How old and how far?

[LoveAdvocate]

I'd like to hear about peoples very first sexual experience beyond kissing. For me I was around 7 or 8 years old and it was a neighbor girl. We "played" doctor. We examined each other and felt inside each other. We fondled each others breasts and I was extremely turned on by it. I recently bumped into her and she is also a lesbian. Do you think our your experiences help determine our sexual identity?

LoveAdvocate

 

[Tungwagger]

I'd like to hear about peoples very first sexual experience beyond kissing. For me I was around 7 or 8 years old and it was a neighbor girl. We "played" doctor. We examined each other and felt inside each other. We fondled each others breasts and I was extremely turned on by it. I recently bumped into her and she is also a lesbian. Do you think our your experiences help determine our sexual identity?

LoveAdvocate

I don't know if our childhood experiences determine our sexual identity or not.. I've always known I was heterosexual, and most of my gay friends have said they knew they were gay.

But just a little blurb about my first time, at age 5....A neighbor girl and myself were "playing with each other" in her backyard, and I tried in vain to insert my very flaccid penis into her vagina, while standing.... only able to insert about half of the head....when her muscles contracted around the head, I yanked it out thinking that it was trying to bite me...

And the trooper I am, I tried 3 or 4 more times, all with the same result, until we were rudely interrupted by her mother coming into the backyard and almost catching us...

I'm sure for the fly on the wall, it would have been humorous to see two five year old kids, running for the gate in the fence, yanking britches up as kids are known to do....

Tung

 

[WhiteRose]

when her muscles contracted around the head, I yanked it out thinking that it was trying to bite me...

*LOL* that's too funny

My first kiss was when I was 6. The boy was the son of the woman who owned the hotel we were living in while waiting to move, and it happened in the laundry room and was very innocent. I wish I could remember his name. I played "you show me yours and I'll show you mine" a couple of times with another boy when I was 7, then a 12-year old introduced me to oral sex when I was 8. It was in a tent in my backyard.

I liked it when he did it to me, but I wasn't going to put my mouth on him THERE ewww (hehe) so I wet my thumb in my mouth and rubbed it on him. I'm not sure if he noticed the difference. He told me "an older girl" had taught him about this kind of playing. It only happened twice before my mom caught us in the bathroom, and I never saw him again.

When I was 9, I showed my best friend (a girl) how to masturbate, but I still didn't understand what "sex" was, and it was strictly an instructional session. There weren't any sexual feelings between my best friend and myself. My parents had never (and still haven't) talked about it to me. All my dad's ever said was, "If anything happens, I don't want to know about it." hehe Typical Daddy. My mom still whispers the word "period", and if she HAS to use a word for the genitals or breasts, she says it in Japanese.

But because they never spoke about it to me, they also never told me it was wrong or that I shouldn't have those feelings, so in that way, it was always a very natural thing for me. But...like most young girls in those days, I wasn't interested in "sex" or boys until much later. I was much more interested in riding horses and playing with dolls. I still remember a pact I made with my best friend in 6th grade. We'd never have sex (until marriage, and only if we HAD to), we'd NEVER perform oral sex on a guy, we'd never do drugs or smoke cigarettes or drink alchohol. It took her less than 3 years to break all of our rules

It wasn't until the end of 8th grade that I held hands with a boy, and not until the middle of 9th grade before I engaged in any petting session, and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17 to a very good friend of mine who I'd known for 5 years. I'll always remember his name

 

[heterotic]

I don't think my first went a long way towards developing my identity, but I could be mistaken. I was about 11, with three other boys and a girl, all about the same age, playing in the woods near our house. One of the boys convinced her, in order to join a "club" that he'd just made up on the spot, first to let us each in turn feel her vulva through her pants, then to pull them down and let us get a peek. I had a lot of fun doing it, although I felt very guilty, and the retribution from our parents when she told hers about it (our next-door neighbors) convinced me to stay away from anything even slightly sexual for a long time. Hey, maybe it did influence my development more than I thought.

 

[LoveAdvocate]

Thank you for the replies, it's interesting and I'd love to hear more. If any of you want to expand more also, I'd love to hear how your lives have developed.

 

[zantac666]

Hi my first kiss was when i was 7 the girl push me down and jumped on top of me and started to kiss me she took her tp off and kissed me some more her mother came arund the corner of the house ad chased me out of the yard and spanked her only saw her in school fom then on. The second time was with a 10 yr. old i was still 7 the house we rented had a doll house in the backyard she wanted to play house shetold go outside come in and say honey i'm home i did she came over and kissed me and took my pants and shirt off and she took hers off she took my hand and put it on her pussy and told me to rub it she put her hand on dick and she started to stroke it then my dad opened the door and sent her home when i looked at him he had a bigsmile nd never said anything to my mother. I turned outto be a nice guy who tries to be friendly to everyone and treat them with respect

 

[Guest]

Development since then: Confused, insecure, and wildly experimental--If I was just experimenting with another person, I'd really have it made. Unfortunately, the insecurity precludes that. I guess I'm subconsciously afraid that I'm going to get the dickens spanked out of me again.
And then again, part of me would like that too...

 

[heterotic]

That was me, it'd be a little confusing without knowing that. I don't know why it's not leaving me logged in.

 

[Zidane]

well, sad to say, I have had no experience of that sort whatsoever in my life. :-/ Oh well....
And Zantac, you have a very understanding father. lol

 

[Zidane]

EDIT.

 

[lobito]

the girl across the street from me, same age, maybe 10. Her best friend, and her little sister came across some "men's magazines", and tried to do things that were in the magazines. We all got undressed, and layed in bed, and touched each other, and used our tongues on each other.

Haven't seen any of the sisters in a long time, but a brother of mine, ran into the youngest one, onetime a few years ago, and said she asked how I was doing.

 

[quilesed]

Maybe it did we could never know.

 

[llee69]

Hey there Lover!

Ohh, going back MANY years now...

I cant reall remember if it was strip poker during a sleepover, or if I had already "practiced" with other's by then.

I know it was in first to second grade. so 7 or so?

I do know the first touching, serious kissing, fondling etc was with other boys. Dont really remember how many before I got to do the same with a girl, but it was as many as I cold talk into it...

NOw I am mostly straight. Not gay, not bi, not afraid. I know it doesnt make sense but neither do I most of the time!

 

[KinkyFreakyBi-girl]

I was about 9

My sister was 7. We laid in bed together and had her fondle my breasts, as small as they were, because I wanted to know what it felt like to have it done by someone else.

I also helped my bestfriend at 12 learn to play with herself.

At 14 I let a gir play with my pussy under the sheets in a room full of girls at church camp. I came good.

Fucked my first boy at 18, first full on girl experience at 19.

 

[Notme2]

Was around 9 or 10 I think. I played on a local football team and we won the first game of the year (we sucked) after losing 5 straight. Our coach had the team over his house and had the cheerleaders over too. He had a pretty cool house with a pool table in the basement. The guys were all down there playing and the girls came down. They wanted to play but being young we said no way. One of the girls said they could beat us and wanted to bet. We played for a while and someone said that the next time the boys won the girls would have to show their boobs and if the girls won the guys would have to show them their things. We won, they showed us their little nubs they called boobs. We played again with the same bet for the guys but the girls had to show us their crotch. We won and we got to see some puss for the first time, one of the girls even had some hair which was cool. One guy got to feel a girls boobs but I wasn't him. Went home that night and yanked it for a long time. Funny thing is I lost it (we did anal since no rubber and wrong time) to one of the cheerleaders a few years later in my parents van.

 

[Starfire]

At 7 or 8 I used to play Doctors and Nurses with two girls of a similar age- experimental stuff!

At 11 on a school trip I sat next to a girl. We started to kiss then I daringly reached up under her t-shirt. I asked her if she minded (awww) - she said she didn't because there was nothing there!

At 12/13 eight of us - 4 boys and 4 girls - would go to one of the girl's houses during the school lunch hour. We would strip partially and masturbate each other. This was also my first experience of oral sex - giving and receiving.

At 14 I lost my virginity to an 18 year girl on the creaky top bunk in a room above her parents! Happy memories!!!