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How to become a secret admirer?
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You're ALREADY a secret admirer. When you start sending e-mails, you become what's known as a "creep."
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Considering most "couples" meet online these days, I fail to see how emailing suddenly makes one a "creep."
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Good luck with it. I'm sure emails are admissible into court when she files for a restraining order against you, and they may also become public record as well.
Including the pictures of your dick.
The sticky point here is if she wants the attention from you, or not. If she doesn't...and let's face the reality that she doesn't because, hell, she doesn't even know who you are!...then it's called unwanted sexual advance. In the workplace it's called harassment, out in the real world it might be called assault or criminal threat or something of that nature. I'm not a lawyer, but cops can work wonders with the penal code when they have a mind to.
So, if you wanted to meet someone "online" then create a profile someplace and talk to people, get to know them, and maybe you'll meet someone with some common interests that you can establish a relationship with.
Now I will say that I once received a short anonymous note in the mail, at work, from someone whom I met later on, a woman I dated a few times. The note read:
Star light
Star bright
How I wish I was
With you tonite
And that was that. Nothing further. She worked at the bank, liked my leather jacket (and me), and eventually we got to talking over that smile she had, had dinner, and she let me know that she was the one who'd sent the note. It was cute, and a good memory. But it was only one. That's probably the difference between "nice" and "fuck you creep" I'm going to guess.
Take care.
Including the pictures of your dick.
The sticky point here is if she wants the attention from you, or not. If she doesn't...and let's face the reality that she doesn't because, hell, she doesn't even know who you are!...then it's called unwanted sexual advance. In the workplace it's called harassment, out in the real world it might be called assault or criminal threat or something of that nature. I'm not a lawyer, but cops can work wonders with the penal code when they have a mind to.
So, if you wanted to meet someone "online" then create a profile someplace and talk to people, get to know them, and maybe you'll meet someone with some common interests that you can establish a relationship with.
Now I will say that I once received a short anonymous note in the mail, at work, from someone whom I met later on, a woman I dated a few times. The note read:
Star light
Star bright
How I wish I was
With you tonite
And that was that. Nothing further. She worked at the bank, liked my leather jacket (and me), and eventually we got to talking over that smile she had, had dinner, and she let me know that she was the one who'd sent the note. It was cute, and a good memory. But it was only one. That's probably the difference between "nice" and "fuck you creep" I'm going to guess.
Take care.
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At no point did I ever say I was going send pictures of my dick.
At no point did I ever say I was going to make it sexual.
At no point did I ever say I was going to be a "creep" or "stalk".
I love how people instantly jump to conclusions and come up with the wildest theories.
Not only would the said emails have to be extremely forward and borderline threatening, which FYI is not the type of person I am, the law cannot and will not get involved unless a threat has been established.
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Then you're just sending them spam? Oh, well that's different. There's filters for that already.
I guess you could try. I mean you could say "I think you're swell" and they could say "Why thank you, tell me more." and then you'd have this ongoing conversation with someone who doesn't know who you are. It could work. If they ask you to stop, then stop. If they don't reply, then stop. More than one attempt, without a positive response, would be called "stalking" I think.
The emails don't have to be threatening, borderline or otherwise. I'm sure that any woman who takes a handful of emails to the police and says "I don't know who this person is" will get some help in one way or another. Your defense of "But I didn't do anything wrong" is hardly a relationship builder, and just sounds damn embarrassing, and to be honest, sounds like something a creep would say.
Your mileage may vary.
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Sorry, there isn't a way to send repeated anonymous admirer e-mails without coming across as a stalker creep.
Send one telling the woman who you are and that you're interested. Any more or less than that is going to feel like an invasion of privacy.
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The very definition of "secret admirer" is that the object of affection is unaware of you, once you make contact of any kind, you are no longer a secret to them.
Now, unless you identify yourself in some manner to said object of your obsession, it is very likely that said object will simply delete any messages from you without ever reading them.
The real question is, why would you want to play such a game with someone you are interested in? Again, it is quite likely that any victim of this would write you off as a creep of some sort and want nothing to do with you.
Now, unless you identify yourself in some manner to said object of your obsession, it is very likely that said object will simply delete any messages from you without ever reading them.
The real question is, why would you want to play such a game with someone you are interested in? Again, it is quite likely that any victim of this would write you off as a creep of some sort and want nothing to do with you.
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Rawr_Tiger, we are living in a cynical era. An era where pedophiles befriend young children on the internet. When we say 'that sounds creepy' - we are letting you know how it may come across. Some women will be freaked out at a series of anonymous emails, with or without body parts attached. Some women will just brush it off. A lot of women will have left the concept of 'secret admirer' back in high school (or junior high), when it was clearly an innocent, adolescent fantasy. (I'm not sure how many people had secret admirers or just fantasised about them for a time?) We don't know the lady who you pine for, we don't know how she will react.
That said, err on the side of caution when it comes to creepiness... if you exhibit too much of a knowledge of your admired one's movements, for example, it could be problematic. Use your common sense.
I wonder if a secret admirer can be effective through email - spam filters can be very adept at picking up emails, or she may delete them after the first one. (Though if she's had a stalker before, she's probably saving them all for a paper trail....)
In contrast, in the physical, written note - you can read their (poorly disguised) handwriting - you can see whose note paper they've 'borrowed'... there are more clues that lead to the identity of the person, which are reassuring.
Finally, a secret admirer often doesn't want to stay secret forever, and I gather that it is preferred that way. Do you plan on eventually revealing yourself to this lady?
That said, err on the side of caution when it comes to creepiness... if you exhibit too much of a knowledge of your admired one's movements, for example, it could be problematic. Use your common sense.
I wonder if a secret admirer can be effective through email - spam filters can be very adept at picking up emails, or she may delete them after the first one. (Though if she's had a stalker before, she's probably saving them all for a paper trail....)
In contrast, in the physical, written note - you can read their (poorly disguised) handwriting - you can see whose note paper they've 'borrowed'... there are more clues that lead to the identity of the person, which are reassuring.
Finally, a secret admirer often doesn't want to stay secret forever, and I gather that it is preferred that way. Do you plan on eventually revealing yourself to this lady?
Is this to your mom, as you posted on the Fetish boards? If so, it is beyond creepy, especially since you mentioned it might not be welcome.
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There is pretty much no way to send anonymous "secret admirer" messages to a woman without a high risk of creeping her out.
Edit: and attempting to build an online relationship with your mom, without mentioning that HUGELY IMPORTANT POINT... no, that's not creepy at all. Excuse me while I go take a shower and try to rinse off the skeeviness.
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Ew....he went ahead and did it anyway...poor woman.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=42717476#post42717476
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Oh yeah I'm a filthy little cunt hmm
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That would be insulting female genitalia.
Don't you think she'll wonder how this "admirer" got her email address?
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That would be insulting female genitalia.
Don't you think she'll wonder how this "admirer" got her email address?
Nope. With all the spam emails floating around these days its more than likely she will see it as spam.
But oh well.
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Here, I thought this may help you over here in your How To thread since you were seeking advice when you posted in Incest is Best as well.
P.S.
Are you both men?
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Obvious fap is obvious.
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Here I was hoping it'd just be a simple innocent young guy with an abject fear of rejection looking for a "way in" that was less risky than a direct confrontation.
If anyone arrives here looking for advice for that reason, do yourself a favor and see a therapist to overcome your fear of rejection, because sooner or later your lack of self-confidence will destroy any relationships you do manage to build, regardless of how 'safe' the approach is.
If anyone arrives here looking for advice for that reason, do yourself a favor and see a therapist to overcome your fear of rejection, because sooner or later your lack of self-confidence will destroy any relationships you do manage to build, regardless of how 'safe' the approach is.
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I'm really hoping between my second last post on this thread and your edit of the original I have not just given you a good idea.
When scanned with a computer - there is a serial that can be traced to the actual polaroid camera - distributor and ultimately the retailer - who of course keeps all card records... and if you think of paying by cash - well they have their security cameras.
Jeez - who is talking a load of shit now?
When scanned with a computer - there is a serial that can be traced to the actual polaroid camera - distributor and ultimately the retailer - who of course keeps all card records... and if you think of paying by cash - well they have their security cameras.
Jeez - who is talking a load of shit now?
NightL: You are not responsible for another being's actions. A rational person would have taken that as sarcasm.
It is entirely possible this whole thread started as a way to garner a certain type of attention, and now that his other attempts to get that attention have been revealed, he has backed down and moved on so he can make a new account or try to get the attention elsewhere.
It is also possible that he has a disposition to do "whatever it takes" to fulfill his fantasies, and getting caught early on is the best overall result. I can think of much worse things that he could do to satisfy that fantasy in which he would have "nothing left to lose" which is the most dangerous state a person can be in.
If he has a real problem and isn't just pandering for attention, then this thread indicates that he would rather continue on with his desires than try to fix them. I don't think further attempts at communication would be meaningful.
It is entirely possible this whole thread started as a way to garner a certain type of attention, and now that his other attempts to get that attention have been revealed, he has backed down and moved on so he can make a new account or try to get the attention elsewhere.
It is also possible that he has a disposition to do "whatever it takes" to fulfill his fantasies, and getting caught early on is the best overall result. I can think of much worse things that he could do to satisfy that fantasy in which he would have "nothing left to lose" which is the most dangerous state a person can be in.
If he has a real problem and isn't just pandering for attention, then this thread indicates that he would rather continue on with his desires than try to fix them. I don't think further attempts at communication would be meaningful.
