How many women...

[naughtytigerldy]

have never had an orgasm?

 

[Lavared]

Do you mean self-induced or otherwise or both?

 

[naughtytigerldy]

An orgasm either way...

 

[naughtytigerldy]

Additional information requested...

I'm hoping that this forum will help give me some answers as to what can be done to remedy the situation. I'm a 31 yo female who's never had an orgasm, self-induced or otherwise. I wanted to find out if I'm the only one in this "predicament" and what other people recommend for ways to experience one.

 

[Enji]

it depends on the woman.. and i think that you trying to force yourself to have one doesn't really help

 

[Lavared]

I'm a 31 yo female who's never had an orgasm, self-induced or otherwise. I wanted to find out if I'm the only one in this "predicament" and what other people recommend for ways to experience one.

Oh dear.

Are you sure you haven't had one and not realized it? I would start with a visit to your ob/gyn just to make sure everything is in order.

 

[chickman44]

Sometimes ya' gotta be patient and persistent...

The last chick I fucked took close to four hours to come. She was nervous and it had been a long time for her. It was our first time and I wasn't sure what moves got her off. I tried my hands, tongue and cock in every position I could think of and almost gave up. Eventually we got there and she was SO grateful for the release. After that, she would come relatively quickly (10 minutes or so).

Take your time and enjoy the ride... Once you find a patient and persistent partner your first O will happen.

 

[naughtytigerldy]

Thanks for the feedback. Yes I'm sure I've never had one and I've already spoken with my gyn. She told me that it's not uncommon for women to not experience orgasms and that there wasn't anything wrong.

 

[bush59]

Maybe you are a Nun or something........are you in a relationship? Are you attracted to men/women....What about your upbringing? Let us have some information......you dont give away too much......perhaps that is the problem?

 

[Lavared]

Thanks for the feedback. Yes I'm sure I've never had one and I've already spoken with my gyn. She told me that it's not uncommon for women to not experience orgasms and that there wasn't anything wrong.

Well that bites! The not uncommon to not experience them part I mean.

Have you tried using a vibrator? Also, if your brain isn't into sex it's not likely your body will be. Getting yourself extremely horny before and during via fantasies, porn or whatever works for you always helps if you're masturbating; being hot for your partner helps if you're not.

I really think sex starts in your mind.

 

[DrRamulak]

common, but...

Thanks for the feedback. Yes I'm sure I've never had one and I've already spoken with my gyn. She told me that it's not uncommon for women to not experience orgasms and that there wasn't anything wrong.

The question is, do you really play with your self? I agree with the previous poster who said it just takes some women getting to it the first time, and after that it comes easier. But... I've found that even really inexperienced women who masturbate have a much easier time coming, just because they know what does it for them. So... do you?

Just a guess, but maybe your parents and family and maybe even culture don't really recognize a woman's sexual pleasure or even acknowledge sex?

If I were you, I'd start with a visit to a woman-owned sex toy store. They can give you some advice.

 

[naughtytigerldy]

Lol, no I am not a nun. I am not currently in a relationship but I have been in serious relationships in the past (with the same man for over 3 years) and we tried different positions (but not with any toys). I really enjoy sex and I think I have a high sex drive. I must admit that until recently, I didn't enjoy receiving oral sex, but that has changed as I have gotten older. I had a fine upbringing, meaning that sex wasn't taboo. Quite the contrary, I was able to talk to my mother about sex. I think that covers it, any other questions??

 

[Eilan]

I think that you'll have better luck with this issue if you go to the How To forum. There's a wonderful resource over there called The Blank Manual that might help you. IIRC, there were a couple of recent threads about this on that board, but you might have to go back a few pages to find them.

Hope that helps.

 

[Ashleey]

have never had an orgasm?

Are you using clitoral stimulation? I, personally, don't cum vaginally, only clitorally...so the vibe is my best friend!! An active tongue or talented fingers will do it too, but it takes a long time!! Have you tried a vibe on your clit? or even multiple vibes ?

 

[LucyLush]

I didnt when i first started having sex... but after a bit of practice its now not a problem.
Never had a problem having an orgasm when masturbating tho....

 

[bigbobuk]

State of Mind

I empahise with you. My partner is in a similar predicament.

Unfortunately some people, have hang up about bodily fluids, noises during sex, fear of embarrassment, and obviously anxiety sets in when you are trying but it is not happening. You end up getting frustrated and then it will not happen.

I have had no problems with majority of partners, but currently not having much joy even after several years?

Probably don't help much, other than maybe trying to lower your inhibitions somewhat, so you can relax enjoy the sex, and it will happen. Fingers on the G-Spot helps with inducing a gush/squirt, you may then be on the way to a full on O