how is older better?

[UKrock]

Hi i'm a young guy of 22, I hear that older women are supposedly good (wish to try one day soonish) and for women older men are good.

1: Any stories (big age gaps are a turn on)?

2: what is it that makes an older lover better?

3: can i have some tips on how to make love like "an experianced slightly older guy" to please the women i'm with?

 

[Bbare45]

Lots of stories around. Plenty here and on other sites as well.

As for the other two questions,

What makes an older woman a better lover? Two words jump to the front of my mind; the first is EXPERIENCE. They've been there and done that. They KNOW what THEY like and they KNOW how to do it. Remember back to your first time with a woman? Remember the fumbling? none of that's there, They know how to get a shirt off, how to strip, how to....

The second word is : patience. Since they've had all of this experience, they are much more patient about things. They WANT it to feel good. For them as for you. They will tell you what they like, listen and do what they say. They are open to you saying what YOU like. They'll listen and do because THAT makes it good for you, that also makes it good for them.

What can you do to seem like an 'older' lover? Simple, pay attention to her. Forget your own pleasure for a while, hell, forget it for a LONG while. Consentrate on her pleasure. And above all, GO SLOW. This isn't a race. Think stroll in the park, not the Indy 500.
Want to be good at oral? simple, start at one end and work your way to the middle. When you get there, pass up the 'good' spot(s) and work your way up to the other end. When you get THERE, reverse course and head back for the middle.
Patience and attention to them will win you rewards beyond anything you've ever experienced.

Anyone else have any critique on my comments? or just comments in general?

 

[Lorelei_11]

Great advice Bbare, Personally I want them to get to the sweet spot a bit quicker. Thats not a problem though because I'd let the guy know. In general, its very good advice. I think men get turned on way faster than most women. Then they assume we are into the same speed as them.

 

[Guttergoddess]

I'm with Bbare here....older lovers realize that there is no such thing as a quickie. I prefer older guys, always have. My reasons aren't just sexual though...out of the bedroom, older guys have more to offer. They've seen the world, have views on subjects more diverse than the Superbowl, and which beer to pick up for the kegger on Friday night. (not that all young guys are that shallow...just my experience....remember, the last time I was with a younger guy...I was a teenager!)

In the bedroom...and older guy knows that the woman's pleasure comes first. He knows how to make her feel sexy (even when she's not so sure) He knows that words mean alot (remember guys, while you are visual, most woman are aural, we like to hear or read stuff..it turns us on). He knows that most women have the ability to orgasm multiple times, and he's rarely satisfied with just one.

I happen to LOVE giving oral. I've had older guys apologize because they're "slow". Guess what...IF I wanted to suck something for 30 seconds and be done with it, I wouldn't have gone for your cock. I'dve picked up a tootsie pop. 1-2-3 CRUNCH. I enjoy the feel of a cock in my mouth, the feel of blood coursing through the veins, the slippery texture on my tongue, feeling it hit my throat, seeing if I can swallow it whole. HEARING a guy moan, hearing his breathing get faster, knowing that I'm the cause of that....

 

[Bbare45]

Lorelei,

That's what the ropes and cuffs are for

 

[goodolbloke]

Sigh this is the problem with being young. We young men are often written off as quick and uncaring. Not that bothers 99% of guys but damnit being an exception sucks! Yeah I do care about the Superbowel (to an extent) but I'm more likely to talk about what books I'm reading or some new concept on how the world may work. And I will always prefer a woman with a brain then a killer body, and when we do get to pleasing each other I will take as long as it takes to please her because if I was just worried about pleasing myself I can masterbate, plus I know as a whole she will be concerned with pleasing me so it all works out in the end. This isn't a real angry response may just sound that way, but it can be quite frustrating, that's all.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Lorelei,

That's what the ropes and cuffs are for

lol.... I see your point.

but... I don't like to be teased that much. A bit of teasing... yessssssssssss.

Oh, and ropes and cuffs are good. Well, actually silk scarved would be better to be tied to the bed to. I want something I can get out of should I want to. I just want the feeling of being tied, the fantasy.

 

[flyrv9]

Older lovers are better....

Us older lovers are better because we have experience (mentioned above) we take our time, and we communicate while in bed. Also, we know our days are numbered, so we are making the best of the time we have left!

 

[Eilan]

Other than my ex-husband, who's my age, my partners have been at least 6 years older than I am. My husband's 16 years older than I am. I wasn't necessarily looking for an older partner, but the timing and chemistry were right, and I have to admit that he's pretty much spoiled me for anyone else.

I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, but if I were, I likely wouldn't seek a partner who was significantly younger than I am. I have neither the time nor the inclination to "teach" someone else, nor do I wish to be a notch on someone's bedpost simply because of my age.

 

[Ironfistvk]

to put it short for me conversation, experience (in everything not just sex), laugh lines (drools at the laugh lines around the eyes), love handles (seriously get some flesh on the hips dont want bones) and never the least good cooks (pats his stomach)

 

[UKrock]

Thanks Bbare45 for your comments, I think I'm probably 95%... ok perhaps 75% but think more of the way there like goodolbloke.

I'm held back by my girlfreinds selofconsiousness at time more than my own (I'm always 100% honest).

My difficultie with speed is that I don't see my girlfriend regularly enough. mostly only weekends so a good deal of our sex is frantic quickies cos we haven't seen each other.

roaps and cuffs? Ohhhhhhh god yes i love them.

 

[zammius]

Lots of stories around. Plenty here and on other sites as well.

As for the other two questions,

What makes an older woman a better lover? Two words jump to the front of my mind; the first is EXPERIENCE. They've been there and done that. They KNOW what THEY like and they KNOW how to do it. Remember back to your first time with a woman? Remember the fumbling? none of that's there, They know how to get a shirt off, how to strip, how to....

The second word is : patience. Since they've had all of this experience, they are much more patient about things. They WANT it to feel good. For them as for you. They will tell you what they like, listen and do what they say. They are open to you saying what YOU like. They'll listen and do because THAT makes it good for you, that also makes it good for them.

What can you do to seem like an 'older' lover? Simple, pay attention to her. Forget your own pleasure for a while, hell, forget it for a LONG while. Consentrate on her pleasure. And above all, GO SLOW. This isn't a race. Think stroll in the park, not the Indy 500.
Want to be good at oral? simple, start at one end and work your way to the middle. When you get there, pass up the 'good' spot(s) and work your way up to the other end. When you get THERE, reverse course and head back for the middle.
Patience and attention to them will win you rewards beyond anything you've ever experienced.

Anyone else have any critique on my comments? or just comments in general?

i would add that ro the most part older women know how to let themselves revel in their passion and enjoy it without guilt

and older men are more into driving the womens passion for their own enjoyment

 

[Lorelei_11]

i would add that ro the most part older women know how to let themselves revel in their passion and enjoy it without guilt

and older men are more into driving the womens passion for their own enjoyment

Well said, I totally agree. Older guys are great.

 

[julian61model]

Speaking now as a guy married and in his forties I fondly remember a time when I had sex with an older woman.

I was 23 I think and she was about 37, I wasn't that experienced and to be honest I probably didn't do her justice. We met at a friend's wedding (I was single but also the best man!). We were dancing together when the lights failed and in the darkness she pulled me closer and pinched my arse and then fondled my balls, my cock was already hardening when they restored the power!

We arranged to meet for a drink and of course I was desperate to get her into bed. Strangely she avoided the subject of sex until we got back to her place and looking back I suppose it was me who really wanted it more, although when we started kissing she did respond quickly, and told me we were going upstairs.

I stripped for her, while she lay on the bed and then she let me take her clothes off, kissing and licking her nips and fingering her clit I also tried my best to give her oral but she didn't want it and instead pulled me on top and we had sex in the missionary position. It didn't take long for me to cum and I shot a stream inside her and I remember her clasping my butt cheeks and pulling me deeper as I ejaculated. It was lovely but I really wanted her to cum too.

As I say she wouldn't let me do oral and when I was hard again she wanted penetration, unfortunately she couldn't climax though she assured me she had enjoyed it. Anyway, it was an experience that I won't forget.

Jules

 

[fluffer12c]

Having enjoyed the ministrations of older lovers I have to agree with everyone else's feedback.

I was also curious about the age difference between lovers and if you check out this thread you'll find some interesting feedback

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=15954622#post15954622

 

[Parris]

I'm with Bbare here....older lovers realize that there is no such thing as a quickie. I prefer older guys, always have. My reasons aren't just sexual though...out of the bedroom, older guys have more to offer. They've seen the world, have views on subjects more diverse than the Superbowl, and which beer to pick up for the kegger on Friday night. (not that all young guys are that shallow...just my experience....remember, the last time I was with a younger guy...I was a teenager!)

While I totally believe in the occasional hard and nasty quickie, I'd way rather have one with a man in his 50s or 60s than with a man in his 20s or 30s. My preference has always been for older men because they tend to have more charm, finesse, and conversational ability in and out of the bedroom. I have tons of fun simply flirting with older men. The thing I enjoy most about having sex with an older man is making him feel so good that I'm able to see a boyish sparkle in his eyes. I appreciate what he gives me and he appreciates what I give him. It's the best of all worlds.

~Parris

 

[new_dreams_13]

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[Lorelei_11]

Not that Im against younger men, there are always the exceptions.

I find older men are great though. They take their time getting to know me. I feel connected with them because they talk about their lives, what they've learned and experienced. They're not afraid to get intimate, and verbally let you really know who they are.

Sexually, they take it slow and are more concerned wth the pleasure of the women. They have more experience, they take it slow. I need a slow pace. They are more comfortable sexually, and I need an easy going relaxed sexual experience. I need someone that is a friend to me also, not just mainly a lover.

Of course, even with these qualities, there has to be the physical attraction, and the compatability with each other in and out of the bedroom.

 

[nightridernj]

Older have more experience and understand others better.

 

[dixie50]

I agree...

I find older men are great though. They take their time getting to know me. I feel connected with them because they talk about their lives, what they've learned and experienced. They're not afraid to get intimate, and verbally let you really know who they are.

Sexually, they take it slow and are more concerned wth the pleasure of the women. They have more experience, they take it slow. Of course, even with these qualities, there has to be the physical attraction, and the compatability with each other in and out of the bedroom.[/QUOTE


with you totally Lorelie. Give me an "older" gentleman.

 

[Lorelei_11]

with you totally Lorelie. Give me an "older" gentleman.[/QUOTE]

They are the best.

 

[Mrs.P]

I think with age comes acceptance of yourself and being comfortable in your own skin and with that comes less inhibitions.

...and there's that sweet crease on the back of his neck

 

[mslv4Her]

I'm just hoping for an opportunity to show some sweet young thing how good of an older lover I am.

 

[rydia57]

IMHO, seems like older guys may be more experienced at sex, but alot of them don't like trying anything new in sex.... I've also noticed some of them don't like going down on a girl. It makes them... uncomfortable.

 

[mslv4Her]

IMHO, seems like older guys may be more experienced at sex, but alot of them don't like trying anything new in sex.... I've also noticed some of them don't like going down on a girl. It makes them... uncomfortable.

Not me. I like new things....I'm sure I haven't tried nearly enough......and I do like going down on a girl.....I get really excited thinking about how I'm pleasing her!