How hard are you...

[Gamelover221]

....on yourself?

I just finished making a batch of maccaroni for myself and one of my roomies. I asked him how it was and he seemed to like it. I thought it was severly lacking. I gave him the opportunity to criticize me when I criticized myself by saying I think I added too much milk. He responded again with a positive reply.

I was totally puzzled...did he honestly like it made that way, or was he just trying to be polite? I was very angry at myself for making such an under-par serving, but then I wondered if maybe it was just me? How many of you out there are your own harshest critics? I seem to judge a bit too often and too extreme, mostly myself. Anyone with me?

 

[Guest]

I'm always my own worst critic.

 

[Siren]

Are you a perfectionist by any chance?

 

[Shaq]

I'm pretty hard on myself with my personal relationships...

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Dude .. its just maccaroni

 

[perks]

it's never *just* mac and cheese

 

[naudiz]

I am my worst critic. Everything I do seems sub-par to me. There's always this niggling doubt that I could've done better. There is no such thing as 'good enough' when it comes to myself. My standards for other people are generous. I don't expect perfection from them, but from myself, if I know I could've done better, then it's hard not to equate imperfection with failure.

I'm getting over it, but it's still hard not to look back on past endeavors and cringe, whether it be writing, posting, drawing or throwing together a dinner. On one hand it's a bonus because I'm always striving to improve. On the other hand, it makes me one of those neurotic people who can't take praise.

 

[Rubyfruit]

First of all, GL you sexy young stud, never, ever add as much milk as they tell you with mac and cheese. It will always be soupy that way. Just a dollop of milk will do, ok?

 

[Private Vasquez]

My torso and arms are pretty damn hard, but my legs and head are softer.

 

[concrete]

game L

.do not ask me

mine is like rocks


tastes like cement

 

[Siren]

lol

 

[Private Vasquez]

so that's bad? grrreeeattt..

 

[Siren]

I will show you hard

 

[Gamelover221]

Thanks for the great responses folks!

Maybe it's just food to some, but any perfectionist carries these traits to any task they take on in life. I sometimes fall into a rather judgemental midset in life, and I simply couldn't live with myself if I didn't try to live up to my own standards. Some amouts of hypocracy are acceptable, but others are not. I am much harder on myself than my friends though...

 

[Private Vasquez]

Barbie doesn't rip, she breaks.

 

[Suzi]

Well....

Perfectionists carry a heavy burden, which they put there!

(I am hard on me also)

Suzi

 

[Wiggles]

I'm a perfectionist and very critical of myself.

Thank God I'm so lazy.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I am a perfectionist.

One thing a lot of people don't know about perfectionists is that we also procrastinate like crazy. Why? Because we have to do it perfect, or not at all.

GL, I've worked it out over the years. Tempered that part of me. I've learned to lower the bar to get things done and not beat myself up in the process.

 

[Siren]

Gamer

 

[Gamelover221]

I am a perfectionist.

One thing a lot of people don't know about perfectionists is that we also procrastinate like crazy. Why? Because we have to do it perfect, or not at all.

GL, I've worked it out over the years. Tempered that part of me. I've learned to lower the bar to get things done and not beat myself up in the process.

I don't exactly have bruises on myself or anything, but I was hurting pretty badly when I got a C on my last Economics test. I've made A's in all my economics classes until now and I know the teacher is to blame, but I still feel bad about it. I'll live though

 

[Ice Cold]

I don't have to worry about being my worst critic... my best friend beats me to my bad points, just in case I was blind to them.

 

[Gamelover221]

I don't have to worry about being my worst critic... my best friend beats me to my bad points, just in case I was blind to them.

You sure that's really a best friend then?

 

[Sillyman]

My mother always says, "Anything worth doing, is worth doing badly". Expecting perfection will tire you out in the long run. For the most part, I learn to satify myself with a certain level. Good enough grades, good enough food, good enough writing. If it's servicable, that's the important thing. Not every speech can be Shakespeare, not every test can be an A, and not every dish can be an orgasmic display of culinary divinity.

 

[Ice Cold]

Good intentions, just bad form on her part.