How to be a slut?

[kittiGoddess]

I am sorry if this is is a silly question but I need help. Master wants me to be his slut, but I was brought up to be an English lady and I really don't know how to be the slut he wants, any advice would be great fully received.

 

[sexnovella]

Slut

Slut is a term applied to an individual who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. It is generally pejorative, and is most often used as an insult, sexual slur or offensive term of disparagement (slut shaming) against girls or women. It originally meant "a dirty, slovenly woman," and is occasionally used to refer to men, requiring the clarification term of male slut. However, there have been attempts to "reclaim" the word for girls and women, and some individuals embrace the title as a source of pride.

In human sexuality, slut-shaming is the act of making, or attempting to make, a person, especially a woman or girl, feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors, circumstances, or desires that deviate from traditional or orthodox gender expectations, or that which may be considered to be contrary to natural or religious law. Some examples of circumstances where women are "slut-shamed" include violating accepted dress codes by dressing in sexually provocative ways, requesting access to birth control, having premarital, casual, or promiscuous sex, or being raped or otherwise sexually assaulted (which is known as victim blaming).

 

[1sickbastard]

I am sorry if this is is a silly question but I need help. Master wants me to be his slut, but I was brought up to be an English lady and I really don't know how to be the slut he wants, any advice would be great fully received.

Frankly, that is up for your Master to determine.
What you need to do is ask him directly what he means by 'slut'.

If he doesn't have a clear idea in his own mind, then you two need to have a conversation (as equals) and work it out together.

 

[Primalex]

I am sorry if this is is a silly question but I need help. Master wants me to be his slut, but I was brought up to be an English lady and I really don't know how to be the slut he wants, any advice would be great fully received.

It usually comes down to begging for sex.

 

[SlutAddicted]

The challenge with this type of pejorative term is that it is inherently wrapped up with the cultural context in which it is used. For many people it is simply inconceivable that a rationale, capable stable woman would choose to be sexually promiscuous of her own accord - she must be doing so because of some moral failing or need for approval or against her wishes - but they are wrong. And sexual promiscuity is no more sinful than lots of other actions that don't attract the same sanctions. It is a prohibition manufactured and over wrought to assuage male insecurities and need to control.

As others noted, slutty is in the eye of the beholder. For simplicity sake though I would think of two broad "definitions". One is the old school version described above wherein a slut is basically some combination of bad woman and victim. The second is that of a woman who is unabashedly sexual and perfectly confident and happy with herself.

If you are going for the former version you'll present yourself to your master as weak, vulnerable and desperate. Dress like a $2 whore and make clear that your objective is his pleasure and acceptance regardless of the impact on you.

If you are going for the latter version (which I hope) you'll make it clear that you enjoy sex and accept and embrace male urges as natural and desirable. This involves conducting yourself in a way that projects this image. That isn't about looking or acting like a $2 whore, but it does involve a full dismissal of the English lady perspective and a focus on what men actually want. When you pick your outfit think about what men find attractive, not what English ladies wear to fit in with their girlfriends. The difference is often subtle - skirt just above the knees rather than just below and tailored to emphasize (rather than hide) your body. A small glimpse of lace on that bra. Wear heels that really emphasize your legs or not at all. Don't avoid male attention - face it, embrace it and see it for what it is. Yes they want to fuck you. Accept that rather than hiding from it, but know that it is you who chooses who, when and where.

Raise that skirt and those heels and lower that neckline. Accept that your whole body is attractive and the parts below the neck aren't "dirtier" than the parts above. Dress and act in a way that appeals to men - not a mysoginist caricature of men but not your girlfriends view of what men should be either.

 

[Tech_Director]

I am sorry if this is is a silly question but I need help. Master wants me to be his slut, but I was brought up to be an English lady and I really don't know how to be the slut he wants, any advice would be great fully received.

Firstly, the term "slut" is relative to the individual using it. I use it freely with My submissives but NEVER in a derogatory manner. In FACT, I believe it to be a term of endearment and use it as such. In a way, it is reclaiming the word and embracing it rather than fearing it.

In your situation, you need to find out what he means by the term and also WHERE he wants you to be a slut. For example, I insist that any that are with Me are LADIES in public but absolute sluts privately with Me. In other words, behind closed doors, let the hair down and enjoy EVERYTHING sexually as much as humanly possible. Since he said he wants you to be "his slut" I suspect that is what he is looking for and he doesn't want you to be a slut in the eyes of outsiders.

 

[policywank]

I tend to think that most women have some idea of what it means to be slutty (in the most positive use of the word), we just have a hard time reconciling that to what we have been taught.

My advice is to start with all that English lady stuff you were taught. Jot down all those rules and constraints then figure out how to violate them. Disregard the notion that you shouldn't try to get men excited.....think about how you would get them excited. Disregard the notion that you must be a good girl and figure out what aspects of being a bad girl appeal to you. Consciously accept that self-exploration and pleasing your master are more important than fitting into your very conservative society. As SlutAddicted described, not a victim but a woman who wants men and sex and isn't afraid to explore her sexuality.

If your master wants this only in private I think you can push the limits more. But he may want it in public which is in many ways a much more potent test of your obedience.

We are all judged by others in public all the time. It is likely the judgment of others that motivated your parents to raise you as an English Lady. You cannot be yourself or whom your master requests you to be (assuming you want to go along with it) and reconcile that to the judgment of others. Whether he wants you to be a slut in private or public you must consciously override the urge to let societal acceptance be a deciding factor in your choices. And if it will be in public brace yourself to be called a slut. We all know it - even a tiny bit of extra cleavage might get that response from some.....well English lady types.

Having said all that it doesn't need to be extreme or bimbo like. You don't have to make yourself a social outcast. You just need to stop letting the most conservative, buttoned down, Church of England perspective be your reference point. What I am describing is going from having 0% of society regard you as a "slut" to maybe 5% of society. The other 95% are perfectly happy to see a nice pair of legs peaking out of a short skirt and you'll soon recognize the other 5% as just the most uptight ninnies out there rather than the general consensus that they would have us believe.

If you live in England, no doubt you have crossed the channel to visit France. Or maybe been to Spain or Italy. Those standards are different than yours - shorter skirts, higher heels, more overt sexuality. Do you consider them sluts? I don't (at least not in the negative sense) but from an English lady perspective they are. My two cents is start out by emulating a latin hotty - strong, confident, beautiful and unashamed. Its not that easy of course but set your sights on that.

Once you experience a bit of personal sexual liberation you'll want more. And once you get used to the idea that there is always going to be someone judging you and you can't avoid it without being a slave to the lowest common denominator you'll learn to ignore it.

You already have a pretty good idea of what is sexy and what your man finds sexy but you'll only fully see it when you accept that maybe some of the things you were taught to believe were just plain wrong (at least in the way values were presented as a set of immutable facts and rules rather than just one perspective).

 

[tristantrotsky]

In my experience, men are fairly simple organisms. Keep his cock well-sucked, swallow his spunk, tell him his cock is the biggest you've ever been fucked by and that you love sucking it, and he'll be happy...

 

[CutieMouse]

On the surface, "being a slut" is pretty standard* -

Wear shorter skirts, tighter tops, higher heels, blahblahfuckingblah.

But I don't necessarily believe (personally) that being a "slut" means one can't also be a "lady".

Some men might feel a woman qualifies as a "slut", simply because she unabashedly enjoys herself (sexually). Other men might insist a woman isn't a "proper slut" until she's been the center of a gang bang. And there's a whole world of slutty opportunities, between the two. The first step towards understanding the "how to" of it all, depends on the persons deciding what exactly defines a"slut".



*Of course, this perspective is from someone who refuses to refuses to accept the societal meme that a man who sleep with 100 womenis a "stud" and a woman who sleeps with 100 men is a "slut".

 

[subwannabe]

As everyone else has already said, "slut" could mean many different things. To me it would encompass many things but the bottom line is you would be promiscuous, having sex with just about anyone. Having said that, I wish my wife was more "slutty" but I wouldn't want her having sex with others. This kind of underscores everyone's suggestion that only your master can define what he means by the word "slut".

 

[policywank]

As everyone else has already said, "slut" could mean many different things. To me it would encompass many things but the bottom line is you would be promiscuous, having sex with just about anyone. Having said that, I wish my wife was more "slutty" but I wouldn't want her having sex with others. This kind of underscores everyone's suggestion that only your master can define what he means by the word "slut".

Everyone's perspective is equally valid. However, I would say the notion that "you would have sex with just about anyone" is a large part of the reason why most women are not prepared to indulge their slutty side.

I think most people would consider me slutty. I dress provocatively, but not like a bimbo. My clothes are within the range of appropriate but at the more revealing and bold end of the spectrum. And I have sex with a lot of men, but I emphatically do NOT fuck just about "anyone". In fact, I would say that I am just as discriminating as most women in terms of the characteristics I look for in a man. It's just that I don't see long-term relationship potential as a pre-requisite for sex, I enjoy sex for its own sake and don't care much if he'll respect me in the morning and I see no problem with having multiple lovers. But if I don't find a guy attractive or sexually appealing it isn't going to happen.

If I had to choose between being chaste and being a receptacle for any guy I would choose the former. Enjoying sex doesn't have a damn thing to do with wanting to be treated like shit or forfeiting the right to choose my partners. Even at the centre of multi-partner sex, I choose the participants and I have no interest in handing myself over to just any group of drooling neanderthals.

There are plenty of sexually active "sluts" in the world, of which only a tiny portion will fuck just about anyone. And the rest of us do not reveal ourselves to or date men that think this way.

 

[squirt4daddy]

If you crave your Daddy's cock and let him know it in whatever way makes you a little uncomfortable and a lot excited then you will be slutty. I love it when my Daddy calls me his dirty little slut he is not degrading me he is praising me. I love being a woman and I love being slutty for my Daddy, I need to hear affirmations to continue to be secure in my sexuality. Being slutty for your Daddy doesnt mean you are for the rest of the world, I am first his wife of 20+ years then his sweetheart, then hi dirty little slut. Trust that he loves you and be free , be happy, & enjoy being a sexy woman.