How much sex is normal?

[Kemet]

Forgive me for asking another question like this, but I have little experience overall with sex. How much sex does the average person have per day? I was also wondering how many orgasms females usually have per sexual encounter. I have one more question then I am done for now . I wanted to see hour long the average encounter lasted. Me and my fiance( I asked she said yes ) have sex on average about once a day, we are hoping to increase this when we get more privacy, and gauging what she tells me and by watching her reactions I would say that she has around 15-20 orgasms in a round of sex for us(that is about 2 hours).I was wondering if my performance is up to par, according to her it is, and I believe her. I just wanted to get some second opinions. Thanks so much, and sorry to bother you all with my silly questions .

 

[Sarah_C]

How much sex does the average person have per day?

From what I have seen, most men in their late teens and their twenties have some sort of sex between once and three times a day - this includes masturbation and sex with a partner.

As you get older, this tends to drop off a little in many men.

I know less about "average" women, but I have some sort of sex somewhere between 3 and 5 times a week.

But I only see my partner 2 nights a week, and I vasty prefer partnered sex to masturbation.

I was also wondering how many orgasms females usually have per sexual encounter.

That depends totally on who the woman is and how she is feeling that day.

I can have 15 - 20 orgasms in a partnered sex session, but sometimes I prefer to have only one.

Some women cannot orgasm during PIV sex. Some cannot orgasm during any partnered sex. Some cannot orgasm at all. And some prefer to have only one orgasm per sex session.

I have one more question then I am done for now . I wanted to see hour long the average encounter lasted. Me and my fiance( I asked she said yes )

Congratulations!

have sex on average about once a day, we are hoping to increase this when we get more privacy,

Yes, privacy is a big factor in how often and how... exhuberantly a couple will have sex. For the first year or so, anyway *grin*

and gauging what she tells me and by watching her reactions I would say that she has around 15-20 orgasms in a round of sex for us(that is about 2 hours).I was wondering if my performance is up to par,

*eyebrow* You know it is. You're fishing for compliments here

As for how long sex lasts, agains that depends on 1) what both people want 2) how much time they have 3) how quickly the man comes and 4) How willing the man is to keep pleasing his partner until he gets his erection back

according to her it is, and I believe her. I just wanted to get some second opinions. Thanks so much, and sorry to bother you all with my silly questions .

I like questions. They help people learn things.

 

[Kemet]

I am honestly not fishing for compliments(although I wouldn't mind ) My last girl told me that I was ABSOLUTLELY HORRIBLE IN BED (her own words) It has taken me a long time to get over that, that is why I ask questions like this.

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Your questions aren't silly at all, Kemet. How do we learn if we don't ask questions?

How often you have sex per day usually depends on your age, and how new your relationship is. People in their 20's tend to have sex more often than people in their 60's. Also, when the relationship is new, and you're all hot for each other, it will be more often. After awhile, that tapers off....

If your fiance is having 15-20 orgasms per session, I'd say you're doing just fine!

My hubby and I have been together for almost 24 years, and are happy having sex once or twice a week. I remember on our wedding night, we "did it" 8 times. So, you see, age and ummm......comfort zone have alot to do with it.

 

[Kemet]

Well me and my fiance have been together for 3 years now, but our intensity actually started out slow and built up overtime(getting better everyday) I am hoping that things will get better in a more private setting, that is why I am taking her out on a romantic getaway this weekend to celebrate "us" .

 

[Chuckwrox]

*How much sex does the average person have per day?
*I was also wondering how many orgasms females usually have per sexual encounter.
* I wanted to see hour long the average encounter lasted.
*Me and my fiance( I asked she said yes )

Congradulations on your impending marriage!

In about 15 yrs I've had about 20 partners. It could be that I am a rotten lover or the women I'm sleeping with, but a typcial session usually gets her off 1-3 times and once for me over the course of about an hour, I guess. I think I've read that the average married couple, and I don't recall the ages, has sex a couple of times per week. This sounds like starvation, to me, but I'm sure it floats their boats.

That puts you firmly into the 'Voracious Young Animals' category! Double-congradulations! Good onya!, as they say Down Under.

 

[woody54]

..... How much sex does the average person have per day? I was also wondering how many orgasms females usually have per sexual encounter.

Your own libido's/ sex drive directs how much sex you have. For some they are at it like rabbits, life is one big feeding frenzy. Others get a lucky break every now and again. It all depends on your joint level of interest.
Of course younger people are more active sexually but there are many "oldies" who still maintain a pretty active sex life.

I dont think there is such a thing as usual for how many orgasms a woman will have in a session.. There are so many contributing factors. Lets just say it ranges from none to "Oh God, I have to stop now".
You will know if you please her

 

[Bobmi357]

Congrats on your upcoming marriage.

As to the frequency of orgasms, my wife prefers only a few. It is possible for her to have many, many more, but not without her hobbling about the next day feeling like she's just spent 40yrs sitting in a saddle. On average I would say she usually has three or so before we even start with PIV sex, then she ends up with one or two more. She's one of the lucky gals that can come from PIV sex.

In regard to how frequently, well it sorta goes like this. When you're young, in your 20's, you can screw like bunnies and still get up after 3 hours sleep and work a full day. As you get older that ability goes out the window.

People change as they get older. In someways the sex gets better, and sometimes it gets worse. There isn't anyway of really telling how it will go for you, its just something you will have to live through.

Sex should be up there in your top five reasons for being with this woman, but I wouldn't make the mistake of putting it at #1.

 

[Kemet]

As for reasons on being with her sex falls at #6(some of her other qualities pushed it down one ore two)

 

[Lust Engine]

One person's definition of normal might not be for somebody elses. I think each couple has their own frequency & what's right for them. If the mood hits you- go for it. If it doesn't- then lay off. Whatever strikes your fancy is normal for you guys.

 

[CelticFrog]

Well...
like others have said... it's all up to you and your fiancee's preferences.

My husband and I slowed to almost once a week (ugh) for a while. So our New Year's Resolution (one of them) has been to have sex every day for at least 30 days. I'm sore already, and we started the 3rd. However, it's a happy sore, and I haven't been this satisfied and exuberant in a long time.

The number of orgasms is varied with every encounter. At least that's how I am.

All those damn variables.

Ang

 

[handlebars69]

Re: Re: How much sex is normal?

Some women cannot orgasm during PIV sex. Some cannot orgasm during any partnered sex. Some cannot orgasm at all. And some prefer to have only one orgasm per sex session.

im one of the ones who cant with other people... dunno why just happens

 

[James G 5]

If you're getting married, expect any numbers tro drop to almost nothing
Marriage virtually always (note I said VIRTUALLY) ruins sex

 

[Kemet]

Then I will have to put alot of energy into making sure that doesn't happen . In any case I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl, in, out, or in between the bed.

 

[James G 5]

Then I will have to put alot of energy into making sure that doesn't happen . In any case I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl, in, out, or in between the bed.

No offense, but you're TWENTY
getting married now is mental, IMHO
Life will change SO much for you....

*sigh*
there should be a law, no marriage before 25

 

[Kemet]

Hey I am not getting married for 2 more years and even then I am not starting a family for quite some time.

 

[CelticFrog]

Kemet, don't be insulted by James's opinions. They have been and continue to be well founded and based on LOTS of experience.

I got married at 21. Our relationship is great. But a lot of early marriages do NOT end up like mine.


Ang

 

[Kemet]

Sorry if I was a bit defensive . Just meant to say that I know that I love her

 

[James G 5]

Sorry if I was a bit defensive . Just meant to say that I know that I love her

Oh, don't misunderstand me
I never questioned the validity of your love
I just know that it's not always enough to sustain a RELATIONSHIP

 

[BlueSugar]

Forgive me for asking another question like this, but I have little experience overall with sex. How much sex does the average person have per day? I was also wondering how many orgasms females usually have per sexual encounter. I have one more question then I am done for now . I wanted to see hour long the average encounter lasted. Me and my fiance( I asked she said yes ) have sex on average about once a day, we are hoping to increase this when we get more privacy, and gauging what she tells me and by watching her reactions I would say that she has around 15-20 orgasms in a round of sex for us(that is about 2 hours).I was wondering if my performance is up to par, according to her it is, and I believe her. I just wanted to get some second opinions. Thanks so much, and sorry to bother you all with my silly questions .

Depends on the person's schedule really. Speaking for myself, once a day is nice, twice a day is better, anymore then that would be fine but a break is hot too because then the wait and the sex after the wait ..mmm..

CONGRATS on the fiance!
And your performance is wonderful
Good luck keeping up to that as your years go by

 

[BlueSugar]

delete double post

note to self: never hit refresh!

 

[BlueSugar]

stupid blacking out on me tripple post.

 

[James G 5]

Obviously for Blue Sugar 3 times in a night is no trouble


for posting, anyway

 

[DirtyJJ]

Well me and my fiance have been together for 3 years now, but our intensity actually started out slow and built up overtime(getting better everyday) I am hoping that things will get better in a more private setting, that is why I am taking her out on a romantic getaway this weekend to celebrate "us" .

Kemet,
It's very sweet that you think this way - it IS important to take time out to celebrate 'us'. If you continue to feel that way you are ahead of the game. And many people don't take time to do that, especially when they are married. Listen to James. Marriage can put a damper on sex over the years, but it doesn't have to. You really have to work at it and keep sex important though, because it can be hard to keep it exciting as time goes on.

As for how well you are doing, frequency and number of orgasms sounds like more than enough. This is coming from a girl who has sex 2-4 times a week and 0-1 orgasm per encounter. I almost can't believe it's possible to have 15-20 in an encounter. I really must be missing out.


Don't let this happen to you.....
DirtyJJ

 

[quickfoot]

This question is hard to answer, what is normal? For the normal family with 2.5 children involved?

Some people like to have sex twice a day, some people have sex once a week, once a month, more than that and are fine with that.

The question is are you and your partner satisfied with the quantity and quallity of the sex you are having?

For us and I'm sure for other people to it flows, sometimes neither of us feels like having sex sometimes we go like bunnies sometimes we have pretty regular sex.

I agree marriage is not something to be entered into lightly, it is a lot of hard work and it has its price. But when you are married with the right person it is more than worth it. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage there are a lot of people who still love each other who get divorced. I always say married with someone because it is something you are committed to with someone, not to someone.

Sex does tend to decrease once you've been together for a while whether you get married or not but it doesn't have to continue to decrease. There are many fun things you can do, some people just seem to have given up or gotten too busy for eachother.

Congratulations on your engagement, one thing some people do is seek pre marriage counseling, not because they have problems but to learn how to deal with them when they come up, you will have them at some point.

Anyway congratulations again.