How picky ARE you about your s.o.'s body... REALLY I mean?

[Jade]

I was just curious.

I am not talking face here, just BODY.

I know I know... personality is important, etc. etc. but so is "chemistry." Part of that is being attracted to one another and sure it isn't all about looks, it's about pheremones actually and about what your subconscious mind truly desires, but I was just curious as to just how picky that makes the type of people that would visit here, on average?

I mean, no one has the perfect body but certainly some people conform to "hollywood" standars a little better than others.

As far as what I prefer in a man, I am into a few "semi-standards" here and there. I prefer them taller than me, they must weigh more than me, but am not into overweight.
However, I don't mind a little tummy; it can be cute. I don't mind "skinny" legs, and yet I LOVE at least a little bit of arm definition.
Chest doesn't have to be arnold, but if he can bench my body weight/lift me, I am melting.

And then of course there are all of those "little" things that just make us smile, hehe.

Then there is the other side, me.

I am nowhere near perfect!

I am not going to come out here and destroy what little self-esteem I have this morning by creating a long list of all of my so called "flaws" but the point is, I am human, but real. 100%


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So what I am trying to figure out I guess is, even though you get turned on by those "hollywood" pics, can you

A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place?

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time?

C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds?



What is most important? If you HAD to choose ONE!

-height
-weight
-age
-fat content
-other body issue?

Thanks people!

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Great question Jade!

I am not picky about my s/o's body. I loved him enough to marry him and his body was part of that package.
When we got married, he quit smoking and went from eating like a bachelor to eating like a man married to Martha Stewart. I put 10 inches on his waist within the first year.

When looking at other guys, no...their body isn't usually the first thing I notice. I am partial to big men (not obscenely fat, but a guy who looks strong). But I love men. As long as he looks like a man...chances are I'll find him attractive.

And I'm too busy worrying about my own flaws to notice any he might have the first time we get naked together. Well, considering what's usually going on the first time we're getting naked, I rarely notice anything other than that he's got an amazing tongue

Yes, I worry about how he views the extra pounds I seem to hold on to every year. Maybe someday that'll change.

If I had to choose one? Well I guess it would be age. Completely past puberty is a must!

 

[Jade]

Great question my ass... that was a great REPLY!

Thanks Countess!!

 

[willywanker]

I think our "standards" are on a sliding scale. Yes, it was my wifes body that first attracted me to her. And the first time I was her naked, I thought she was so thin I was afraid to be aggressive making love, for fear I would hurt her.

Now, 5-1/2 years laters and about 45 pounds heavier, I'll admit she doesn't have the same "hot" look she had then, but she can still turn me on and keep me turned on, when she wants to. Wish that was a little more often lately, but she said the other night that part of her lack of desire has to do with her own self image after adding the weight.

Don't know if that answers your question or not, but there it is.

 

[Miss Demeanor]

Heya Jade! I am single, so here is an opinion from the ranks of the "not chained yet." The Countess's reply made me feel better about what will happen when I am chained

These are the three major physical requirements I notice in partners or potential partners:

1. Age ( Gotta be 'bout my own age, plus or minus a few years, but DEF. legal )
2. Height ( Gotta be 'bout 6', cause that's my height )
3. Cleanliness ( I don't care how interesting a person is, if I smell him coming then there is no hope for him )

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A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place? All the time!! I usually notice hair and eyes first, give me some soft hair and sparkling eyes and I'm interested

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time? Not really, as long as I get some hugs and kisses it's all good!


C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds? Nope. If they have a problem they can tell me. I am not saying that I'm going to kill myself trying to change, just that I am willing to listen and try to make them happy.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I keep the Shebabe on a strick veal diet.....

That is, I treat her like veal.

Nothing goes in her mouth that I don't put there.

I she can't go to the bathroom without my permission and inspection. That way I can tell if she's been sneeking stuff.

Man she looks good though.

 

[Jade]

That made me sick to my stomach

 

[Expertise]

I have Pepto.....

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Yeah Jade - that's just another benefit to......

Sparky's, "Treat'er Like Veal" Uber Diet....

to a perfect womanly figure.

You puke a lot.

 

[Jade]

I have Pepto.....

Then what are you waiting for oh knight in shining armor??

*taps foot impatiently*

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Ahhhh Hahhhhh!!!!

The old "how bout I lick the Pepto off yer stomach trick," gets'em every time.

Especially those Vagitarians - I mean vegitarians.

 

[Jade]

Trick? What trick? *looks around innocently*

And how did you know I was a "VEGetarian" hmm? *eyebrow raise*

 

[Nobody Special]

I pleasd the 5th on this one.. it was not the Body of My S./O.'s that attracted me... But being herself and how she looks at other things in her life that attracted me to her..

Now we get into arguments all the time about how beautiful she is and if any one has ever had this conversation with me then you know my views on it.. and I can give you my "Ugly" Speach but you would be board with it... at leasst most of you would... but I do Believe that some of you have heard it already and you know who you are..

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[Expertise]

I have Pepto.....

Then what are you waiting for oh knight in shining armor??

*taps foot impatiently*

I have pepto, but do I have permission

 

[Gaucho]

So what I am trying to figure out I guess is, even though you get turned on by those "hollywood" pics, can you

A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place?

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time?

C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds?



What is most important? If you HAD to choose ONE!

-height
-weight
-age
-fat content
-other body issue?

A) Yes
B) Flaws? What flaws? If I'm attracted in the first place, then I'm not concerned about HER flaws, only my own. Which brings me to
C) Absolutely. I believe I have a duty to, um, hold up my end of the bargain. So to speak.

Which is the most important? None of the above. Any or all of them can be a factor, depending upon the circumstances.

For me, it boils down to one thing: Attitude.

 

[Iris]

Good topic!! The guys I have dated or - ahem- otherwise have all been not skinny but not chunky either, usually around 5'9" to 6' but never any shorter than the low end of that. Almost all have had dark hair.

My current partner's body is just fine to me even though he doesn't think so.

I've never really seen any flaws in him naked or otherwise. I define what's perfect for myself and not by what the media says is gorgeous anyways. To tell you the truth most of what Hollywood says is The Look does nothing for me. I mean my partner's not perfect but he's perfect enough for me. I can't think of anything I'd change. Put it that way I guess.

Sometimes I worry about how he views me but I think that has to do with the way I feel about myself and my body than the way I actually look.

 

[teresafannin]

I go for the average looking guy every time. I don't want a man who is prettier than I am or one who is higher maintenance than me. I do want a man who is taller than me, not hard to find since I am 5'2". My sweetie is about 6', he has put on some weight in the last few years, but carries it well. He has really good personal hygiene, doesn't use a lot of aftershave & stuff like that. He worries about his weight so we are watching what he eats to help him lose a few pounds. Looks aren't that important, but his work for me. We have been together for 4 years & the grey in his hair & beard is very attractive.

 

[willfulbrat]

Like many of the women here, I find most men attractive. I really don't have a "type" or a rigid list of physical requirements. As far as flaws go, I do notice them, but they are not a turn-off, if that makes sense. Just another feature that's part of the man I care about.

If I had to choose one of the factors you listed as most important, I guess I'd say weight, although 20 pounds or so over or under ideal weight doesn't matter to me.

What I notice the most about a man's body is the way he moves, especially his head, chest and shoulders. The way a man carries himself tells so much about him: his level of confidence; how he views himself and others,and; his level of physical fitness.

 

[DarkAngel]

I would just like to say...

For me... I look like the swamp things ulgier twin brother!

I am soooo da ugly.. that even Zombies think I am I am ugly..

 

[Jade]

I am leaving to go out of town in a few minutes but I had to drop by and see how this thread did... just as I suspected... here are all of us women, non-picking, relatively non-judgemental for the most part... and only about 20% of the replies were from men... bah!

Expertise... what do I have to do? Post a nekked pic?

 

[Siren]

Well I fell in love with Wolfy before I ever saw him

 

[Svedish_Chef]

A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place?
Yep

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time?
What flaws... last time I checked it was a human body

C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds?
I think they'll notice but most people want me heavier

What is most important? If you HAD to choose ONE!

-height
-weight
-age
-fat content
-other body issue?
Thanks people!
Sorry baby but you know the answer... fat content

 

[CRaZy]

I don't notice the flaws in Panadolboy. I just want him to stop getting damn headaches. LOL. Panadolboy doesn't notice if I change hair colour, get my teeth knocked out, have a mask over my entire face or anything else. He just doesn't. He loves me though.

 

[Chuckus]

So what I am trying to figure out I guess is, even though you get turned on by those "hollywood" pics, can you

A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place?

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time?

C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds?



What is most important? If you HAD to choose ONE!

-height
-weight
-age
-fat content
-other body issue?


A) Yes
B) We all have our own "flaws" it is what your attitude and mind do with them that is key. I tend to like flaws as they make us all individuals and unique. I have them just like every one else does........so flaws are not flaws to me but merely individual marks that are our own and no one elses.
C) Sure as stated above, but I don't let it control the way I act about them or let them hover nor do I dwell on them. If I am unhappy with them, I do something about it. Action and not reaction.

Which is the most important? It is a mixed bag but more importantly is the attitude and personality that goes with all the above that make the difference, looks are only skin deep.

 

[lickerish]

I was just curious.

So what I am trying to figure out I guess is, even though you get turned on by those "hollywood" pics, can you
A) Be attracted to a "normal" body in the first place?
yes, guys who have perfect body's intimidate me

B) Do you notice their flaws when you see them naked for
the first time? Every time? no, the light are off.. don't want them to see MY flaws

C) Do you worry about how they will view you? Do you think they notice when you gain 5-10 pounds? oh god yes! it's a huge reason why i stay single, i couldn't stand the rejection.


What is most important? If you HAD to choose ONE!

-height
-weight
-age
-fat content this is me being hypocritical
-other body issue?

Thanks people!

I'm too self-conscious to notice his imperfections, I'm too worried about him noticing mine.