How to begin anal play?

[TearsAtBedtime]

The husband and I are starting to think about introducing anal play into our sex life but we're complete novices.

In the collective experience of the forum, how do we best go about trying this out? What preparation is needed and, please be frank, what side effects are likely?

Thanks

 

[Ex Princess]

The husband and I are starting to think about introducing anal play into our sex life but we're complete novices.

In the collective experience of the forum, how do we best go about trying this out? What preparation is needed and, please be frank, what side effects are likely?

Thanks

Well thankfully you came to the right place. There are numerous great threads on the subject already. Try reading through some of them, they are full of great tips and treasured advice.

I'm not sure if anyone mentioned side effects in the previous posts, however there can be a lot of discomfort for a few days if not enough lubrication is used and things in the back may just not look/feel right during that time as well...

There are lots of dangers in anal sex when it is done roughly, so just remember to wash thoroughly before, but especially after and don't be afraid to ask for more lube during if its getting dry feeling!

 

[bailadora]

You might want to check out this post in the Blank Manual. Scroll down about 2/3 of the way and you'll find links to previous threads on the topic. Happy reading!

 

[TearsAtBedtime]

Thanks for the link. I am reading and learning right now!

 

[oldkinky]

The husband and I are starting to think about introducing anal play into our sex life but we're complete novices.

In the collective experience of the forum, how do we best go about trying this out? What preparation is needed and, please be frank, what side effects are likely?

Thanks

We enjoy anal play on me as a regular part of our sex lives. Many years ago I never dream,ed that I would enjoy anal play on me, but as I began to understand my prostate and how anal play can be exciting.

Initially I purchased a vibrrating anal toy(Pro Touch from Tantus). When it arrived I asked DW to use it on me while she gave me a blowjob and WOW what an orgasm. Most intense ever. Not only was it more intense, but also I produced much more cum which DW loved. We were both hooked. We have tried other anal toys like vibrating dildos and beads and they are all nice.

From prostate massage we proceeded to strap on sex. We purchased a Bend Over Beginner Kit. It has a harness with a pouch for a small vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while she does me. It also includes two small silicone dildos(Silk Small-7/8 by 4.5 inches- and Silk Medium-11/4 by 5.5 inches- made by Tantus). Both of these are small and easy to insert with lube(Wet Original). DW put on the harness with the Small Silk dxildo). She became so hot as she rubbed lube on the dildo and talked dirty about her dick. I got in the doggy position and she lubed my opening. She slowly inserted the dildo in me. It felt so good. She thrust some in this position, but we decided to try a variation on the missionary position. She removed the dildo and I lay on my back with my legs drawn up. She lay between my legs and inserted the dildo in me. In this position she can easily reach my penis for a handjob while she does me. She lubed my penis and went to thrusting while giving me a handjob. It wasn't long until we were both cumming-she from the harness vibrator and me from prostate stimulation and the handjob.

We then purchased a new harness(Buzz Me Tender) whch is a little more sturdy and has pouches for tw vibrators.

We have graduated to new dildos. A word of caution about dildo size. The maximum dildo diameter that is comfortable for me is 1 1/2 or a little less, but up to 7 inches long or longer is fine. We much prefer silicone dildos. Some we enjoy are Vibrating Mistress(1 3/8 inch by 6 inches) made by Vixen Creations, Vibrating Leisure(! 1/4 by 7 inches) made by Tantus, Acute(Tantus)1.25 by 5 inches and curved, Compact (1 by 5.25 inches-made by Tantus,.

A recent addition is a double dildo. We use Nexus Jr. with a harness and we do each other at the same time. DW had her first squirting orgasm while we were doing each other.

Remember use lots and lots of lube. You can't use too much.

Some couples are concerned about creating a mess. If you have a BM an hour or two before sex things will usually be clran. For me , however, I use a Fleet Enema filled with warm water before sex. i usually fill it three times or until it comes out clear. Also you can use a condom on the dildo.

Hope this helps. Strap on sex is a great addition to our sex lives.She does me about once a week.

Most of this also applies to anal sex on the female. Depending on how big your husband's dick is you may want to start off with a small dildo. Then you could do DP with his penis in your pussy and a dildo in your ass. He should wear a condom to prevent a urinary infection. It would still be wise for you to have an enema too.

Remember use lots and lots of lube. You can't use too much. We use Wet Original for everything.

For anal on him there is a good series of 10 minute instructional videos on the web site *********. Just type strap on master class in the search blank.

Hope this helps. Let us all know how you two enjoy it. I am sure that you will both love it.

Congratulations to both of you for being open enough to try new things. like anal sex-you will love it. Send me a private message for some good sources and more details of our anal play.

 

[TearsAtBedtime]

Thanks! That's really helpful

 

[emate4692]

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well i would start with a good enema to get all the nasty out of the way!

 

[oldkinky]

well i would start with a good enema to get all the nasty out of the way!

We each have an enema before any type of anal play. We use a Fleet Enema. If it is filled with a laxative solution, empty it-rinse and refill with plain, warm water.

Use the enema-expel. Repeat this until what you expel comes out clear. Usually 3 to 4 times works for me.

Shower and you should be squeaky clean.

Enjoy!!