How should she tell him?

[klewellen]

Hi, I promised my friend anne i would ask of this here..
we are both big fans of your stories, but this
is my firt time with a q uestion. Anne is dating a man that she really likes bu
there is one tiny problem ahem his well member.
it is not so m uch him, she has had kids, so needs a lot in deep to feel anything.
but she really likes him, and he is 100% in every other way.
how can she gethim to consider well extras, like a
strap on cock so they both can enjoy deeper togetherness?
parden the errors here, I amnew and cannot edit lol.
kare

P. s. she is most afraid of hurting his feelings,
someting she wants to avoid at all cost. but sex is
really important to her!

 

[Bigg_Capone]

I was a guy in that situation... being a rather small guy in the area of my member but involved with a woman that had had a child. What she needs to understand is that the vagina is a muscle and it sort of expands and contracts to fit a man's penis. For instance, as I said, I'm rather small for a guy my age, but the woman and I had absolutely no problems that I've ever been made aware of... of course, I'm only saying this because at this point in time I have no doubt in myself or my abilities to satisfy even a female that would by some standards and views be considered "loose". If she's into the guy and really likes him enough, she'll get over the hang up she's got about whether or not this guy'll ever please her and find out for herself one way or another. Of course, if she's actually as loose as it seems to me that you're making her to be, maybe she'd have a better time with a tube of KY Warming Liquid Gel and some serious, deep, and hard fist penetrating. Quite frankly, it seems to me that you're a teenager and are worried that because you yourself have had a child and are no longer as "tight" as you once were, you'll need more to give you satisfaction, when if there is a solid basis of love, trust, and honesty about what you both want, the sex will be much more to the liking for both of you, whether he's hung like a puppy or whether you or her or whatever are as loose as a coffee can.


How old is your friend?
Is she depraved?
Is she a shallow?

If she's really afraid of hurting the guy's feelings she should seriously give consideration to the fact that if she's not honest with this guy it will tear him up for a loooooong time to come. Like I said, I've been there.

Give me more details. I'll try to help you.

 

[Lynnezertorte]

I think it depends on how long she's been dating him/sleeping with him. If it's a fairly new relationship then I would wait a while until there is really good communication between them.

If she's been with him a while she could rent a porno that contains scenes showing what she's interested in pursuing and then casually ask him what he thinks about it and go from there.

She also could make suggestions without mentioning the reason why.....just say that she thinks it would be fun...or different.

She also should try doing some kegel exercises, that might help a little.

 

[Lou Nuttick]

How should she tell him? Very, very carefully. Maybe not at all.

Unless the guy is very secure in his own sexuality, this could destroy any sexual confidence he has with her - and with other women as well.

I'd suggest that she first do what she can to change her own self - such as the kegel exercises - and broach the subject only as a last resort, when she's at the point where she's willing to risk the relationship.

 

[Dr.O]

I'd have to agree with the klygal exercises, as I've slept with a few women with kids and never noticed a problem with there grip.. So to speak..

A good position for deep, and tight. Have her lay on her side, long knee forward, the bottom leg straight, and have him straddle the bottom leg, and insert that way..

She can adjust pressure better, and he'll get much deeper as there's less body interference..

 

[sheath]

Let me get this straight.

She is complaining because she needs deeper penetration.

He is 100% in every other way?

Okay.

So where the the problem here?

The man can do hundreds of things to get her off, to give her the best night she has EVER had, and never once enter her. If she wants deeper penetration, she can surprise him with a few toys to fill up a sexual treasure chest. She can begin experimenting with him that way and then delve deeper into what their bodies can do. Try dozens of positions. Try fisting. Try...damn near ANYTHING.

And when they are comfortable with that, try strap-ons, etc...build up to it, slowly. It won't happen overnight. My point is, this is NOT a talk they have to have just yet, and probably never.

S.

 

[phoenix1224]

It's NEVER a good idea to tell a guy he's got a small dick... No matter how discretely or sensitively you do it...

Tell her to get a copy of the Kama Sutra... Plenty of ideas for 'deep' penetration...

 

[zhukov1943]

Yep.

Telling this guy would be a BAD idea...

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Well if she is into

Anal then what I would suggest is that she get a big dildo and have her male friend position himself in her ass as he or she gives her puss a good fill with the dildo.

Good luck

Kiegles sounds like the best idea and then there is MR. G's Thread too


Holden

 

[VSE]

And I thought the friends/brother speech was a bad as it could get

'Hope you dont mind, but I bought a "Monster-bigboy-ronjeremy, for the man who has nothing" hollow strap on. I know you wont feel a thing and will feel deeply inadequate because I'm basically telling you that you wont even scrape the sides when you pop the little fella in, but would you mind doing me with it please?'

I cant see him having any problem with that suggestion at all

 

[klewellen]

sigh, I feared i couldnot convey her problem clearly.
She has had three children, and as a result,
cannot feel due to what is the phrase,
expanded tissue and nerve endings?
I have told her that there are many many ways to get
the thrill of a lifetime without bringing this up, but anne wanted
me to ask so i did.
he is a wonderful guy or seems to be,
and she *does not want tohurt his feelings!* really.
thanks,
Kare

 

[Bobmi357]

I have struggled for the last few days to NOT answer to this thread. And guess what? I failed miserably because here I am.

So she's too loose and complaining that he's too small eh? So much for the "size doesn't matter" myth.

It always amazes me how women can keep saying it doesn't matter, then along comes a poster either complaining about a monster dick or a guy too small.

First off, she's had a baby, she should be doing kegels to tighten up the muscles again. And personally I don't suggest she tell him about his size problem, not until she can walk around holding a pencil in there all day without panties on. Once she's solved her part of the problem, the problem will either go away or then she can tell him.

This isn't a case of him being too small, its a case of him being too small and her being too loose and she has no right to complain until after she's taken steps to rectify her half of the problem. Once she's done that, IF the problem still exists, then she can voice her concerns.

Let me state from personal experience that there is nothing that can make a man feel worse than hearing "Is it in yet?". My ex pulled that line on me and it caused an instant deflation. And if I remember rightly that was the last time we had sex (2 yrs later I divorced her).

I find it hard to believe that this woman considers this guy to be 100% in every category except this one. Because if she did, then this category truly wouldn't matter. His dick size shouldn't become a relationship issue, but that is clearly what she had made of it. There are so many ways a man can bring his woman to orgasm. And if he's truly 100% in all other ways, then he's probably capable of oral sex or manual manipulation, or just changing positions to provide a greater degree of tightness.

I'm sure that there are women out there that would prefer a monster penis all the time. But ladies, remember you get pissed off at us guys for thinking you women are tits and ass, we guys don't care for being classed by our penis sizes either.

I don't know about the rest of you, but I married my second wife because I loved her first and her body second. Sure I lust after her, but she's a lot more to me than just heavenly tits and ass.

 

[77Cobra]

what does having a baby matter

My wife has had three babies and large ones at that and she is just as tight as she ever was.Do the kegels and get that snapper tight.If that don't work.He has fingers and a tongue doesn't he.Plus you got an ass too.As said before get out the B.O.B.(battery operated boyfriend and use it on your pussy and have him in your ass).

 

[JRaven]

My three cents...

There are different positions that could be tried to provide deeper penetration. Two of my favorites are doggy style and missionary with my legs up on his shoulders.

I've always been afraid that excessive use of vibrators and dildos would stretch it out too much. But, that has nothing to do with how deep he's getting.

I would highly reccommend that she DOES NOT tell him anything. If necessary, she can dump the guy for almost any other reason.

Jenny