How long does it take you to make the ultimate move??

[Guest]

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I live in SE Tn and married my wife 5 months to the day of our first date. Mom and dad got married 3 months after their first date, but my sis was engaged for well over a year so I am not sure it matters. I suppose its more of a feeling that "this is the right one". At least it was in my case, funny I knew after three or four dates she'd become my wife, but I knew by then how much she liked sex and figured I'd be a damn fool to run her off like I had done the others

 

[pipercatt]

Almost every relationship I've had started out knowing that there was something there right from the start.

Ready for a commitment, though, is something different, but for me, relatively early on in the relationship.

Oh, and I am in the Chicago area. Spent most of my life here, with 2 small stints in the San Francisco area.

 

[intrigued]

No, actually I move so much more slowly based on location.
When I first started these online interactions in terms of forming relationships, I posted on the Yahoo boards and though many things I said got alot of kudos, one thing always met with negativity. I often commented that when it comes to finding a real love, one that you know in your soul gives you everything you want and need, that nothing would keep me from them, unless maybe they lived in another country, that was really my only limitation. I was such a hopeless and niave romantic that I truly believed my words.
Now, after having joined 4 personals sites and finding Lit, and having been contacted by easily over 100 men, I have found myself eating my words in a very painful way. Location matters! We all know why, its just that it took me a very long time to face it. I have wanted so to believe that love would be bigger than anything...but its almost pointless to even attempt anything when you are distanced by more than a couple hundred miles. I've lost alot of friendships, just giving up.

I am at a point of tremendous frustration, and often feel like giving up and turning off this computer. I want my friendships, but its so hard to keep meeting guys that show such interest in me when I know...I just know, its not going anywhere because of geography. Don't know what I'll do, its not even a matter of going day by day anymore, its moment by moment.

Now, to answer the question more specifically, I could not vote because there is no schedule to comittment, its as individual as we are.

Oh, I'm in upstate SC, and I grew up here.

 

[Trail48]

I am at a point of tremendous frustration, and often feel like giving up and turning off this computer. I want my friendships, but its so hard to keep meeting guys that show such interest in me when I know...I just know, its not going anywhere because of geography. Don't know what I'll do, its not even a matter of going day by day anymore, its moment by moment.


Do not give up......i met someone from Las Vegas.......I'm from Chicago...... took about 6 mo. but we did get together (long story). I really suspect that guys have fun meeting people online because there is so little risk of actual commitment. There is a HUGE difference between saying I love you online and looking into someones eyes and saying the same thing.

For what its worth Connie, there is just something about you that is very attractive, your pics and words really touch me. If they represent you truly, you must be some kinda lady, and yes I would pick up and fly to SC to find out.... (feeling like a schoolboy here.....lol )

 

[intrigued]

I am at a point of tremendous frustration, and often feel like giving up and turning off this computer. I want my friendships, but its so hard to keep meeting guys that show such interest in me when I know...I just know, its not going anywhere because of geography. Don't know what I'll do, its not even a matter of going day by day anymore, its moment by moment.


Do not give up......i met someone from Las Vegas.......I'm from Chicago...... took about 6 mo. but we did get together (long story). I really suspect that guys have fun meeting people online because there is so little risk of actual commitment. There is a HUGE difference between saying I love you online and looking into someones eyes and saying the same thing.

For what its worth Connie, there is just something about you that is very attractive, your pics and words really touch me. If they represent you truly, you must be some kinda lady, and yes I would pick up and fly to SC to find out.... (feeling like a schoolboy here.....lol )

I am very touched, thank you kindly. And yes, this is me, I know no other way to be.
I have met alot of guys here, but theres always something...usually they are married, or they only want to play, or we're just friends. I want a relationship of potential, but it just isn't happening. And worse, it isn't happening in my offline life...which leaves me just STUCK.

Thank you, again.