How Gay Porn Ruined Me...

[OhMissScarlett]

Everyone who knows me knows that I've become quite the avid watcher of gay male porn. I'm very fond of one certain European production company that turns out pretty high quality stuff. My SO doesn't understand this fetish at all and continues to bring home badly made straight porno. He likes the amateur sort of junk.

I can't even watch straight porn without either being creeped out by how ugly people are or falling asleep because it's so boring and predictable. Compared to gay porn, male actors in straight porn look like hell. It's very difficult to go from watching 20 year old guys with perfect bodies, faces, and cocks, to looking at some straight porn actor with a paunchy belly and hairy back.

What I'm getting at here is has this happened to anyone else? Has one wild curiosity or fetish ruined the simple things for you? Or do you somehow always find your way back to vanilla?

 

[My I]

Nope.

 

[brightlyiburn]

I would say I've had no problem with wild fantasies ruining things for me. It's more fantasies in general. It's hard to be satisfied with real, dull guys when the ones I write are so much more fun.

 

[carsonshepherd]

What I'm getting at here is has this happened to anyone else? Has one wild curiosity or fetish ruined the simple things for you? Or do you somehow always find your way back to vanilla?

First of all Viva la gay porn and I can't wait to see your latest.

I am wary of fetishes gone out of control - not because of my own fetish, but one of a former lover I indulged for quite some time, despite my misgivings. I felt I owed it to him to support him. After all it wasn't that bad, as far as fetishes go. He wasn't asking me to shit on him or anything. It was pretty harmless.

It wasn't the fetish itself that destroyed my sexual interest in him; it was the fact that, after he admitted to the fetish finally, he wanted to indulge it all the time. The boundaries were blown, and vanilla sex no longer interested him.

Scarlett, you'll get your mojo back. Just go get you some hot vanilla lovin'

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I would say I've had no problem with wild fantasies ruining things for me. It's more fantasies in general. It's hard to be satisfied with real, dull guys when the ones I write are so much more fun.

I think I have that problem too. It's not that my SO is dull, it's just that the guys I write about never leave their dirty dishes around or track mud all over the floor.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Everyone who knows me knows that I've become quite the avid watcher of gay male porn. I'm very fond of one certain European production company that turns out pretty high quality stuff. My SO doesn't understand this fetish at all and continues to bring home badly made straight porno. He likes the amateur sort of junk.

I can't even watch straight porn without either being creeped out by how ugly people are or falling asleep because it's so boring and predictable. Compared to gay porn, male actors in straight porn look like hell. It's very difficult to go from watching 20 year old guys with perfect bodies, faces, and cocks, to looking at some straight porn actor with a paunchy belly and hairy back.

What I'm getting at here is has this happened to anyone else? Has one wild curiosity or fetish ruined the simple things for you? Or do you somehow always find your way back to vanilla?

All the gay male porn I've ever seen, the men looked like either sissies or thugs. None of them looked the least bit normal, and by that, I mean like the kind of man I would usually see in the ordinary course of living. I think of the men in straight porn as being props, like the mattresses or pillows or sofas or whatever. The women are the stars of straight porn. Lesbian porn usually involves attractive women, some of them the same ones as who appear in straight porn. I haven't seen much porn lately though.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Re: Re: How Gay Porn Ruined Me...

First of all Viva la gay porn and I can't wait to see your latest.

I am wary of fetishes gone out of control - not because of my own fetish, but one of a former lover I indulged for quite some time, despite my misgivings. I felt I owed it to him to support him. After all it wasn't that bad, as far as fetishes go. He wasn't asking me to shit on him or anything. It was pretty harmless.

It wasn't the fetish itself that destroyed my sexual interest in him; it was the fact that, after he admitted to the fetish finally, he wanted to indulge it all the time. The boundaries were blown, and vanilla sex no longer interested him.

Scarlett, you'll get your mojo back. Just go get you some hot vanilla lovin'

I'm sure you're right. I go through these phases where I'm bored with everything. Though, the good news is that I saw some raw crazy lesbian porn the other day that got me fairly excited. You know, real lesbians, not gay for pay.

 

[fille]

There is really good gay porn, but it does have it's poorly made schlock as well. I think the thing many straight men don't understand is that most women don't just focus on the cock and the pussy - we actually care what they are attached to, and if the people to whom they are attached are unattractive slobs, we aren't going to be turned on by it.

I still love well made straight porn with attractive people who look like they are actually turned on, but I love the gay and bi stuff too.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I agree that straight porn is usually boring as hell. Every time I see the movie clips on a porn site, all I can think is it's a few guys who got together and said, "I know how we can get really hot chicks to have sex with us, we'll make a Porn Site!"

Why do I want to watch ugly guys with little pricks (come on, seriously, have you seen the dicks on some of those guys? Can you say "Bugfucker?") having bad sex with girls, may of whom are just as unattractive? Just doesn't do much for me.

Even well made straight porn is so predictable. Blowjob... fuck her... cum on her face. Yippie.

Now lesbian porn...

 

[brightlyiburn]

The reason men in straight porn are unattractive is because no straight man wants to watch an attractive man screw a woman who he's using to fuel his own fantasies.

 

[Evil Alpaca]

The reason men in straight porn are unattractive is because no straight man wants to watch an attractive man screw a woman who he's using to fuel his own fantasies.

Not so much anymore, in my opinion. Gone (thankfully) are the days where Ron Jeremy and Jamie Gillis and Mike Horner actually had careers. God, it scares me that I actually know there names. Where's Abstrusions? I think I need a drink now.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

There is really good gay porn, but it does have it's poorly made schlock as well. I think the thing many straight men don't understand is that most women don't just focus on the cock and the pussy - we actually care what they are attached to, and if the people to whom they are attached are unattractive slobs, we aren't going to be turned on by it.

I still love well made straight porn with attractive people who look like they are actually turned on, but I love the gay and bi stuff too.

The whole problem is the lack of quality straight porn in our house. The gay porn I have is the hottest boys in the world fucking like they're madly in love. The straight porn is like crack whores in bad wigs fucking guys that look like our mailman.

 

[tolyk]

Not so much anymore, in my opinion. Gone (thankfully) are the days where Ron Jeremy and Jamie Gillis and Mike Horner actually had careers. God, it scares me that I actually know there names. Where's Abstrusions? I think I need a drink now.

Ron Jeremy is my idol

 

[fille]

The whole problem is the lack of quality straight porn in our house. The gay porn I have is the hottest boys in the world fucking like they're madly in love. The straight porn is like crack whores in bad wigs fucking guys that look like our mailman.

Ew.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

There is no such thing as bad sex, but since I discovered the intensity and intimacy and sustained excitement of BDSM, regular sex just isn't the same. I mean, there's certainly still a place for vanilla and it's always nice to just fool around, and I'm not interested in a steady diet of whips and chains, but for those times when you want to set aside some time for a really transcendental sexual experience, it works for me.

There's not many things in life that live up to your expectations let alone surpass them, but that's the way my first real BDSM experience was. It changed the way I thought about things.

---dr.M.

 

[cantdog]

I would say I've had no problem with wild fantasies ruining things for me. It's more fantasies in general. It's hard to be satisfied with real, dull guys when the ones I write are so much more fun.

Damn.

 

[fille]

There is no such thing as bad sex, but since I discovered the intensity and intimacy and sustained excitement of BDSM, regular sex just isn't the same. ---dr.M.

No, see, there is bad sex. I had it with my first husband.

 

[brightlyiburn]

No, see, there is bad sex. I had it with my first husband.

And every one of my ex-boyfriends.

Believe me. When a guy doesn't understand that he needs to with draw his penis some in order to properly thrust back in, it's bad.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

The reason men in straight porn are unattractive is because no straight man wants to watch an attractive man screw a woman who he's using to fuel his own fantasies.

Brilliant! I don't know why I never figured that out.

Not so much anymore, in my opinion. Gone (thankfully) are the days where Ron Jeremy and Jamie Gillis and Mike Horner actually had careers. God, it scares me that I actually know there names. Where's Abstrusions? I think I need a drink now.

I know the names too, from way back when I discovered porn and it was fun to watch anyone(no matter how hairy) fuck. Peter North is pretty hot still and he's old school.

 

[cantdog]

The whole problem is the lack of quality straight porn in our house. The gay porn I have is the hottest boys in the world fucking like they're madly in love. The straight porn is like crack whores in bad wigs fucking guys that look like our mailman.

The problem with the high-standards straight porn is that it lacks all believability. The surfaces are beautiful, the lighting is beautiful, but it's like wrestling or something. Athletes faking it, making absolutely predictable moves for the sake of the camera, time and again. One is obviously viewing something contrived and artificial.

Your SO finds this not to be worth the trouble. Suspending such an enormous weight of disbelief leaves little psychic energy for enjoying the experience.

Like many people, he has turned to the amateurs for their accessible, honest lust or their obvious sleaze, depending. Your description sounds like the amateur swinger porn, produced by real people with cheap equipment and small budgets, but featuring everyday pervs in more or less sincere action.

Its as much of a kink to get into that as it is to get into the stuff you're into. You're being a little elitist about it, I think.

In any case, to answer your question, I think you don't go back to vanilla. You might change again, but it's unlikely to be a return to vanilla.

cantdog

 

[cantdog]

Brilliant! I don't know why I never figured that out.

I know the names too, from way back when I discovered porn and it was fun to watch anyone(no matter how hairy) fuck. Peter North is pretty hot still and he's old school.

The eighties porn scene was a golden age.

 

[cantdog]

And every one of my ex-boyfriends.

Believe me. When a guy doesn't understand that he needs to with draw his penis some in order to properly thrust back in, it's bad.

Puppies. Amateurs. Self-regarding apes. You deserve better, darlin'.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

The problem with the high-standards straight porn is that it lacks all believability. The surfaces are beautiful, the lighting is beautiful, but it's like wrestling or something. Athletes faking it, making absolutely predictable moves for the sake of the camera, time and again. One is obviously viewing something contrived and artificial.

Your SO finds this not to be worth the trouble. Suspending such an enormous weight of disbelief leaves little psychic energy for enjoying the experience.

Like many people, he has turned to the amateurs for their accessible, honest lust or their obvious sleaze, depending. Your description sounds like the amateur swinger porn, produced by real people with cheap equipment and small budgets, but featuring everyday pervs in more or less sincere action.

Its as much of a kink to get into that as it is to get into the stuff you're into. You're being a little elitist about it, I think.

In any case, to answer your question, I think you don't go back to vanilla. You might change again, but it's unlikely to be a return to vanilla.

cantdog

Very insightful as always, Cantdog. You're right, it is that brand of amateur porn. My SO's experience with porn is limited, so I don't think he was looking for any sort of genre when he bought this. His decision seems to be more financially based than anything. He brought it home and decided it worked for him. I do complain here about it, but I watch it with him if it turns him on, which is more than he would do for me.

 

[rgraham666]

When you haven't had ice cream in fifteen years, and you like it, vanilla ain't that bad.

I'm also picking up vibes of 'The North American Disease' here.

The main symptom of this disease can be summarised by the statement, 'not enough'.

No matter how much we get it never seems to be enough.

No wonder we're going mad.

 

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