How do you stop loving someone......

[Angelofsex]

that is gone from your life. Weather you break up or they pass away, how does that pain stop...........What would you do?

 

[alwaysawake]

that is gone from your life. Weather you break up or they pass away, how does that pain stop...........What would you do?

I never have gotten over several close friends, my dad, and my brother passing away. What makes it tolerable for me is to remember the good times, the positive influences they had on you, and occasionally look skyward and smile...KNOWING they are watching you with a smile, too.

Not a solution, but is the true way I deal with the losses. AA

 

[Angelofsex]

I never have gotten over several close friends, my dad, and my brother passing away. What makes it tolerable for me is to remember the good times, the positive influences they had on you, and occasionally look skyward and smile...KNOWING they are watching you with a smile, too.

Not a solution, but is the true way I deal with the losses. AA

Thank you sweetheart......I do smile when I think back of him..and remember the fun times.....It is so hard to deal with losses....but I know we have too.

 

[Lady_Sam]

Celebrating their life, hun, helps. But time, as always is the healer. You won't forget him, but with time the ache won't be so acute, and when you think of him the smiles will be there instead of the tears.

 

[Angelofsex]

Celebrating their life, hun, helps. But time, as always is the healer. You won't forget him, but with time the ache won't be so acute, and when you think of him the smiles will be there instead of the tears.

Thank you hon.......death is so final.......you break up there is still the chance you could be together........but death you never have that chance.....it is to late.

Don't get me wrong you break up....one would always get hurt and I feel for them to.....Hurt is hurt no matter what.

 

[SexyChele]

You allow yourself to grieve - whether a relationship ends through a breakup or through death. You cry, you sob, you beat the pillows. You cry until you swear you have no more tears, and then you cry again.

And, once the piercing pain begins to subside, you remember the good things. All those special moments that made that person so special to you. Their words, their actions. You look back at things you may have received, relive moments that made you smile.

Eventually, one day, the smiles, laughter, and good memories will help to ease the ache that will always be there.

Love to you, Angel. You are strong. You will survive.

 

[Angelofsex]

You allow yourself to grieve - whether a relationship ends through a breakup or through death. You cry, you sob, you beat the pillows. You cry until you swear you have no more tears, and then you cry again.

And, once the piercing pain begins to subside, you remember the good things. All those special moments that made that person so special to you. Their words, their actions. You look back at things you may have received, relive moments that made you smile.

Eventually, one day, the smiles, laughter, and good memories will help to ease the ache that will always be there.

Love to you, Angel. You are strong. You will survive.

Thank you......one thing for sure is we do survive......does take time but we do for sure.

 

[prettygrneyes]

please know my friend I am here whenever you need me,whether it be a shoulder to cry on,a phone call in the middle of the night,anytime ,I am here for you hun...you are strong and a survivor!!
a good thread ,I will be back...
love ya sweetie..

 

[Angelofsex]

please know my friend I am here whenever you need me,whether it be a shoulder to cry on,a phone call in the middle of the night,anytime ,I am here for you hun...you are strong and a survivor!!
a good thread ,I will be back...
love ya sweetie..

Thank you sweetie.......love you lots.....I know you are there for me and me for you.

 

[KHAN-E]

that is gone from your life. Weather you break up or they pass away, how does that pain stop...........What would you do?

I don't know if you ever do. At least not if the parting is due to death. My love, Kenny, died ten years ago. I've never completely gotten over it. I've never felt that way about another man. Maybe I never will. Maybe it's becuase I won't allow myself to fall in love like that again. I don't know. But my love for Kenny will always be there.

 

[1sexylady]

Angel,
Think about what made that person so special to begin with.... remember the good times and reflect on what that person did to make your life even more joyful.

Death is final but their spirit is right there in your heart forever.
So do they really die or we just can't see them anymore...???

Angel.. we were together when your Mother died and we were together when my stepfather, father and brother died. It all hurts but we live though it.

You know where I am if you need me as I know where you are...look around you and see all who care. Wipe the tears away and smile......

 

[funspirit]

hello

hope I'm not intruding.....

I don't ever stop loving someone I lose, its just that the face-to-face expression of my love for them ceases. Its the hard times that make the good ones all that more special, and death is simply a natural part of the cycle of life. Grieving is a natural reaction to someone leaving, but hold the love close and it will keep your heart warm.

"Love me forever, and love will never die."

 

[papillon24]

You'll never stop loving. Thats where it hurts the most if you let them go. Celebrate the life you had together and keep going on for them. Losing someone is not easy to deal with. I'm not sure we ever do.

*HUGS*

 

[~Dream~]

I dont know if this will help you much Sis but I have never lied to you and I will never start ..Cry till ya cant cry no more,Know that the person you are missing is in aMUCH better place now, KNOW that He loved you , cause I know that He did ,He told me so , many many times, how you were a treasure of a friend and you are ,it's true...

remember ALL good memories for None but Noone can take those away from you,if you'd ever like to have a picture even just as akepsake ,i'd be more than happy to e-mail or snail mail you one..as I have several,I did wrong bad things i know sweety ,but Ialso know He had a big warm, loving, Forgiving heart and I think we can all get closer and stronger if Love rules our lives as it did his ,and NOt hate..JMHO , He made us both into better happier women .I fel that each and everyday and tho your heart still hurts ,I KNOW it does sweety, and I pray for you that you know he loved and STILL LOVES YOU...and so do I

 

[Angelofsex]

It is nice hearing how everryone deals with this....It sure helps reading what you have writen........thank you as a tear runs down my cheek.....

KHAN-E------I feel for you hon....the lost of a love one is so hard.....I am sending you extra lovings my friend.

1sexylady .......yes you and I have been thru alot in our lifes.....and I know as you know I will always be there for you too....as you are for me......Love you hon........you know how I feel.

funspirit ...you would never be intruding.......I value your openion....and it helps to see how someone deals with it...thank you.

papillon24 ...thank you honey.....hearing from you means alot to me.....thank you dear friend.

~Dream~ .thank you for realizing it...you coming here helps me in what you said.....You know I would love a picture or two....sent it to yahoo please.....It would mean so much to me.......my friend.

 

[islander01]

There is no getting over the love I have for her. Someday I hope to grow past the pain. Does this ever go away?

 

[lady*laura]

Losing someone to death is not something you really ever get over....you just get thru it. It is hard at times to remember that death is not the end....that person is still with you in your heart, your soul...and you will be together wehn you get to the other side. What one needs to remember to do is to live while you are still here. Everything happens for a reason and each day we learn something new about ourself.

For everyone who has ever lost somone........ x infinity

 

[Angelofsex]

Losing someone to death is not something you really ever get over....you just get thru it. It is hard at times to remember that death is not the end....that person is still with you in your heart, your soul...and you will be together wehn you get to the other side. What one needs to remember to do is to live while you are still here. Everything happens for a reason and each day we learn something new about ourself.

For everyone who has ever lost somone........ x infinity

lady*laura, you are so right with what you said.....Yes he is always in my heart and will stay there....and one day we all will see the love ones we lost.

 

[Angelofsex]

There is no getting over the love I have for her. Someday I hope to grow past the pain. Does this ever go away?

I don't know if the pain ever goes away, maybe like people have sad just gets better with time.

 

[jazey_43]

??

What I want to know is this....what do you do AFTER the tears

are gone, and that empty space is there, haunting your days and

invading your nights......a loss of any kind, weather due to death

or stupidity, is hard. And I am feeling that it will never go away,

and I will NEVER find that kind of "love" again...*sighs*

 

[comeagain4]

the pain never goes away when the 1 special person in your life dies. going on finding new loves does not even touch that area of your life except to make you wonder how showing your feelings for the deceased might adversly affect the new relationship by causing the new partner pain.

my 1st wife passed away 28 years ago. at some point i got over feeling guilty whenever i was with another woman. i still think of her.

a recent question has been concerning what happens when i pass. ??? do i get her and my 2nd wife both on the other side??? what about the woman who came between my 2 wives but died in childbirth before we could get married???if we are supposed to be rejoined on the other side but are only rejoined to 1 who will be the 1 and why?

what i have discovered is that time does heal the harshest of the pain from the loss, and it is possible to love someone else, but the empty spot for the lost one seems to alwas be there. it is also easier, after time passes, to revisit the special times remembering the joy with only a twinge from the lonly area which only she will ever touch.

nomatter what will happen after or in the earthly future though the fact is that, that special person is gone. another fact is that you are alive and have needs. as a result the only thing that you can do is to pick up and go on the best that you can.

 

[John Roberts]

Hello Angel, everyone,
Time does heal and everyone has their own timespan for grief. For some people it is only a few months and others years.
So do not make the mistake of comparing yourself to others, only you can determine when the grieving stops. For me it was not death but my love removing herself....and because we have a young son together my wounds get opened again and again....this is much less since I met whspr(God bless her loving understanding)....I am still dettaching myself from that relationship. Just don't close yourself off from future relationships. I had a theory explained to me I found comforting.

We move through time with "groups" of soulmates, sometimes we are not at the same stage of developement as a soulmate and a mismatch occurs...they are not ready for you or you are not ready for them.....but the thing to remember is that there are others out there from your "group" with whom one can bond with and experience that powerful magic.

I my case my "ex" was not ready for me......whspr on the other hand......"Wow"!

 

[dragonhearted]

that is gone from your life. Weather you break up or they pass away, how does that pain stop...........What would you do?

you don't stop....real love lasts forever, otherwise it would not be real!

 

[whspr]

My Sweet Angel,

Getting over a loss of a loved one doesn't come easy, no matter
the circumstances. I've lost many loved ones in my life. The one
with the greatest impact was my mother. She was my best
friend, too. I still miss her everyday and think of her often. I have
to admit, I still cry, too. Those tears are my selfishness showing.
She is in a wonderful place now and I should be happy about that. It's hard to give up and let them go. I do know she is
with me still and tries to guide me to follow the high road. I think
I owe her alot of credit for the person I am today. If I'm ever able
to say that I'm at least half the person she was...I'll be extatic.

Remember them in your heart, hun. They will always live there.

I'm here if you ever need me, Angel Sis.

whspr

 

[Forever_Gemini]

Angel, you have my deepest sympathy... And whspr, your story is just like mine... *hugs to both of you*

Here is a little poem I read once that somehow got stuck in my mind and get's me through:

"Your heart isn't hurting because it is broken. It is hurting because it is growing to hold more love"

(Unknown Author)