How far back did your BDSM TEdencies start?

[SheDevilShay]

So I will start with me..

I was 4-6 years old.. I remember making my big stuff animals spank me and boss me around... and i'd grind on them... I remember ordering them around and spanking them....

As I grew older and could sneak to the library I started to research erotic stories and theories...I had the internet at 8-9 and started looking up spanking and BDSM tedencies... now at 22... I know that I switch hit and enjoy both roles...

 

[CutieMouse]

You had the internet at age 8 or 9... ohhkaaaay now I feel old.

DVS had a very intersting thread on this a while back... I'll see if I can find and bump it to add to the conversation.

 

[Coven911]

I am sure

That some will try to condemn you for your EARLY years, but I for one applaud that you were mature enough to explore and to RESEARCH. The lifestyle isn't for everyone, nor should it be.

It works for those that it works for, in it's infinite varieties! GO YOU!

As for me? Well, I think I started being dom at about 19........

And switch?? Hmmm....that is a more recent discovery.

 

[SilverShamrock]

I've never really followed the whole Dom / sub pattern myself. I'm not too sure why; I just don't get into it. S&M, however ... well, as far back as I can remember I've enjoyed biting, scratching and the like, as well as being bitten and scratched in turn.

 

[CutieMouse]

Found it!

 

[SheDevilShay]

That some will try to condemn you for your EARLY years, but I for one applaud that you were mature enough to explore and to RESEARCH. The lifestyle isn't for everyone, nor should it be.

It works for those that it works for, in it's infinite varieties! GO YOU!

As for me? Well, I think I started being dom at about 19........

And switch?? Hmmm....that is a more recent discovery.

This is the first place i've really admited to... I made a dildo at 12 and fucked myself with it and experiemented sexually by myself..

I've always been very sexual... It just took me a long time to figure out who I Was and why... and get over issue's with trying to form to society's expectations...

 

[Coven911]

Found it!

When did you lose it mousie?

 

[Coven911]

This is the first place i've really admited to... I made a dildo at 12 and fucked myself with it and experiemented sexually by myself..

I've always been very sexual... It just took me a long time to figure out who I Was and why... and get over issue's with trying to form to society's expectations...

LOL.....guess that is where we are so much alike....

When people ask me my religion I tell them "A heathenistic Southern Baptist with Pagan Leanings!" Think that doesn't get some looks????

 

[CutieMouse]

When did you lose it mousie?

First reaction to that :

"Buh... what? Lose what? Ohhhhhh the thread. Coven made a funny..."

Yes I really am that scattered in real life.

When people ask me my religion I tell them "A heathenistic Southern Baptist with Pagan Leanings!" Think that doesn't get some looks????

*snortchucklecough*

 

[myinnerslut]

i responded in the other thread so ill just do a quick answer here. i knew i was a masochist from 6 or 7, knew i was submissive since 11, figured out the whole deal was sexual at about 15

 

[Coven911]

First reaction to that :

"Buh... what? Lose what? Ohhhhhh the thread. Coven made a funny..."

Yes I really am that scattered in real life.



*snortchucklecough*

LOL.....and yes, you have the right reaction!

 

[Netzach]

Jesus.

I didn't really place it or put it together remotely till I was 23. I think the kids are getting more savvy and good for them. I mean I tied myself up but I had no real clue *why*. Violence sometimes made me feel funny to watch or draw, but I didn't know why either. I thought beating up someone you loved was basically fucked up, and still do, it's when the dynamics of trust are put into it that it gets hot for me, and I didn't get that till I started reading actual material about Leather.

 

[Coven911]

Jesus.

I didn't really place it or put it together remotely till I was 23. I think the kids are getting more savvy and good for them. I mean I tied myself up but I had no real clue *why*. Violence sometimes made me feel funny to watch or draw, but I didn't know why either. I thought beating up someone you loved was basically fucked up, and still do, it's when the dynamics of trust are put into it that it gets hot for me, and I didn't get that till I started reading actual material about Leather.

Trust is what it is all about. Have done some choke play with a few lovers, but they all TRUSTED me not to go to far....and I respected them and thier wishes.

 

[Netzach]

Trust is what it is all about. Have done some choke play with a few lovers, but they all TRUSTED me not to go to far....and I respected them and thier wishes.

Yeah, but beyond being right and sane and safe, that kind of trust is um

fucking hot. To me anyway.

 

[Coven911]

Yeah, but beyond being right and sane and safe, that kind of trust is um

fucking hot. To me anyway.

Oh hell yes....I thoroughly enjoyed watching thier faces as I squeezed thier throats.........VERY erotic!

 

[SubKekiLee]

I was about 19 when I tried it but I think I started thinking about it when I was about 14-15 thats when I HEARD a family friend getting spanked and she liked it and I wanted to know what that was all about

 

[WriterDom]

I spanked a girlfriend while fucking her doggystyle at 17. She cried. I felt bad and didn't spank again for 20 years.

 

[SheDevilShay]

I spanked a girlfriend while fucking her doggystyle at 17. She cried. I felt bad and didn't spank again for 20 years.

HAH....I know thats not funny.. but it sort of is.. my husband's spanked me so hard I cried.. and I didn't tell him to stop... I got mad (to me showing tears is a sign of weakness and I have a hard doing so in front of anyone so it makes me angry.), but I kept my mouth shut and let him do it.... and I had a super explosive orgasm we also were doing it doggy....

 

[marieR19]

I'm almost positive I posted in the other thread, and a pretty long post too if I remember correctly, but it's been awhile and I know I didn't mention this.

SheDevilShay, this is your fault that I'm admitting this, your first post made me feel okay about admitting this here, so yeah.

Although I don't, and never have, masterbated (well, not what I consider actual masterbation, at least), I have played with myself for as long as I can remember, and it's always had some sort of bdsm-connection. When I was about 7 or 8 years old, I figured out that it felt really, really good to finger myself "down there", but I would do it in this certain way that wasn't penetration, and over my underwear, and basically it felt so good because it stimulated my clit but also hurt (I've always been rough).... Yeah.


Heather

 

[HB1965]

I don't think that I can put it on a timeline like in that other thread, but I think by the age of 9 I pretty much had it figured out that I was interested in something different. By the time I was 16 I knew what it was.

 

[Pure]

a late bloomer. in my teens, was reading _Aphrodite_ by Louys, and in one scene a temple girl was being punished by having long pins stuck into her breasts. though a male, the nipples provided ample grounds for imitative experiments lasting years. one attempt, ten years later, with a date's nipples while she was bound, light abrasive, no pins, did NOT go well.

 

[oddity83]

About 15 or 16, starting finding myself drawn more into the bondage stories and pics while online.

 

[missy_me]

When I was around 9, I started to pinch myself as I masturbated. I lost my virginity when I was 14 and from the very beginning I wanted to be told what to do and I wanted to be hurt somehow. I figured that the pain and sexual satisfaction are somehow very closely linked and I wanted to find out more about what was going on. Sexual submission and masochism was a very big part of how I saw myself until I was 18 or so. I was in a bad relationship with a much older guy and started thinking what it is that I really need from a relationship to be completely happy.
It was pretty much then that I started to realize that I need more than just sexual submission. I need someone I can serve and please, I need disciplin and control to be happy. It took a while to get rid of the bad relationship and to accept the fact that I don't want to be a brave independent woman. After the grand realization it took a couple of years for it all truly to sink in, then it took some time to get the courage to start building a relationship based on D/s, and most of all, to find a person I wanted to build the relationship with.

 

[SheDevilShay]

When I was around 9, I started to pinch myself as I masturbated. I lost my virginity when I was 14 and from the very beginning I wanted to be told what to do and I wanted to be hurt somehow. I figured that the pain and sexual satisfaction are somehow very closely linked and I wanted to find out more about what was going on. Sexual submission and masochism was a very big part of how I saw myself until I was 18 or so. I was in a bad relationship with a much older guy and started thinking what it is that I really need from a relationship to be completely happy.
It was pretty much then that I started to realize that I need more than just sexual submission. I need someone I can serve and please, I need disciplin and control to be happy. It took a while to get rid of the bad relationship and to accept the fact that I don't want to be a brave independent woman. After the grand realization it took a couple of years for it all truly to sink in, then it took some time to get the courage to start building a relationship based on D/s, and most of all, to find a person I wanted to build the relationship with.

I think this makes alot of sense... With my switch tedencies its been very hard for me to embrace either role 100%... I've recently asked my husband to collar me and to help me embrace the role of his submissive since we cannot seem to resolve our life conflict that comes from our will power battle struggles....

 

[intothewoods]

i responded in the other thread so ill just do a quick answer here. i knew i was a masochist from 6 or 7, knew i was submissive since 11, figured out the whole deal was sexual at about 15

How is it possible to submit, or understand submitting at age 11? I really don't understand how it's even possible. Your parents and teachers are sort of your Masters at that point, lol.