something. For the most part what I do get is what you said - FUN at first but as time goes by the novelty wears off and ejaculating eliminates spontaneous sex anywhere a mess can't be cleaned up quickly or like in a car where you just can't soak it all up and then summer and the interior cooks and the smell .... somewhere between a cholera hospitals septic tank and a menstruating YAK!!

With G-Gasms I think what can happen if you cum very very quickly and keep G-Gasming is that the skeene glands never get a chance to engorge like they do/might with extended intercourse. That's just lotsa feedback and emails suggesting ejaculating does not occur as often or as much that way.

So good luck with that and I hope some of the women can give you better advice.

I'm blaming this all on you, Mr. G!! I should have just known to go read through your thread. What am I, an amateur?? Anyways, thanks for the response. I'm with a new guy and it hasn't happened yet. I'm still sort of figuring things out with him when I'm on top, but he has been informed that this could happen.

 

[jaskaur120]

no one control it...but i use towel and any other cloth to cover bed sheet ..........

 

[Holley]

I'm married, so that makes it better, hubby knows it's coming. I could see where it would be a problem in someone eles's bed.
But I notice I cum, sorta on a second orgasm or maybe I have had an orgasm and I keep going.
Can't explain, but maybe you may just have to cut your pleasure short when needed.
We are a lucky group.

 

[jckontharocks]

My girlfriend only squirts once in a while. When she does I think its awesome! As soon as she does it, I blow the biggest of my loads IMMEDIATELY. Sounds like it's his issue. Not yours! Make sure you drink fluids after, you can really become dehyrated.

 

[alice27]

I wouldn't try to control it... Just go with it. You shouldn't be fucking anyone you couldn't openly talk to about this, I say it as a disclaimer for all, so please just enjoy yourselves. Use a towel! I agree with you, it's still a big orgasm with fluid and you'd enjoy it the same without, but it can't be helped! I'm nervous about bring with someone new and having this happen, but I have to make peace with it.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

IYou'll learn to appreciate the squirting. When I first squirted. It scared the hell out of me. I was too scared to masturbate again, until I found out what it was. I had a dry orgasm yesterday(as in I came so many times I was drained) and its the weirdest sensation. I don't feel satisfied unless I soak my lower extremities in girl cum.
I think of it as a blessing now.

Im glad to see im not the only one who can feel drained. LOL I call it dehydrated though.

Now that I squirt, or gush nearly everytime, I have to have a towel under me in some way. Doesnt matter if im on my back or stand. I have flooded foors, beds and mattresses. Not to mention my feet. Now I have been in position where we didnt have a towel near us and I knew I was about to flood the floor( on carpet and didnt want a mess) I concentrate on him more so than what im feeling and I dont "push" when i feel that sensation that im about to gush. But like you, I always make a mess. I have soaked 4 thick bath towels in one day.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

If you can't control it, I suggest rubber sheets or have a couple of thick towels near by or underneath you. I rather wash towels all of the time than sheets.

 

[RuReal]

This is an old thread, but if someone wants a suggestion of how to make it easy yo clean up. My wife and I have found that puppy pads are a god send. We had the protector and it was still a pain in the butt and when it finally dies you do not know it until you have it seeping into the bed. The puppy pads you use it then dispose of it after.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

This is an old thread, but if someone wants a suggestion of how to make it easy yo clean up. My wife and I have found that puppy pads are a god send. We had the protector and it was still a pain in the butt and when it finally dies you do not know it until you have it seeping into the bed. The puppy pads you use it then dispose of it after.

PUPPY PADS! Why didnt I think of this before! When your in the hospital they have something just like the puppy pads only bigger to protect the mattress under your sheet.

Thanks for sharing this!

 

[llmjj83]

No, I'm not kidding. I know it sounds like I'm looking a gift horse in the mouth (what a weird expression). Like I said, I don't necessarily get *more* enjoyment out of sex when I gush...so for me personally, it's just sex plus a lot of liquid! And to clarify, guys think it's totally awesome, but I just want to be able to control better when they get to experience the awesomeness.

As for 'looking a gift horse in the mouth', I felt compelled to share. This saying actually comes from horses (as one would imagine). You can tell a horse's approximate age by examining it's mouth. When someone is nice enough to give you a horse, you accept it gracefully, without examining the mouth while they (the givers) are there. Thus, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth".

 

[dollface007]

As for 'looking a gift horse in the mouth', I felt compelled to share. This saying actually comes from horses (as one would imagine). You can tell a horse's approximate age by examining it's mouth. When someone is nice enough to give you a horse, you accept it gracefully, without examining the mouth while they (the givers) are there. Thus, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth".

THANK YOU! This is why I love this forum

 

[juan tractor]

PUPPY PADS! Why didnt I think of this before! When your in the hospital they have something just like the puppy pads only bigger to protect the mattress under your sheet.

Thanks for sharing this!

i think the bigger pads you're referring to are called Chux

 

[NightBirdNYC]

A very common occurrence during both sex and my playtime while home alone
https://ibb.co/Vtxz5t2

 

[NightBirdNYC]

Some home alone pleasures...

https://vlix.io/video/4ad0bcaba52babfa470b/

 

[Clit_Liquor]

PUPPY PADS! Why didnt I think of this before! When your in the hospital they have something just like the puppy pads only bigger to protect the mattress under your sheet.

Thanks for sharing this!

My wife and I use puppy pads as well.

Never any worries about a mess.

I enjoy when she squirts on my chin. Occasionally, I'll return the favor and squirt my load on hers...

 

[magic_rat]

My question is: have any of the ladies out there been able to control when you ejaculate? Have you found any sure-fire techniques that will allow you to orgasm without it, or lessen the chance that it will happen?

From my experience (one of my partners is a gusher) you can't stop it, and you'll probably lessen your pleasure if you try. Just think ahead; if we're indulging in bertain play that is likely to create a deluge, we lay her on a towel. Saves a lot of laundry.

With a new guy... just tell him. He'll probably be delighted. And have a towel handy.