How do you like your women innocent or lecherous?

[FickleFilly]

My question is simple... and kind of a poll...

fundamental in my creating a cast of characters and the first thing I do... is try to imagine a base personally type... of course not all people are the same... but we are attracted to a certain type of character....

So when reading stories how do you prefer the female characters..

All sweet an innocent (Virginal)
or
lewd and lascivious? (Slutty)

 

[tritiusj]

My question is simple... and kind of a poll...

but fundamental in my creating my cast of characters the first thing I do is try to imagine a base personally type... of course not people are the same... but we are attracted to a certain type of character....

So when reading stories how do you prefer the female characters..

All sweet an innocent (Virginal)
or
lewd and lascivious? (Slutty)

I prefer a combination; virginal in public, slutty in private. And the stronger the contrast, the better. I believe the phrase "lady in the streets and freak in the sheets" applies. It works even better for me for the public persona to be more like a mask, so that I can tease the true inner slut, tempting her peek out even in public settings.

 

[sr71plt]

I like my women have a high-income job.

 

[stephen55]

I want a lady in public, a whore in the bedroom, preferably a supermodel pulling in a high eight figure income and of course, unconcerned that I'm in my late fifties.

What my wife's concerns may be...

 

[Handley_Page]

My question is simple... and kind of a poll...

All sweet an innocent (Virginal)
or
lewd and lascivious? (Slutty)

Neither, quite frankly.
In public, particularly, a suggestive smile or even a wink is far better than frigidity.
Active participation in the bedroom is just fine. She does not have to act like a slut. Wholesome enjoyment is great.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I like my women to be a little bit realistic.

I like my women to enjoy sex, even go after it with gusto, and also to be choosey about who they fuck.

I like my virgins to be intelligent and not care too much about their virginity, which is a bullshit social construct. I like it when their first fuck is less important than the person they fuck, why they fuck that person, and when and how.

I do not like writers who lump all women into one or another category. Or men, either, for that matter.

"How do you like your male characters, innocent and virginal, or lewd and slutty?"

Doesn't that sound stupid?

 

[FickleFilly]

I like my women to be a little bit realistic.



"How do you like your male characters, innocent and virginal, or lewd and slutty?"

Doesn't that sound stupid?

As I said we're all attracted to a certain type... personally I kike strong self assured men...
whinny types just annoy me as do pushy men... we like what we like... and while I hate to admit to it... I often judge a person on those first impression too...

 

[Stella_Omega]

As I said we're all attracted to a certain type... personally I kike strong self assured men...
whinny types just annoy me as do pushy men... we like what we like... and while I hate to admit to it... I often judge a person on those first impression too...

Yeah, I like strong, self-assured people in general. Sometimes they are men, sometimes women, sometimes strong self-assured people have had lots of sexual experience, sometimes they are virgins.

So how do you like your men? Do you like them sweet and innocent, or lewd and lascivious?

Or do those words have no meaning for men, only for women?

 

[lovecraft68]

Depends on the mood. They both have advantages, but all in all I go for meek on the outside then the claws come out when they get you back home.

 

[colddiesel]

Just slightly surprised that more folks haven't objected to the possessive, "your" woman, or "your" men for that matter. Seems to indicate a degree of insecurity on the part of those comfortable with the term, Stella excepted.

 

[Feotakahari]

I've written them multiple ways. Most commonly, they're knowledgeable about the mechanics of sex, but awkward about actually having it. (Actually, the men tend to be like that, too. I guess that's what comes of a virgin writing porn.)

 

[mikey2much]

virgin or slutty?

I think it is a little deeper than that. Lets say that sex is money. Men will just spend it on anything, buy, buy,baby, buy, buy. A women wants to invest her money, not just throw it away. To me a slut is a woman who acts like a man and just spends her money on a good time. Where the virgin just waits for the right investment.

Most of the women in my stories are aware of how they are spending their sex. The fact that they are happy while they do it is because I write fiction.

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

Just slightly surprised that more folks haven't objected to the possessive, "your" woman, or "your" men for that matter. . .

I’m assuming that the possessive applied to women/men refers to the women/ men one reads or writes about, not actual persons. A writer’s characters are their women and their men, and if the reader embraces them, they can become the reader’s women and men, too.

For myself, I prefer characters who grow in either direction. Who, because of what has occurred in the story, become more inhibited or more uninhibited.

So far, I have not been able to manage the feat in this genre, but I have seen it done.

 

[sr71plt]

I’m assuming that the possessive applied to women/men refers to the women/ men one reads or writes about, not actual persons. A writer’s characters are their women and their men, and if the reader embraces them, they can become the reader’s women and men, too.

For myself, I prefer characters who grow in either direction. Who, because of what has occurred in the story, become more inhibited or more uninhibited.

So far, I have not been able to manage the feat in this genre, but I have seen it done.

Yeah, I think Colddiesel is just picking a fight with a shadow. It's pretty obvious the OP is referring to characters, not real people. No one used your women/men even that I could see. Some used my women/men (but so did Stella--frequently). My response was just tongue in cheek, because I don't use just one type of character for either male or female characters.

 

[oggbashan]

I like my female characters to be people.

I don't always succeed.

 

[Cadere]

I'd like her to have a touch of the feisty personality, but not so much that it's obnoxiously bossy.

I have eyes for the delicate woman who isn't so reserved that she cannot speak her mind in her own defense.

She doesn't have to be a virgin, but I don't want her to be a whore about it. It's the balance that makes a woman real.

 

[SevenSquared]

Either is fine, depending on what works best in the context of the story. I guess I have a very slight preference for stories about more 'innocent' women, but I would much rather the woman is whatever she needs to be to make the story work. In fact, in the last two stories I have written, one has contained a very strong and sexually confident female lead and the other a very self-conscious and rather inexperienced one.

In response to Stella's question, I think it is an equally valid question to ask about men as well, the only difference is we tend to use slightly different adjectives. 'Innocent and 'virginal' men (or 'shy and inexperienced' as we would more often refer to them) tend to work quite well in certain types of stories, typically when accompanied by a stronger and more confident woman. I have read a couple of decent stories where both parties are very 'innocent' but it tends to be very difficult to write in a way that is believable while still moving along at a respectable pace. Stories where both leads are confident and 'slutty' work fine, although I don't tend to find these stories so arousing. That's purely personal preference though.

 

[lovecraft68]

I think it is a little deeper than that. Lets say that sex is money. Men will just spend it on anything, buy, buy,baby, buy, buy. A women wants to invest her money, not just throw it away. To me a slut is a woman who acts like a man and just spends her money on a good time. Where the virgin just waits for the right investment.

Most of the women in my stories are aware of how they are spending their sex. The fact that they are happy while they do it is because I write fiction.

Hey Mikey, when was the last time you saw a woman go "shopping" the 70's?

They are "spending" as freely as men these days.

 

[mikey2much]

I blundered into a thread the other day

Hey Mikey, when was the last time you saw a woman go "shopping" the 70's?

They are "spending" as freely as men these days.

I know I am old fashioned but there is a thread up now where the OP states she hasn't had sex in three years. A man would never say that I don't think unless he was in jail.

I use the word blundered because I made a lighthearted comment about the woman needed to treat her pussy like a puppy and solicalize it. I recieved the reply; Sod off, I'm frigid.

I thought that the woman was whinning because if a man said he hadn't had sex for three years he would most definitity be whinning.

So I left the thread to the girls and just read the post. It seemed that all of them wanted to have sex but they all perferred a battery operated lover to a man. For a man nothing takes the palce of a woman.

 

[LucyH]

I don't know if I have a strong preference, though when the character is inexperienced, I don't want it to be because she's a naive prude.

Shy about mentioning what she really wants because it's super freaky - great
Surprised and temporarily discombobulated by a partner's freaky request - great
Frisky, but prevented from having sex due to some practical concern - great
Pretending to be a naive prude for some pragmatic reason - great
Actual naive prude - yawn

 

[lovecraft68]

I know I am old fashioned but there is a thread up now where the OP states she hasn't had sex in three years. A man would never say that I don't think unless he was in jail.

I use the word blundered because I made a lighthearted comment about the woman needed to treat her pussy like a puppy and solicalize it. I recieved the reply; Sod off, I'm frigid.

I thought that the woman was whinning because if a man said he hadn't had sex for three years he would most definitity be whinning.

So I left the thread to the girls and just read the post. It seemed that all of them wanted to have sex but they all perferred a battery operated lover to a man. For a man nothing takes the palce of a woman.

Three years is pretty extreme, I am sure there are other issues there. I tend not to post to often over there. seems like a lot of people are just venting ad looking for someone to lash out at.

When I got divorced after being married for seven years, I found it mind blowing how many one night stands I found and how many women are along the lines of "why not?" But hey if men can be that way why can't they?

 

[LettersFromTatyana]

For myself, I prefer characters who grow in either direction. Who, because of what has occurred in the story, become more inhibited or more uninhibited.

this, kind of.

I find the OP's distinction as useful as the rl virgin/whore dichotomy.

I don't care if a story starts with a virgin or a whore. More important is that stories involve some sort of personal growth. And given that this is erotica, that growth should ideally include some sort of personal growth in a sexual nature.

Two people who never thought they'd mesh well? Great. Someone trying something they never thought they'd enjoy/never enjoyed in the past, and finding they enjoy it? Great. Someone finding out that, gee, they don't like something as much as they thought they did? That's great, too.

Any of the above can work with two virgins, two whores, or some combination thereof. Or, hey, real people, who are far more complex than those archetypes.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Tatyana, word. I agree. I want my characters to have been changed in some way-- which is the same thing I want in any type of story, not only smut.

And your examples light my fire.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

How about just plain old fucked silly?

 

[Stella_Omega]

How about just plain old fucked silly?

That's the porn ending of choice, for sure.