(<-- not that) But posting is the first step! You might also try the personals (the general one) or the GLBT one.
Success is not assured, but you (or anybody) will always have the most luck if you post a little information about yourself, your interests, your kinks or what you're looking for, and any other pertinent details that are make-or-break for you, so as to save yourself (and others) some trouble later. Of course, you may wish to familiarize yourself with the place first, and if you want to find some like-minded people to chat look in the other sub forums for threads that exhibit your interest. You can usually join in the conversations there and find somebody to start talking to.