How to become submissive?

[onlyeighteen]

Heyy, I'm kayla im eighteen,
im new to all of this and have been reading about BDSM
and wanted to know what happens when you first become a sub?

i'd love to hear from dominants and is possible, subs themselves for personal stories?

thanks heaps!
xoxo

 

[Bandit58]

In my experience, you don't "become" submissive. You either are or you're not (apart from being a switch I suppose!).

I suggest you take a look at these links in the BDSM Library, and visit the BDSM Forums here at Lit - we don't bite unless you want us to (yes that is an old joke!).

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=304819

 

[fuckmeat]

All depends how you view submission. Some people are service oriented and will submit both inside and outside the bedroom. Some just want rough sex and for everything else to remain equal. Some subs are masochistic but not all. Some masochists aren't actually submissive. Some subs crave humiliation/objectification, others don't.

BDSM = Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Submission, Masochism. It's basically a huge range of activities that qualify as 'kinky' and what you want to try and experience is your own personal journey. The BDSM forum is a good place to start reading and asking questions.

I have to tell you though, with a username like 'onlyeighteen' and a desire to be submissive, you're going to get shitloads of creepy PMs from guys around here, so be warned. Some ignorant assholes think sub = a girl with low self esteem who will tolerate abuse and so they try to prey on people like you, who don't have a clear idea of what safe and consensual BDSM is.

Good luck exploring your submissive side.

 

[infinity706]

It's honestly not just women, though. Ignorant assholes even think I'm an easy target for anything they want to do to someone, even with my reputation and experience. In places where BDSM isn't that common, a lot of people just don't understand that having a submissive streak doesn't make you a doormat.

 

[fuckmeat]

It's honestly not just women, though. Ignorant assholes even think I'm an easy target for anything they want to do to someone, even with my reputation and experience. In places where BDSM isn't that common, a lot of people just don't understand that having a submissive streak doesn't make you a doormat.

With respect infinity, I don't think I've ever seen an easier target than you. You're a kinky bisexual slut, possibly the epitome of easy.

You're not going try telling me you were sweet and innocent till you got taken advantage of and corrupted are you? Did the dom/mes get you?

 

[SpiritRider]

There's really no way to be completely polite when answering this but...

You're 18 years old and think you might want to "become" a submissive?
First, you don't become anything that isn't already in your nature to be.
Second, keep reading...because evidently it hasn't sunk in yet. Then read some more and some more before engaging in anything bdsm related.

Seriously, I wish you the best of luck and hope you enjoy the journey.

 

[ace195008]

With respect infinity, dont pretend your something your not either. By saying your a 'submissive' and being submissive can actually mean two different things. I also wish you the best of luck on what you seek.

 

[infinity706]

With respect infinity, I don't think I've ever seen an easier target than you. You're a kinky bisexual slut, possibly the epitome of easy.

You're not going try telling me you were sweet and innocent till you got taken advantage of and corrupted are you? Did the dom/mes get you?

With respect infinity, dont pretend your something your not either. By saying your a 'submissive' and being submissive can actually mean two different things. I also wish you the best of luck on what you seek.

Hey now, I didn't say I was sweet and innocent. What I meant was rediculously stupid shit like how I should consent to be bareback fucked in the ass with a cock almost as thick as a Pepsi can, without any lube or preperation. (of course, I should, supposedly, do all sex acts without condoms, anyway) I should also consent to be handcuffed and get in a car with 3 guys I just met today, to go back to their house. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about, not normal, kinky sex. I could do without ending up in a hospital or getting murdered.

As for the sub thing, I'm not a 'submissive.' I'm a switch. I just like to play sub sometimes. (I especially like the masochistic aspect and the service) Of course, I have to be punished a lot because I'm really feisty and end up dominating the scene, otherwise.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Heyy, I'm kayla im eighteen,
im new to all of this and have been reading about BDSM
and wanted to know what happens when you first become a sub?

i'd love to hear from dominants and is possible, subs themselves for personal stories?

thanks heaps!
xoxo

The first thing you have to do is get your membership card.

Send a 25.00$ check or money order and SASE to

International BDSM League
attn: Submissive Female Dept.
Suite 33A
101 Industrial Drive
Teaneck NJ 07668

Allow 6-8 weeks for delivery. With your probationary card you can start going to "munches" and applying to doms for ownership.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

kayla,

If you were a man, you could easily "become" submissive. Just date a woman that outweighs you by quite a margin, and both of you get drunk. Now that I think of it, that advice could work for women too. Find a large female Dom. You''ll be her biotch in no time