How often do you have scenes?

[Rrrosyn]

Consider this like a vanilla "how often do you have sex" poll? No one can sustain a 24/7 scene even if they live the lifestyle 24/7. Even that pushes toward very difficult.

Include all scenes. Even short scenes, like a spanking before bedtime. Mostly interested in people who ae steady with their PLY/ply, though not particular on how many you may have.

Do not include, vanilla sex. Do not just say any time you want to. Most take more time than just putting out the oil and grabbing the flogger of choice. This is work. Like really planned sex. Though not always involving sex.

Oh man I hope that made sense!

 

[Netzach]

normally about once a week to two weeks.

Over the course of the last 10 months, I've been really sick to pretty sick and the number dropped way way way down. I count a spontaneous hairbrush spanking a major scene and I'd say I've only done it three times in this span of time.

My brain finally is thinking deviouisly again.

 

[Rrrosyn]

normally about once a week to two weeks.

Over the course of the last 10 months, I've been really sick to pretty sick and the number dropped way way way down. I count a spontaneous hairbrush spanking a major scene and I'd say I've only done it three times in this span of time.

My brain finally is thinking deviouisly again.

You post faster than I make polls!

I haven't been well this summer. Sub would love a nightly spanking, but we haven't been making it to bed together or at an hour when we have playtime available. I voted 2-3 times a monthly. I go monthly for 2-3 months then weekly for 4-6 weeks.

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Once a week, specifically...Saturday night. Teasey things during the week.

 

[tealsphynx]

Our playtime varies but on average is as few times a week to every couple of weeks. Though when we're not doing big scenes we still do minor teasing and playing in our day to day life.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Once a week, specifically...Saturday night. Teasey things during the week.

I don't know if I could handle a set schedule. Not that I could ever be on one with poor subs work schedule. Barely gets days off (on days we want) to attend munches once a month.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Our playtime varies but on average is as few times a week to every couple of weeks. Though when we're not doing big scenes we still do minor teasing and playing in our day to day life.

Oh yeah. I grope and tease and bite and send him to work hard at least daily. But we don't have actual play as often as that. Gotta be in the mood, ya know?

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

I don't know if I could handle a set schedule. Not that I could ever be on one with poor subs work schedule. Barely gets days off (on days we want) to attend munches once a month.

It gives us something to look forward to, and the kids(grown) know to make themselves scarce. It works for us!

 

[Rrrosyn]

It's so nice to find something that works.

Right now a decent hour for bedtime would work. 4am doesn't count.

I find BDSM scenes are like when I was a kid playing Barbie. Spend all the time laying out the fun stuff, dressing up just right, picking the perfect accessories... and by the time I am done, I don't wanna play anymore. Interest gone.

Short attention span.

 

[Marquis]

I guess including light verbal humiliation, manhandling, that sort of thing? Just about every day, often more.

A full on, these are the rules, you might need your safeword, yadda yadda? Every couple weeks.

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Have him set out the fun stuff?

 

[Rrrosyn]

I guess including light verbal humiliation, manhandling, that sort of thing? Just about every day, often more.

A full on, these are the rules, you might need your safeword, yadda yadda? Every couple weeks.

Great reply. Very precise. Thank you.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Have him set out the fun stuff?

For most scenes I do. It just takes some of the surprise out of it. It's bad enough I cannot over-power him to tie him up, he really has to cooperate or it just won't work. But somehow the spontaneity is lacking when I come into the bedroom to find he's cuffed up himself.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, well I have been told we have more than I often acknowledge and I have to agree now I have been forced this week to contemplate it deeply. Being 24/7 means lots of spontaneous moments as opposed to few planned sessions...and even those are not overworked with planning and preparing partly because I have now set our toys and preparations/repairs up so most are accessible and ready at our fingertips...and there are various things we use for pain throughout the house so it can happen anywhere anytime. Failing toys being at hand, he more often than not relies on his hands and teeth anyway, and they go with us everywhere.

Catalina

 

[Rrrosyn]

LOL, well I have been told we have more than I often acknowledge and I have to agree now I have been forced this week to contemplate it deeply. Being 24/7 means lots of spontaneous moments as opposed to few planned sessions...and even those are not overworked with planning and preparing partly because I have now set our toys and preparations/repairs up so most are accessible and ready at our fingertips...and there are various things we use for pain throughout the house so it can happen anywhere anytime. Failing toys being at hand, he more often than not relies on his hands and teeth anyway, and they go with us everywhere.

Catalina

That (and not having kids or anyone else around) is the only way I can imagine someone doing omething daily. I cannot wait til I can safely set out all the equipment. Right now I cannot even reach it all. I am too short. Keep often used stuff available, but most is in a tacklebox in the top of my closet.

 

[amraam840]

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[mdiaz451]

When I have a session, play time or whatever the BDSM language police tell me it is today... I usually do spanking, get oral, use rope or cuffs, fucking (ass or pussy), maybe flogging, paddling, and more oral then more fucking. The next morning.... get up and do it again, except I start by getting oral...

 

[FurryFury]

Given the work schedules, kids in the house and so on, it's really only possible 2-3 times a week. Unless one of us is sick, that is how often we hit it.

Sometimes we both have low energy nights and just simply fuck.

And rarely, one or both of us is sick and nothing happens, that really, really sucks.

Fury

 

[Rrrosyn]

Well, we don't do anything heavy. No whips and chains :sigh:. But we do play every time we...play. She likes being restrained some way or other and we love spanking/being spanked. We're relatively new to the scene so we like to try new things, but we only get out the cuffs once or twice a month.

While I'm on the topic, what would be a good first-time gag for her? I've seen trainer styles, but I think that's a bit extreme for someone who's new to being gagged. I think my best bet would be the thong style (a heavy string to tie in back of head) from sub-shop.com.

I like a simple strap-gag. Sometimes I just use nylons or bondage tape. But A small ball gag (with the air-hole) on a thong-style strap is always beautiful to look at.

I am anit-gag unless subbie can untie himself somehow. Due to emergencies, etc.

 

[Rrrosyn]

When I have a session, play time or whatever the BDSM language police tell me it is today... I usually do spanking, get oral, use rope or cuffs, fucking (ass or pussy), maybe flogging, paddling, and more oral then more fucking. The next morning.... get up and do it again, except I start by getting oral...

I want your kind of energy! I wake up and it's like... "Go make breakfast..."

 

[Rrrosyn]

Given the work schedules, kids in the house and so on, it's really only possible 2-3 times a week. Unless one of us is sick, that is how often we hit it.

Sometimes we both have low energy nights and just simply fuck.

And rarely, one or boht of us is sick and nothing happens, that really, really sucks.

Fury

Seems the popular answer.

 

[FurryFury]

Seems the popular answer.

Yeah but how I wish we had more time...

I want that kind of energy too!

Fury