How does one gain entrance into the BDSM social circles??

[polyamorous]

Broke off a 3+ year relationship with someone several years ago, now ready to date again. Looking to get into the local BDSM scene/parties and explore this side of my sexuality, its something I have been fantasizing about for years but unfortunately my last partner was too vanilla for it.
I'd like to meet someone this time around who shares my sexual appetites. Not looking to show up and try to lock down a girlfriend, but rather get introduced to the scene and possibly down the road start something with someone interested in the same things.

 

[ImOnIt]

Be well groomed
Attend munch
Say hi
????
Profit

 

[Sir_Winston54]

This site purports to show listings for a large number of BDSM organizations in the US. I notice that my state doesn't have any listed, but then again, there aren't a whole lot of *people* in my state, so maybe there just aren't any orgs...

Anyhoo, clicking on the provided links for the organizations will often provide you with information regarding their scheduled munches, or perhaps contact information to find out about munches.

Note: You *do* have to scroll down a fair ways to get past the advertising and stuffs. Look for the heading "Take me to:" and then select your state (or states, if you're near a border or two).

Good luck.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Another useful website is http://fetlife.com . It's sort of like facebook but outright kinky-- look for your area, and look for "munch" in your area. These are non-play, non-sexual, non-dress get togethers, so that people can meet in easy settings.

 

[shewolf3003]

It may not be very easy. I have attempted to contact my local group on several occasions without success. The website they have has a function where to join or get information, you must first submit an essay describing yourself and why you would like to join. Seems fairly easy right? Well apparently I'm not of their ilk.. Heck I don't know, I never got any type of response whatsoever. At this point I've given up. It seems like it would be easier to become a Knights Templar than a local Playgrounder. I hope you have better luck.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It may not be very easy. I have attempted to contact my local group on several occasions without success. The website they have has a function where to join or get information, you must first submit an essay describing yourself and why you would like to join. Seems fairly easy right? Well apparently I'm not of their ilk.. Heck I don't know, I never got any type of response whatsoever. At this point I've given up. It seems like it would be easier to become a Knights Templar than a local Playgrounder. I hope you have better luck.

Look for them on fetlife.com.

 

[CuteBrat]

I also recomment Fetlife.com. read the postings...there is a lot you can learn about the psychology of authority exchange relationships. You can also find listing for munches (basically meet and greets in horrible cheap restaurantsk to meet people.

Focus more on learning skills than picking up chicks. Most cities have dungeons. Go to one and just watch. See what scenes give you "the tingle"....learn what you like.

And be patient...its a journey not a destination.

 

[shewolf3003]

Look for them on fetlife.com.

Actually Fetlife is where I originally found the link. Since that time I have found a wonderful Master and am blissfully happy, but still I think it would be nice to meet others to socialize with. I feel like that in less sexually repressed areas, unlike here in the good old "Bible Belt", it is probably much easier to locate and meet like minded kinksters.

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

I agree with PP on Fetlife.com.

 

[For You]

Winnipeg

i have looked into differant avenues and can't find anything here at all. Does anyone want to help a lil girl who's lost.

 

[rosco rathbone]

i have looked into differant avenues and can't find anything here at all. Does anyone want to help a lil girl who's lost.

http://www.theball.ca/ball.html

I Googled "Winnipeg BDSM"

 

[nowgirl]

years ago i joined collarme as a way to find a kinky date. it was there someone in the local community contacted me and invited me to a munch.

i realize that's not the norm on CM, but if create a profile there and look for people within 20 miles of your zip code, you can do a search on people who have an interest in the local bdsm community. might be worth a look.

fet life is a great place to look around, find events near you.

 

[FungiUg]

I do most of my local, online socialising on Fetlife now. I used to frequent the Literotica BDSM forum, but Kiwis are few and far between on here. So finding local people to chat to and interact with has been great.

I have... some issues with Fetlife. It's far from perfect. But it is a good way to meet people online with whom you can then organise to catch up with in real life.

Other than that, I'd suggest you find some people who are local to you and who attend events, and ask them to point you in the direction of munches and so on.