How do you schedule your sessions?

[sexychik69]

I know for a lot on here the BDSM lifestyle is a complete 24/7 thing, but I've always been curious as to how everyone schedules their sessions, if they do. In the perfect world, we wouldn't have to work, just indulge upon each other's desires all the time, but sadly we have to contribute to soceity somehow...

So this is to the general BDSM public here - do you schedule your sessions? When do you... the morning of? The weekend before? How do you fit your work into your schedule? How does everyone manage the two?

 

[A Desert Rose]

I check my Dom's software and go from there.






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[SirFace]

A good question. I had the same one a short time ago. We have a very vanilla life together and do switch into BDSM activities spontaniously sometimes but we can signal each other when desired. If she has her hair in pigtails or is wearing her collar or cuffs, its play time. Mine is a black shirt. We PM each other during the day at work so there is usually enough heat going on that we both know whats coming (hehe).

 

[sexychik69]

A good question. I had the same one a short time ago. We have a very vanilla life together and do switch into BDSM activities spontaniously sometimes but we can signal each other when desired. If she has her hair in pigtails or is wearing her collar or cuffs, its play time. Mine is a black shirt. We PM each other during the day at work so there is usually enough heat going on that we both know whats coming (hehe).

That's what seems/seemed sensible to me as well - to keep most of it spontaneous (if possible) or to plan it earlier during the day. After all, we are all human and there aren't many of us that can DEDICATE their emotions to get in the mindset for a particular day. R/L does happen whether we like it or not, and sometimes scheduling is just not logical.

 

[kristyna]

I know for a lot on here the BDSM lifestyle is a complete 24/7 thing, but I've always been curious as to how everyone schedules their sessions, if they do. In the perfect world, we wouldn't have to work, just indulge upon each other's desires all the time, but sadly we have to contribute to soceity somehow...

So this is to the general BDSM public here - do you schedule your sessions? When do you... the morning of? The weekend before? How do you fit your work into your schedule? How does everyone manage the two?

Scheduling a session is no different, to me, than scheduling a date for dinner. It might be on the way home after work, that morning, 2 weeks ahead, a quicky for lunch, on his way home in the mornings he may come by before the kids wake up (I never know when this will be). We are both busy people, he has (what I think is) the coolest job ever but has a very odd schedule.

 

[the captians wench]

Besides my work schedule and his, we have a 5 hour time difference to compete with too. We don't so much set a schedule perse, but I know around what times he's usually online, and I know if I'm going to be able to be on at that time or not and let him know if I have work or what ever.

With my friends that session me, I'm at their disposal as well. They are informed of my work schedule and tell me when to be at a place at a time. And then ofcorse if I'm just on a normal type visit and one desides that he wants to play, I've never objected.

I do have my own signals, as Sirface mentioned. For instance if I show up at my friends' house in pigtails, that's a sure sign I want my hair pulled. Unfortunitly if one particular friend is in a very sadistic mood, he'll just tease me by flipping my pig tails or not even touching them at all. For my Sir, I usually send an im or email telling him that I'd like to play, or a text even some times, if it's not too late or early there. I have a hard time asking, over the phone or in person, for play time but email is easy.

 

[Rick Forbes]

Well, first we have to schedule a play date or a sleepover for our l'il one.

Then, emails and PMs for a couple of days before where we can each assume our role - my little sub loves to be instructed through voice mail on her cel phone, even checking it at work in front of totally unsuspecting colleagues.

Then, on the night in question one of us does the carpool thing while the other readies the play space. Then when the front door opens, it's Master and Slave until we put our parental faces back on.

 

[myinnerslut]

i wear a gold bracelet on my left wrist all the time. if he takes it off, then its our signal that we've started a scene. or i could take it off and offer it to him. this works really well when we are with each other. becuase im in school, we are in a long distance relationship. things are much more spontanious when we arnt physically together. usually i just turn on my webcam, when im alone in my room. sometimes we do plan out sessions ahead of time. i like those best since they are usually more intense. i love looking foward to it, setting up for it, and thinking about it so much before hand means i am in a submissive mood before we even start.

 

[satin_coals]

We are the same as most .. sessions are scheduled at anytime, over the phone, in person, at work, at home, etc. Sometimes He will walk out wearing His army cargos and I know it's on from there .. or others He will surprise me with little notes or a suddenly command to "kneel and suck" *grins*

 

[His_pita]

Normally we don't schedule our playtime. We do make sure that the kid is at school and life isn't demanding anything from us. The only thing we have scheduled that we really try to keep is our "Friday Spanking" We both love that so much and work at fitting it in every Friday if at all possible.

 

[catalina_francisco]

We don't schedule.....to me that seems it then becomes a chore or obligation moreso than something we do because it is who we are, because we enjoy and need it. The closest it might come to being scheduled is if one of us is going through a stressful or depressive time and feels it is something which is needed to help move things into a more healthy zone. At those times, whichever one is feeling that way will mention it to the other, or if we notice and think it might be a positive thing to purposefully do, we will mention it to the other. Most times though it just happens, both little and big moments.

Catalina

 

[sexychik69]

Thanks all for posting, (and a thank you in advance to the new ones yet to be posted) it was really interesting reading about how each couple has signals, apparel or whatever to "start" playtime - I especially love the idea of the bracelet myinnerslut talked about. A sort of collar thing, I like it!

With a lot of my previous Doms I didn't have a schedule either, for a few of them we had stop and start words, but before that we almost always could tell if we were in that sort of mindset or not, so a start word was usually never neglected or ignored. I do remember with a past Dom however that one of my tasks that He required of me was that I masturbate every night before bed - just to keep me on edge. It was quite fun actually.

 

[shannywanny]

with my current Dom, whenever he wants; which is usually every night. I've never been with anyone who loved to play as much or as frequently as I do, so I'm counting my blessings.

We don't really schedule, or have any signals, or rituals to prepare or whatnot. He'll just start pulling out toys, and I pick up on the very not-so-subtle hint.

 

[sexychik69]

with my current Dom, whenever he wants; which is usually every night. I've never been with anyone who loved to play as much or as frequently as I do, so I'm counting my blessings.

We don't really schedule, or have any signals, or rituals to prepare or whatnot. He'll just start pulling out toys, and I pick up on the very not-so-subtle hint.

Hehe, I like that idea! I wish I could get it every night, you lucky lady you! I have an extremely high sex drive as well, and it's driving me crazy because I haven't gotten much lately. Hopefully it'll get better soon though.

I like the spontaneity though, I would say it makes things even more kinky but that's the purpose!