How old is too old?

[theoneadd2]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and I like him a lot but he is a lot older than I for the most part it didn’t bother me until two weeks a go. Two weeks a go he ask me to help him move some things out of storage so I told him no problem. Early Saturday I showed up bright and early but my surprise two other people were already they’re helping. So Ace came out of the storage unit and introduce me to the two other people one of the two being his 23-year-old son (I’m 22) it left me filling real uneasy. It had never bother me before about his age (he’s 43) but the fact that he had a son that was a year older than me was a slap of realism for me. Should I just get over it or is age to big a problem to over look?

 

[webber1998]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and I like him a lot but he is a lot older than I for the most part it didn’t bother me until two weeks a go. Two weeks a go he ask me to help him move some things out of storage so I told him no problem. Early Saturday I showed up bright and early but my surprise two other people were already they’re helping. So Ace came out of the storage unit and introduce me to the two other people one of the two being his 23-year-old son (I’m 22) it left me filling real uneasy. It had never bother me before about his age (he’s 43) but the fact that he had a son that was a year older than me was a slap of realism for me. Should I just get over it or is age to big a problem to over look?

In my opinion ... it is all in the eye of the beholder... and only for you to decide... My neice, who is about your age, likes older guys and doesn't have a problem with their age. My daughter, 22, does NOT !!! Neither of them is wrong. It is just their own personal preference.

 

[xxThantosxx]

If you both connect on a physical and mental level I really don't see why age should be a problem. Good luck!

 

[Cigan]

I think it really comes down to what you want out of the relationship. Are you dating him just to date him and it's a comfortable if temporary relationship? Is it something that you think is lasting? If it's temporary then I say screw the age issue, date him as long as it's good for you. If it's lasting I say the same thing with one reservation. Assuming you were to end up permanent partners, and you each lived to a ripe old age (we can all hope for as much) then chances are he would die and you would still be young enough to want a relatonship, but at that age where getting one is difficult (especially among us gays sheesh). I know that's kind of a cynical way to look at a relationship, but as much as I try not to be, I'm kind of a cynical guy. It should be the absolute last thing to consider as far as breaking up, a good relationship is hard to find. Giving up one now just cause you might not have it later and you may never find one that fits as well again. Just some random morose food for thought.

 

[madmanmike]

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i remember reading a story about 8 years ago. in the article it said that a 20 year old man met an 87 year old woman and fell in love with her. it was an emotional level most people will never achieve. they got married. when ased why he married her he answered "i want to take care of heruntil she is gone. it doesnt matter that she is older than me. she isnt an old woman or a senior citizen, thas not how i see her. she is the person i love and that is all that will ever matter to me."

so ask yourself why you should be different.

 

[Etoile]

My girlfriend is 12 years older than I am. Daddy is 20 years older. (In fact, that's how our Daddy/girl dynamic developed - e could be my Daddy.) My stepdad is three years YOUNGER than my Daddy.

The original question, "how old is too old," is a matter of personal preference. It's an issue of how old a partner you feel comfortable with, not what anybody else thinks.

 

[GNelson]

What Etoile said.
Don't let the bastards grind you down.
She speaks the truth
A tip o' the hat to Etiole

 

[Etoile]

Heh, thanks. And yeah, non illegitimi carborundum. It's what's in your own heart that matters.

 

[GNelson]

A tip of the hat to Etiole(spelling) sorry

Don't let the bastards grind you down

 

[kitiara]

I would have to say that since orginally you did not have a problem then you are on the right track. It is about what you feel not what you think everyone might think. (Only guessing)

When you met the son you problably thought "I should be dating him becasue he is my age!" Or "This guy could be my father!"

I cosider those thought more a culture influence anyway. My mother dated a guy 10 years yonger than her but 10 years older than me.

He could have dated either one of us when you look at it but it didn't bother me at all.

Plus it is only recently that our society started to look at age differences so closely.

Look at the actors of now adays. Women and men the same are going for the big age differences.

Good guys are hard to come by (and hard guys are good to come by) so don't ruin a good thing over ideas.

Good luck!

 

[anytime1949]

how old is too old

As my father used to say, "Age is a mind over matter, if you don't mind it doesn't matter.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

When I was 19, I dated a guy who was 48, and had a 17 year old daughter. It was a little weird, with the daughter thing, but I adored the hell out of him, and didn't let it get to me. I actually have a thing for father/daughter roleplay, so that worked beautifully with him.

 

[Mary Hall]

Older men are sexy

 

[innocentone]

hey im 26 and would jump alan rickman's bones in a second... hehehe.... ok but only if he kept talking

 

[mellian]

i use a general rule of anyone older than five years of age than me is to old.

-mellian

 

[SadieRose]

But Why...?

i use a general rule of anyone older than five years of age than me is to old.

-mellian

That just narrows the field. What if you meet the perfect SO and he/she's six or seven years older... or even a whole lot more.

It's like saying "I'll only eat the yellow Cheerios, that way I won't get so fat!"



Sadie.xx


"I'm a Bicycle that hasn't had a puncture yet." - Brett Anderson 1994

 

[sigh]

I'm deeply in love with a woman who's a year younger than my mother, and has twin sons just two years younger than me.

It works very, very well. Just thinking of her makes me shine.

 

[mellian]

Re: But Why...?

That just narrows the field. What if you meet the perfect SO and he/she's six or seven years older... or even a whole lot more.

It's like saying "I'll only eat the yellow Cheerios, that way I won't get so fat!"

just a general rule i go by, but doesn't mean it is set in stone.

-mellian

 

[Bitchslapper]

Re: But Why...?

That just narrows the field. What if you meet the perfect SO and he/she's six or seven years older... or even a whole lot more.

It's like saying "I'll only eat the yellow Cheerios, that way I won't get so fat!"

I thought all Cheerios were tan? do you mean Fruit Loops?

Anyway, I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 27, but it's not a problem.

Kitiara, nice legs

 

[innocentone]

of course id jump angelina Jolie's bones too... sigh... its good to be bi....



ok , so I may be tipsy right now... hard day at the J O B.