How do you like/Hate to be approached here at Lit?

[yourdestonie]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

 

[WantonWitch]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

You just put it into words for me........ nothing to add

 

[yourdestonie]

You just put it into words for me........ nothing to add

I think that at least for the newbiees they need to know this. and the more of us who let them know here maybe they will learn one newbie at a time. Course I've had men with over 1000 posts do the same they should know by now thats not acceptable.


My thoughts are if you wouldn't walk up to a lady in a Bar and say what your typing in a PM then it probly shouldn't be typed.

 

[WantonWitch]

I think that at least for the newbiees they need to know this. and the more of us who let them know here maybe they will learn one newbie at a time. Course I've had men with over 1000 posts do the same they should know by now thats not acceptable.


My thoughts are if you wouldn't walk up to a lady in a Bar and say what your typing in a PM then it probly shouldn't be typed.

Very true, if anyone spoke to me in public the way I've been approached by pm I'd have more than likely poured my drink over thier head, that's if I was feeling polite anyway...... other thoughts include a good hard kick.

The general thought seems to be that you must indulge in all manner of sexual activities just because you are a member of Lit. Wrong !

 

[yourdestonie]

Very true, if anyone spoke to me in public the way I've been approached by pm I'd have more than likely poured my drink over thier head, that's if I was feeling polite anyway...... other thoughts include a good hard kick.

The general thought seems to be that you must indulge in all manner of sexual activities just because you are a member of Lit. Wrong !

exactly

here I don't mind discussing my sexual likes and dislikes in open forum. However when you take it to PM it becomes a bit more personal. If you want to know about me just post in one of the many threads I frequent I'm not hard to find and I'll be as honest as I can be.

Games are for teenagers lets leave them somewhere else. I don't mind teasing and bantering back and forth thats what Lit is all about. But I've found alot of the men here can't type a post or a PM without telling me what it is they want to do to me and how. Don't get me wrong its fun sometimes but as a steady diet it gets old really fast.

 

[omahaman2]

My apologies on behalf of the male gender on lit.

 

[JustFlow]

Approached? People actually get approached on Lit? Guess my day will come... sigh.

 

[yourdestonie]

My apologies on behalf of the male gender on lit.

actually I think its just because most of them don't know how to approach. I don't think they are all bad in fact usually when i explain to them that It makes me feel uncomfortable when they do that it stops. I just thought that if we discussed it and let the new people know whats liked and not liked they wouldn't make that mistake.

Most of the men here ar not in any way like that but its the few that are who cause the problems.

 

[yourdestonie]

Approached? People actually get approached on Lit? Guess my day will come... sigh.

Just post and we'll come around sweetie treat Lit like a Bar.................. Flirt and get to know the ladies here someone will strike up a conversation with you and who knows something great may come of it.

 

[sweetgirl666]

Amen, nothing to add!


The worst is "so sweetgirl, are you really sweet" or "wanna chat?" as if I havent heard either one of them before.

 

[JustFlow]

Just post and we'll come around sweetie treat Lit like a Bar.................. Flirt and get to know the ladies here someone will strike up a conversation with you and who knows something great may come of it.

LMAo... was just kidding... quite content wheere I am. But thanks for your concern

 

[yourdestonie]

Amen, nothing to add!


The worst is "so sweetgirl, are you really sweet" or "wanna chat?" as if I havent heard either one of them before.

I think we should charge a quarter for everytime we hear those lines we wouldn't have to work LOL

 

[yourdestonie]

LMAo... was just kidding... quite content wheere I am. But thanks for your concern

LOL thats me I try to help when ever I can

 

[omahaman2]

Just post and we'll come around sweetie treat Lit like a Bar.................. Flirt and get to know the ladies here someone will strike up a conversation with you and who knows something great may come of it.

She speaks the truth everyone!
If it wasnt for LIT, i wouldnt be engaged right now.I met my soulmate right here.
We took our time,got to know each other,met and right now she is upstairs!

 

[yourdestonie]

She speaks the truth everyone!
If it wasnt for LIT, i wouldnt be engaged right now.I met my soulmate right here.
We took our time,got to know each other,met and right now she is upstairs!

I wonder sometimes just how many really Long term relationships have come from this site and how they actually progressed from strangers to a happily married couple.

 

[omahaman2]

Quite a few,that I know. A couple on the general board just got married about a month ago, and I know of at least a few more myself. The progression happened for us by doing what you suggested in your posts. Treat it like you would any other relationship. Like you said,if you wouldnt say it in person, dont use it here!
A relationship takes time to develop, cant understand why some think just because they both own a pc it is any different. LOL,everyone would be hanging out at computer stores instead of bars!

 

[yourdestonie]

Quite a few,that I know. A couple on the general board just got married about a month ago, and I know of at least a few more myself. The progression happened for us by doing what you suggested in your posts. Treat it like you would any other relationship. Like you said,if you wouldnt say it in person, dont use it here!
A relationship takes time to develop, cant understand why some think just because they both own a pc it is any different. LOL,everyone would be hanging out at computer stores instead of bars!

Boy you got that right. If I only could count the number of times I've been asked in the very first contact post or PM If I would like to meet in person.

First and for most thats very dangerous and second I usually don't go out with men I meet once in person why would I do that here?

 

[omahaman2]

Boy you got that right. If I only could count the number of times I've been asked in the very first contact post or PM If I would like to meet in person.

First and for most thats very dangerous and second I usually don't go out with men I meet once in person why would I do that here?

The first time we met was after months and months of pming,Iming,meeting in LIT
chatrooms and phone calls and when I finally flew to meet her I still met a group of people rather than just her alone. What was really funny though was because
she was from NYC people were almost more worried about me.They kept joking about reading in the paper about a guy from the midwest found tied up nude,mugged and robbed in a vacant building in manhattan. All you have to do is remeber one simple thing,behind that screen is a person,and should be treated with respect. I could just imagine answering someone who asks us how we met? and answering I typed WANNA THIS OR THAT and she was mine. Geesh, I cant believe how some think that could be a turn on to hear that from someone they never met before!

 

[yourdestonie]

The first time we met was after months and months of pming,Iming,meeting in LIT
chatrooms and phone calls and when I finally flew to meet her I still met a group of people rather than just her alone. What was really funny though was because
she was from NYC people were almost more worried about me.They kept joking about reading in the paper about a guy from the midwest found tied up nude,mugged and robbed in a vacant building in manhattan. All you have to do is remeber one simple thing,behind that screen is a person,and should be treated with respect. I could just imagine answering someone who asks us how we met? and answering I typed WANNA THIS OR THAT and she was mine. Geesh, I cant believe how some think that could be a turn on to hear that from someone they never met before!

As most know I help plan some pretty large Litogethers and I've formed some really great friendships by way of attending those and of course I've met some who showed me they were not people i would want to associate with outside a group setting.

those are really great ways to actually meet people from lit in person without feeling unsafe.

our litogethers have spauned (sp) one marriage already *grins* and I'm very happy for them. They attended with no real thoughts that the relationship would be anything but friends and it evolved to a wonderfull relationship.

 

[done_got_old]

First I'd want the person to read my profile! Note that I'm 56 years old! It doesn't say that my interest is in men my own age, neither does it say that I'm interested in younger men. Don't assume either way.

The most annoying pms that I've received are from bi-women. My profile says that I'm straight, but that seems to translate to something else sometimes at least to some people.

Because I'm here, don't assume that I want to read sexually explicit pms from strangers. I don't.

Okay, I've got to return to the real world.

 

[omahaman2]

As most know I help plan some pretty large Litogethers and I've formed some really great friendships by way of attending those and of course I've met some who showed me they were not people i would want to associate with outside a group setting.

those are really great ways to actually meet people from lit in person without feeling unsafe.

our litogethers have spauned (sp) one marriage already *grins* and I'm very happy for them. They attended with no real thoughts that the relationship would be anything but friends and it evolved to a wonderfull relationship.

and I want to thank you for all the fun and joy you've brought many of my friends like Liza and tulip and flirt and LTR and mant more,too numerous to mention,
by having them! Thank you!

 

[yourdestonie]

First I'd want the person to read my profile! Note that I'm 56 years old! It doesn't say that my interest is in men my own age, neither does it say that I'm interested in younger men. Don't assume either way.

The most annoying pms that I've received are from bi-women. My profile says that I'm straight, but that seems to translate to something else sometimes at least to some people.

Because I'm here, don't assume that I want to read sexually explicit pms from strangers. I don't.

Okay, I've got to return to the real world.

I just hope those who do this are reading and taking notes

It's not just the men who do this.

theres alot of women out there who think that just because a man is here he'll want to "fuck" anything with a slit.

thats not so either.

I'd like to see more people filling out their profiles too I usually don't even give those who have nothing there the time of day let alone tfying to get to know them.

 

[yourdestonie]

and I want to thank you for all the fun and joy you've brought many of my friends like Liza and tulip and flirt and LTR and mant more,too numerous to mention,
by having them! Thank you!

Ya know when I was helping to plan my first one (wow almost 2 years ago now) I had no Idea how many truly great people I'd meet. those you just menitoned are among some of the best, and the list is long.

I'd love it if you and yours could attend one sometime that would be wonderfull.

 

[Bluesboy2]

1. DO NOT assume you can afford me. You prolly can't.

2. I WILL NOT take a check under any circumstances. Don't even ask.

3. If you send me hot PM's with out introducing yourself that's fine. But don't assume that will get you a discount.

4. Yes I know I'm wonderful. I am from Texas after all.

5. If you can afford me and I do deign to bless you but putting out, please start a thread about it.

I wish the women here could understand all this. It really is annoying they assume I will fuck for free

 

[yourdestonie]

1. DO NOT assume you can afford me. You prolly can't.

2. I WILL NOT take a check under any circumstances. Don't even ask.

3. If you send me hot PM's with out introducing yourself that's fine. But don't assume that will get you a discount.

4. Yes I know I'm wonderful. I am from Texas after all.

5. If you can afford me and I do deign to bless you but putting out, please start a thread about it.

I wish the women here could understand all this. It really is annoying they assume I will fuck for free

thanks for the in put but I was really hoping this thread would be treated as a subject not a joke.

Thats another thing thats anoying around here people always try to make fun of things that actually are not ment to be made fun of.

And just for your info the day I have to pay for it is the day I quit.