How much whipping is to much?

[Demented101]

Is it ever ok to whip a submissive on the ass until she passes out, even if she tells you to do it and really wants it? Not every day, just once a year of so. She says that I have to sometimes really put her in her 'place'. I though it was too rough and have not been able to do it. Any suggestions?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Different people have different pain thresholds obviously.

So, is the passing out going to occur before long lasting damage occurs, or no?

 

[satindesire]

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[Demented101]

She will lie face down on a bed and be securely tied. The whipping will only be on her ass. I will cover her back to prevent hitting her there accidently. She is going to come out of this without the ability to sit down for a week but with no other injuries. I will not permit that, ever. I don't really want to do this.

We have a rubber hose thing called a Loopy Johnny. It consists of 5 short loops of rubber hose and a handle. She says it hurts like hell but does not cut. It has not done so in the past although we have never gone this far. NO safe word! She does not want it.
This maybe too intense for me, but she wants it and so it will be.
In many ways she rule this relationship.

Somehow rule from the bottom works for us. Strange.

 

[CutieMouse]

She will lie face down on a bed and be securely tied. The whipping will only be on her ass. I will cover her back to prevent hitting her there accidently. She is going to come out of this without the ability to sit down for a week but with no other injuries. I will not permit that, ever. I don't really want to do this.

So don't.

We have a rubber hose thing called a Loopy Johnny. It consists of 5 short loops of rubber hose and a handle. She says it hurts like hell but does not cut. It has not done so in the past although we have never gone this far. NO safe word! She does not want it.

That's nice - do YOU want/need her to have a safe word?

This maybe too intense for me, but she wants it and so it will be.
In many ways she rule this relationship.

Somehow rule from the bottom works for us. Strange.

*twitch*

 

[Bandit58]

Is it ever ok to whip a submissive on the ass until she passes out, even if she tells you to do it and really wants it? Not every day, just once a year of so. She says that I have to sometimes really put her in her 'place'. I though it was too rough and have not been able to do it. Any suggestions?

Dominants are allowed to have limits too you know - so if you really don't want to do it, then don't!

Sir had a sub once who wanted Him to beat her until she bled. He told her he wouldn't/couldn't do it....she found someone else who would, but His conscience was clear.

This maybe too intense for me, but she wants it and so it will be.
In many ways she rule this relationship.

Somehow rule from the bottom works for us. Strange.

Doesn't sound like it is working for you right now does it

 

[Kierae]

I am a masochist whereas my spouse isn't. Beating the hell out of me was initially not his thing by any means (he is dominant whereas I switch). He dictated the amount of pain he dished out, not me. With time, he learned how to push the envelope AND actually got something out of it because let's face it - we all can channel some of that excess energy we all build up with the stressors in life. I learned patience and to accept to whatever I get dealt. He did figure out that I needed a certain amount of release or I would "pop" which isn't a necessarily a good thing (hello I switch and a session can turn into a battle).

You are the dominant? Do what is comfortable for you and don't push beyond your limits. Figure out ways to meet hers if that is important to you but don't push beyond your own limits.

 

[justjon]

If you REALLY don't wan't to do this to her, then don't, sounds to me like you like hurting her but not that much, whereas she seems like the kind of person that would be better off in a violent relationship. maybe i'm wrong though.
If my wife wanted me to do that to her, i'm not sure i could....everybody has some kind of limit.

I'm still looking for mine though!

 

[Etoile]

I agree with what others have said - if you don't want to do this, DON'T DO IT. Are you sure she's the submissive? Sounds to me like she's the Domme and just happens to enjoy bottoming (that is, being the receiver) once in a while.

For those who are curious, here's the Loopy Johnny:
http://www.aswgt.com/loopy.html

 

[fma30f]

hi

I like to submit till I can take it no more. I love it when I am reminded of it when ever I sit on the toilet for the next whole week. I like to view the lines in the mirror.

 

[YourCaptor]

Is it ever ok to whip a submissive on the ass until she passes out, even if she tells you to do it and really wants it? Not every day, just once a year of so. She says that I have to sometimes really put her in her 'place'. I though it was too rough and have not been able to do it. Any suggestions?

Well, to be honest, you can whip people with serious force for hours. It just depends on how many injuries and permanent marks you are ok with.

 

[Homburg]

For those who are curious, here's the Loopy Johnny:
http://www.aswgt.com/loopy.html

Jumping jesus on a pogo, that looks nasty.

 

[working_girl]

She says that I have to sometimes really put her in her 'place'.

But you're not are you? She is not submitting to you in this, you are submitting to her. How can this possibly 'put her in her place?' I think you need to sit down and figure out what the point of this little exercise really is.

This maybe too intense for me, but she wants it and so it will be.
In many ways she rule this relationship.

Somehow rule from the bottom works for us. Strange.

If this is what you both want then as others have said, you're really not a dominant. She bottoms to you (is masochistic but without ceding control) and you top her in return without any real D/s happening.

If she really wants this and she is in control of how much of it she takes then I don't see how you can hold yourself responsible for hurting her. Having said that, if injuries do occur and a trip to hospital ever results you're going to have some explaining to do.

My advice? Give her the whip and let her wallop herself until she passes out. That way, everybody's happy.

 

[Chiisai_Neko]

Sounds to me like she's the Domme and just happens to enjoy bottoming (that is, being the receiver) once in a while.

I agree. Yes, submissives have set limits which Doms/Dommes don't usually cross (unless they suck at being a Dominant and don't care about their sub's well-being), but Doms/Dommes have limits that they don't want to cross, either. And, if the Dom/Domme's limits happen to be "less intense" than the sub's then the sub goes with the Dom/Domme's limits. The Dom/Domme is supposed to be in control.

Of course, sub or Domme, your lady isn't being cool about this, at all. It sounds like she's trying to force you to do something you genuinely do not under any circumstances want to do. If it really makes you that uncomfortable, you shouldn't have to do it. Plain and simple.

And, to me, not having a safe word in a situation like that is an extremely bad idea. Being whipped (or anything else) to the point of unconsciousness is pretty heavy stuff and it could do lasting damage, even if you don't mean to.