How to bring the distance closer

[sexy-girl]

well since i know theres a lot of members that are having long distance relationships and i've had one or can be just for when your partner is away i thought it might be good to start a thread for ideas for feeling closer to your partner when they are away



* emails emails emails at least 10 a day ... about stupid things your doing or have done or silly things to make eachother smile or loving things to make the heart go bump

* letters emails are nice but nothing beats a letter for rereading and holding it and knowing the words are hand written (buy nice paper)

* silly gifts like letters its lovely to hold something personel that probably wouldnt mean anything to anybody but your partner and you (i sent lisa my front door keys before she moved here)

* music its lovely to listen to your fav romantic album together at the same time while you meet online just knowing your both hearing the same thing and doing something together makes you feel closer

* sex its hard to feel down when your horny have weeks of being purely sexual together tell your partner you'll be masturbating in the shower at midnight and thinking of them they will look forward to it all day and they will be thinking of you doing while your doing the act

* time zones SUCK ignore them they are stupid and should be banned if you want to meet your partner when they come back from work but its 3am your time who cares meet them anyway

* meet online or chat on phone everyday it sounds obvious but you'll really miss it if you dont do it i know its not always possible but see the time zone point

* phonesex/cybersex i dont mean roleplaying out scenes but just to have an orgasm while your in contact with the person via phone or internet believe me when your having the orgasm it will feel like they are in the same room


um im sure theres many more i could think of but its getting rather long and i dont want to bore people ... i'd love for people to add their own ideas and suggestions though please

 

[MissTaken]

Snuggle or sleep with something that has his/her scent remaining or simply is signficant of special times together.

Keep a journal in which you write every time you think about him/her. This is great for parents who don't have custody of their children as well. (A friend of mine did this for several years and gave the journal to her daughter at a particularly opportune time.)

 

[Simply Me]

Snuggle or sleep with something that has his/her scent remaining or simply is signficant of special times together.

Keep a journal in which you write every time you think about him/her. This is great for parents who don't have custody of their children as well. (A friend of mine did this for several years and gave the journal to her daughter at a particularly opportune time.)

I sleep with Dragons cologne on my pillow. You're right, it does help. I'm almost out of it though, he better get here soon.

 

[SweetCherry]

*SMS messages on a cell phone.

Draco's mobile phone has SMS capabilities, so I send him little messages a couple times a day, just saying "Hi, I love you" or something like that.

*Send something personal.

It sounds obvious, but not everyine thinks of it. I mailed him pics (normal everyday ones) of myself and my children in our day to day existance. Even sent him a pic of me as a child. I also sent him a part of me, a lock of my hair. (Just cuz I know how he loves red hair )

*Sometimes, out of the blue, and if my budget can afford it, I'll call his mobile and leave a message on his voice mail, just because I want him to hear me tell him how important he is to me.

*Little presents with deep symbolism.

For Draco, dragons hold a deep symbolism. I've found a couple for him that have spoken to me and he loves them very much. One I sent, a pendant, he's not taken off since he got it. Well, he took it off once, but that was fixed.

*Be supportive in everything.

I try to make sure I do everything I can to make him smile or laugh each day. I say silly things just to take his mind off the troubles of his day. I'm also one who believes in wishing sweet dreams. I tell my children that and kiss them every night before bed. It's something I do for those I care about. He knows that when I say it, I'm sending my love.

I also agree with the time zone thing. It's even worse with the southern hemisphere. 6 months out of the year there's loads of time, then 6 months, there's too little. Soon the time change will come, and then It'll be late for him, even tho I get up at 4am to be with him. 19 hours is a LOT of difference sometimes.

It takes work, but in the long run, it's well worth it. I wouldn't change a thing. I love him with all my heart!

 

[Simply Me]

I also have a Dragon pendant that Dragon gave me for my birthday. It's never come off. I also sent home several personal items of mine, in my perfume for him to have. We talk often on the phone, despite the time difference. Neither of us gets much sleep, but it's worth it. He left several items of clothes here, t-shirts that I wear around the house. They smell like him. He left his toothbrush in my holder, so I see it everyday, and I like that.
A reminder that he is coming back soon.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[april-wine]

i send sound bites, record myself saying i love you and send it to my sweetheart, i even recorded myself singing one of our favourite songs....she always wants me to sing to her....when she got it she was blown away lol

 

[~justin]

I wrote her a song and sometimes I call her and sing her goodnight songs when we both have time I'm recording some material for her now, too among other things.

 

[sexy-girl]

i love all these ideas its also lovely to read and to know exactly how you all feel


i love the wearing the other person's clothes part i do that also the sound bites is a nice idea lisa sent me a dictaphone with a tape inside of her talking to me was very lovely


the tooth brush idea is really cute too im going to look in the bathroom and look at lisa's tooth brush now

 

[luv2tvl69]

Time zones def suck, but would get up anytime of the day or night just for a few moments of contact with WC.

I definitely do the email and ecard things....when I am at work and i have a moment, I email WC that I am thinking of him (even though it is allll day long). He sometimes emails me at work in the morning so when I get to work I see it. Then when I get home there is usually an email or IM offline message welcoming me home....those little things just make my heart smile, melts me inside.

I also keep a picture of him with me (1 in my purse and 1 in my car) ya never know when ya gotta look at the one you love.

I print some of his emails to me and read them while I am waiting for drs appts, etc..