How do you see your sexuality?

[DustOnDaBotl]

I ask this because after years of wrestling with my own tendencies, I've come to the conclusion that if it feels good, you should try it!
First of all, I love women. Always have. With a woman, I can form and commit to a loving relationship, enjoy her constant company, be proud and feel lucky to be with her in a social setting and make love to her when we find the circumstances are right for both of us. Sounds hetero and it is.
But when it comes to men, I enjoy "playtime". Never saw myself being in a loving relationship with a man. Never wanted to "make love" to a man. But there have been several instances when I found myself alone and naked with a man and enjoyed getting off with him and getting him off as well. I have to admit, I have always loved dick play, but it has always been purely recreational and never was there a time when I felt love for one of my male partners.
This all leads me to ask the question, "Do men ever see themselves as being a percentage gay/bi?"
I am NOT trying to convince myself that I'm not gay any more than I view myself as being totally hetero. I have no regrets!
I'm just curious whether or not other guys have ever wondered about the state of their own sexuality.

 

[piddlyass]

I'm bisexual and visually attracted to a feminine appearance. I find that changes if I perceive someone to be kind, empathetic and intelligent. Emotional attachments, for me, are more about the personality of the individual than anything else. I give the same investment in a relationship whether the person be male, female or transgender.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I wonder all the time virtually almost constantly and it drives me crazy. Wish I cold be completely happy and content with being what I was physically born because then there would not be the empty feeling of knowing what I desire will never be

 

[Donnacdme69]

I've put it on my profile. I think I am a male lesbian. I love women, everything about them, and when it comes to oral sex sorry guys but I would choose the woman first every time. That being said I love the look of a nice hard cock and have a longing to touch it, suck it and enjoy it the way most men want a woman to. If given the choice of kissing a man on the lips or kissing his cock and giving him head, well push my head down to his sweet cock every time.

 

[none2_none2]

We all have free will, so as long as there is a guy who is just horny and wants to get off, I'm sure people that only want cock will have a steady stream.

Personally, I'll never get it. As you get older, you just cannot get it up on a dime just to have a hole to put your cock in. So sex gets more selective over time.

If I were single again at my age, I just couldn't get into wasting my time on the search for a cum and go mouth/ass (toilet) for when I want to get drained. Quite frankly it got boring over the decades dealing with some guys like that. I never came with a ring before I let another guy have a go at my cock, but if that is the depth of what m2m sex is to someone, then there are glory holes where you can make sure you never associate a penis with the flesh and blood human being that it is attached to.

I'm old enough not to get teary-eyed if a particular guy would rather be with someone else, but would any self-respecting person want to get it on with someone's attitude that you will do for the moment? I hope I never get that hard up for intimacy.

Over the years, there are guys who are just WAY to into mind games. You are not their preferred gender. Your not exotic enough for them. Your hair is the wrong length. You have the wrong amount of facial hair. You are the wrong age. Your the wrong height or weight. Your cock isn't the right size. You cum to soon, or take too long to cum. The list goes on and on. What is funny is that some of these guys never bother to look in the mirror and realize that they themselves are not so perfect & desirable. The strangest part of it is that over the years plenty of these kinds of guys really had a lower sex drive than I had!

i suppose one can guy into the BS that guys are snakes and snails and puppy dog tails as opposed to sugar and spice and everything nice, but underneath it all even guys have feelings. As little as I enjoy penises or as little as I can get off on being blown, I would never get it on with a guy and tell him I'd rather be with anybody but him for the moment. If he put his heart into trying to get me off, the least I can do is make him feel like he was king of his trade -- even if it is only for a fleeing moment in life.

 

[suckonsimon]

All of my shared sexual experience has been hetero and since my marriage 39 years with one woman and no regrets about that. Alongside that I am totally anamoured with the male form: a fit guy's whole body, handsome features, and the thrill and beauty of a grand erection. I feel this solidarity with men who like me are dedicated to pleasuring women sexually.

So I guess my attraction to men is a kind of celebration of the 'stud' in me and in other men.

My soulmates - people with whom I have a profound understanding, respect and connection - are men. I love them. With some of them there is definitely an erotic dimension to my loving of them. It is quite simply my commitment of marriage which effectively shuts the door for me taking that any further than recognising that it is there. If I was not in the fortunate position of having great sex available to me on a regular basis, would I want to take that further? I don't know.

And ... like I guess so many hetero men, I see the immense pleasure my woman has in giving me oral and I kind of envy her getting so close up and personal with a hefty veined up phallus in her face and filling her mouth - that is a totally grand experience which I do not know and yet witness so often!

While I'm on this thread - I really value about lit that gays and straights and bis can exchange warmly and respectfully without guarding 'boundaries' and so I want to say a thank you to GLBT folk on here.

 

[SissyElla]

I'd describe myself as a things-that-turn-me-on-sexual

 

[leather_spitfire]

I'd describe myself as a things-that-turn-me-on-sexual

I like that, that's what I am too

 

[Mirageme65]

All of my shared sexual experience has been hetero and since my marriage 39 years with one woman and no regrets about that. Alongside that I am totally anamoured with the male form: a fit guy's whole body, handsome features, and the thrill and beauty of a grand erection. I feel this solidarity with men who like me are dedicated to pleasuring women sexually.

So I guess my attraction to men is a kind of celebration of the 'stud' in me and in other men.

My soulmates - people with whom I have a profound understanding, respect and connection - are men. I love them. With some of them there is definitely an erotic dimension to my loving of them. It is quite simply my commitment of marriage which effectively shuts the door for me taking that any further than recognising that it is there. If I was not in the fortunate position of having great sex available to me on a regular basis, would I want to take that further? I don't know.

And ... like I guess so many hetero men, I see the immense pleasure my woman has in giving me oral and I kind of envy her getting so close up and personal with a hefty veined up phallus in her face and filling her mouth - that is a totally grand experience which I do not know and yet witness so often!

While I'm on this thread - I really value about lit that gays and straights and bis can exchange warmly and respectfully without guarding 'boundaries' and so I want to say a thank you to GLBT folk on here.

Wow, very well said! This is an interesting thread.

 

[MaryanneB]

I consider myself basically heterosexual and I adore the sight of a man's body with all it encompasses but I'm like many others here. A human body whether it's male or female is an amazing thing. I was an OR nurses and saw a lot of the inside workings of the human body. It is an intriguing piece of machinery and should be appreciated.
A woman's body is structured to do things that a male could never do. The strength and beauty of the male body makes my heart beat faster.
Buttons effected? Male for me but I can more than understand the love of a woman.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Obsessive Cock-Sucker...

How do I see my sexuality…? Usually I see it from a crouching position with a big cock rammed down my throat… that's how I prefer it...

 

[CNYCarol]

How do you see your sexuality?

I'm a 20yo lesbian "wannabe slut" trapped in a 40 something body.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I'm a 20yo lesbian "wannabe slut" trapped in a 40 something body.

We are victims of circumstance. Some day you may describe yourself as a luscious 40yo lesbian trapped in a 69 year old body. May you enjoy those years to the fullest.

May the winds be fair, your sails full and seas to your delight

PS. Do not worry 69 is no diff than 29 other than if the world ends in two days you know you have lived so much more than the 29 yo can ever imagine.

 

[jseeks]

I was reading another thread some weeks ago. Different topic but it kind wen the same direction as this one. Anyway someone cleverly answered ...

I am "Sexual"!

I think I agree with that answer 100%.

 

[desiwife16]

I prefer letting others see it.

 

[cream1rst]

I do appreciate this thread.. I recently had a convo with my s/o and told her of my fascination of dick. I don't think it takes anything away from me, it's as simple as that. I'm glad she understands, others aren't as lucky

 

[JasmineDeMure]

I think I am just weird after reading this thread and I'm ok with that... I see humanity as a whole and I base my likes on individual people. If a person is kind, caring , loving and generally a positive influence to those around them I tend to be attracted to them. Sex, race whatever never enters into it, this philosophy tends to permiate most of my life.

I will admit though that there are animal attractions but even these don't seem to have "normal" boundries. I find myself visually attracted to men and women and those that are in between.

EDIT: I do see myself mentally as more feminine than masculine though...

 

[Rigger287]

I always wished I was a female rather than the male I am. I cross dress when I am able to (when wife is out or away) and on the beach check out the women before the men. I once said to a friend that I am 75% male and 25% woman and he replied "more like 55% male and 45% woman." With hindsight I see he was correct.

 

[turnofthepaige]

My sexuality is evolving to the point that it goes beyond pleasure and can extend to anyone who's energy I can feel connected to. As I explore my feminine side more I feel that having a strong confident partner who cares about me is more important than gender, race, age, or anything else. When I feel that strong and dominant energy around me it's easy for me to submit as I need to in order to let myself go and become the sexual being I crave to be. And when I'm dressed it is easier for me to find this part of me

 

[tristantrotsky]

Learning The Game...

We all arrive at self-knowing by different avenues. I sympathize and empathize with you. I am now aged twenty-seven, I'm slim to scrawny, and tend to appear shy to others. I also went through a long period of confusion and uncertainty about gender-orientation, tried a bit here, tried a bit there - and now I don't think of myself as Gay or any such restriction, just human. I met my first first serious mature Boyfriend when I was 25, and he introduced me to the full erotic side of myself I'd scarcely not suspected was there, opened me up to a sexual identity as a submissive cock-sucker which I now gratefully embrace. We separated (when his wife found out what we were doing…! she wasn't so much offended by the fact that I was gratefully sucking him off, as by the fact that he was spending money on me…!), but I've been fortunate enough to link with other Boyfriends since, my second was another long-term (six-month) relationship during which he liked me to dress 'girly' for him, in sheer see-though panties, black pull-up stockings and garters, and I was happy to comply just so long as I got to suck his big beautiful uncut cock as a reward for my efforts. I can be a very obedient submissive cock-sucker for the right strict dominant Boyfriend, if the sexual chemistry is correct.

 

[KUJACK]

I ask this because after years of wrestling with my own tendencies, I've come to the conclusion that if it feels good, you should try it!
First of all, I love women. Always have. With a woman, I can form and commit to a loving relationship, enjoy her constant company, be proud and feel lucky to be with her in a social setting and make love to her when we find the circumstances are right for both of us. Sounds hetero and it is.
But when it comes to men, I enjoy "playtime". Never saw myself being in a loving relationship with a man. Never wanted to "make love" to a man. But there have been several instances when I found myself alone and naked with a man and enjoyed getting off with him and getting him off as well. I have to admit, I have always loved dick play, but it has always been purely recreational and never was there a time when I felt love for one of my male partners.
This all leads me to ask the question, "Do men ever see themselves as being a percentage gay/bi?"
I am NOT trying to convince myself that I'm not gay any more than I view myself as being totally hetero. I have no regrets!
I'm just curious whether or not other guys have ever wondered about the state of their own sexuality.

Wow, I am similar,
in my teens I sucked many cocks, and fucked women too. Stopped sucking men because I thought I was gay. Didn't know about being bi at the time. Now being honest i l love women first, but I would not turn down a cock either.I am OK with this, a cock is just a diversion, fun, but I want a relationship with a woman

 

[gcs2718]

I am bisexual but have only ever been emotionally and visually attracted to women. Well, I am visually attracted to a nice cock. But I love cocks and being a totally submissive cum-slut. When I'm sucking a man off, I want him to know I need his cock more than he needs my mouth. I love being used for his pleasure. With women I love to provide pleasure too but it's more give and take.

Although I've had some good blowjobs from men, I prefer having my cock sucked by a woman. I love looking down and seeing a pretty lady with my cock in her mouth. I love to orally pleasure women too but love sucking a cock even more. And that moment when his pulsating cock fills my mouth with cum is the greatest!

 

[Prince Albert]

I have a saying; "polymorphus perverse", I'll try anything once, maybe a couple more times if not sure!!! However no underage children, scat or animals!

 

[joelafayette]

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[PleasePeesMe]

This is all fascinating

Two years ago, I would've said I was straight. 100%. Then a woman I was chatting to on here, said she thought to guys sucking was so hot and I should try it. After a lot of "You must be joking" and "Really? You think it's hot?", I met a guy and sucked him. He had a small cock and it didn't do much for me, but ever since, I think, now and then, I'm married, straight and I've sucked a cock. And sometimes, I think I'd like to again.