How do you look at yourself?

[Nicole]

On one of our Radio Stations over here at the moment they are playing all 80's music, which is fun for something different. I was driving along the other day when I heard the song "Sweet Dreams", by the Eurythmics.

In this song there were some lines that started me to thinking.

Some of then want to use you and some of them want to be used by you
Some of them want to abuse you and some of them want to be abused.

I know which category I would fall under, and anyone who sees my signature could probably guess, but would they be right?

What are you, if either of these things? Are you the user and abuser or are you the want that wants to be used and abused?

Curious little thing aren't I?

 

[Countess DeWinter]

I'll bite <giggle>
I'm in the "some of them want to be abused" category. But only under certain conditions.....we both have to be naked and rocking sex must follow the abusing

 

[Ezzy]

I use a full length mirror...

EZ http://cwm.ragesofsanity.com/s/cwm2/sleep.gif

Or I just look down LOL.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

I looking in the mirror and wonder ??? Why my husband see and thinks I'm so beatuful ..Because all I see is someone who needs to loss so weight and look a little different ..Yet the hubby ever morning calls me beatuful...*sigh* Someday I will believe him

 

[Nicole]

NBS's Wife you are beautiful, cause you are you.

 

[Havocman]

*tapping my paddle against the side of my leg, while making sure your restraints are tight enough...*

I'm sorry my pet, did you ask something?

Havoc

 

[Nicole]

*tapping my paddle against the side of my leg, while making sure your restraints are tight enough...*

I'm sorry my pet, did you ask something?

Havoc

I gather that's me your talking too, or at least I hope it is.

I'd answer you but the restraints are too damn tight, the blindfold is killing my eyes, my bottom glowing red, and it's all just such a turn on that I couldn't possibly get out the right response.

Did that half explain what my prefrence is?

 

[Havocman]

Did that half explain what my prefrence is?

Well Nicole sweetie...*raising the paddle high above your wiggly bottom*...if it didn't, they'll all know for sure when the squeals start.

*bringing the paddle down sharply and swiftly...*

Havoc

 

[Never]

Everybody is looking for something.. Who am I to disagree?

Odd how familiar this thread is Nicole, hmm.
Oh, I don't know, which one do you think I am?

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I prefer the 'Why?' song myself.

 

[Angel]

I guess I used to fall under the "Wants to be abused" category. Not physically either, but I just kept getting into relationships with males who walked over me and I kept letting it happen.
I actually have a GREAT relationship now, but I suddenly seem to be reversing the role at times and treating him like dirt. I honestly think I'm doing it to "Hurt him before he hurts me" Which pretty much sucks because I love him,but I guess thats something I need to work on.


Other than that, my nose is too big, my bottom lip is too fat, and I look younger than 22, which SUCKS.

 

[Nicole]

Did that half explain what my prefrence is?

Well Nicole sweetie...*raising the paddle high above your wiggly bottom*...if it didn't, they'll all know for sure when the squeals start.

*bringing the paddle down sharply and swiftly...*

Havoc

Well yes the squeals of DELIGHT might just give it away, but just think of how much fun we'll have

*lifting bottom to meet paddle* Ohhhhhhhhhhhh Owwwwwwwwwww Oh yeah baby I just love the way you use that Paddle.

Does this mean your back for awhile then? *crossing fingers*

 

[Andra_Jenny]

I think too much of one thing is bad. If I play a game, I want to be the Indian, then I want to be the cowpoke...

 

[Merelan]

Havoc, please..... Otherwise she won't be able to type and make us happy with her thoughts. See, her fingers are crossed. How is she suppose to type that way.
Please.

can I opt for "lover"?

 

[JadedHeart]

I looking in the mirror and wonder ??? Why my husband see and thinks I'm so beatuful ..Because all I see is someone who needs to loss so weight and look a little different ..Yet the hubby ever morning calls me beatuful...*sigh* Someday I will believe him

Listen to your husband! He's right!!!

 

[Jeff726]

I look at myself as someone that, for too long, let myself get run over by others thoughts and opinions and such. When you worry about what others think, as I sometimes still do, you begin to feel like you are losing your self-identity.

As I said in my response over on KM's thread, you may try and change your life, but do it because YOU want to and not because someone said to do it or you'd be sorry. Truth be told, I grow disenchanted with some things then I go right back to liking them.

Like with sex for example. (notices Nicole getting wet at the thought ) Sure you may feel the need to want it in a complete and loving environment like marriage and only with your one partner, but make yourself feel that way because you feel it's what's best for YOU, not to please anyone else. I don't agree with alot of things like swinging and such, but I feel that way because it's a matter of my own heart, not because so and so said its wrong. Also with porn, it can either be alot of fun, a quickie help to get off, or also a bad demon that would rue your relationship with your s/o and/or children. But if you can somehow make it work for you and it makes your life happy and splendorous, then do it. Don't let others bog you down.

Sometimes you just gotta say "fuck it" and live for yourself. Don't let people like Joan Rivers tell you what to wear. Don't let someone like a pastor tell you you will die for drinking beer.

Make your own life and don't let yourself be abused by others.

 

[riff]

I am certain I fall into all of those categories. I am multitudenous, or, as they say, schitzo.