How do you handle bumping into an ex?

[Latina]

Our son was sick Friday night, and Frank and I took him to the doctor. At the doctor's office, we bumped into Jack, my last boyfriend before I met and married Frank. It was a bit awkward, but it also made me glad I dumped Jack and wound-up with Frank:

1. Jack's clothing was dirty and stained.
2. His face was unshaved for about 2-3 days.
3. He smelled of beer.
4. His mother was at the doctor's office with him.
Yes, at age 51, he STILL lives with his mommy, and goes
everywhere/does everything with her!

All of these things made me remember the many reasons why I dumped him.

We were all polite to Jack, but the whole time I just wanted to get away, and after my son was examined and given medicine, as we drove off, we all sang the song my son and I sang when Jack and I split-up five years ago: "Hit the road, Jack, and don't you come back no more."

A few weeks ago, Frank bumped into an old girlfriend of his. He dumped her about 10 years ago, after she told him that his (Jewish) great-grandparents DESERVED their torture and death in a concentration camp, because they did not believe in Jesus! She could talk for hours about the cat she had as a little girl, and Frank would get bored to tears. She was evidently a real nut job! He's told me that he would try to engage her in conversations about current events, and she would always change the subject to how beautiful her hair/makeup/nails/clothing or whatever looked that day. Anyway, she is STILL single (big surprise). She had one son when they were dating, now she also has two daughters (not the same father as her son). He says he felt awkward and creepy seeing her again, and she was still as much a weirdo as ever. He tried to talk to her politely, while his legs wanted to carry him the hell away from there. He gave me lots of grateful hugs after telling me of this encounter, I guess he's glad he met me and didn't stick with her or some of the other dates from hell he's had.

So, just curious, have any of you run into an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend you can't stand, and how did you handle the encounter?

-- Latina

 

[Silverlily]

Fully loaded 12-gauge.



I've never done the "Let's be friends" break-up.

 

[teresafannin]

Hi Latina, My fiancee's ex treated him terribly & he is much better off without her-modest, aren't I? We see her & her hubby on a regular basis since we all go to the same Ren Faires. The first few times, she was really a bitch to me & her hubby had some stupid ass idea that my sweetie wanted to get her back. I finally took matters into my own hands at a faire 2 years ago. I took her aside, told her to grow up, that he was totally over her & happier with me than he ever was with her. I then took her hubby aside & told him the same thing. She has this idea that every man wants her, so being the bitch I am on occasion, I shattered her illusions. My ex & I had an ugly divorce & the few times he would see me were terrible. I must say, however, that in the last year, he has become friends with us. He dealt with the police & the ME for me last year, I will be forever grateful to him for that. The rest of our exes are out of our lives & I am grateful for that. I hope your son is feeling better.

 

[Juliangel]

I live on the other side of the city from them to ensure that doesn't happen.

[Edited by Juliangel on 11-20-2000 at 10:11 AM]

 

[Expertise]

I enjoy fairly congenial relationships with most. Or at least they are pleasant to my face LOL.

I am not a coward. That being said there is one whom I will avoid like the plague (without being too obvious about it)LOL.

Our relationship did not end well. Although I never "cheated" on her I immediately became involved with some one else. It was over three years ago yet she will still "sing my praises" in malls, bars, at sporting events etc.

Not fun.

 

[CW]

Fully loaded 12-gauge.

Sounds reasonable to me!!




And I simply moved to the other side of the state,,, no shit

 

[Closet Desire]

Oh you'll love this one then...

My wife's ex "replaced" her after only two weeks with the first woman he met at a singles bar...it was her fourth marriage. According to the kids they row all the time and she's a right cow. My lovely wife tells me she's just like his mother! I guess that's what he wanted all along.

The best part is that in the five years since they split he's aged at least fifteen and my lovely, adorable wife has shed ten years. It makes being forty (or so) really cool!

She said the best revenge was living well. He predicted that she would be poverty stricken and destitute within a year of the divorce. Instead she drives a Mercedes, holidays in Spain, has published books, and shot up to the top of her profession. Way cool.

Now we just feel sorry for him...well...sometimes.

 

[Guest]

 

[Weinergirl]

EX next door!

Screw running into them-what about living next door to them. My husbands ex-moved in next door to us about 2 years into our marriage. I am not a jealous type. From the begininng I always bragged that my dh and I have total trust in one another. We have a very open and honest marriage-that allows us the option to be with other people sexually. I like to think of this time as the put-up or shut up time for me. I had always chided other girlfriends about being so hyper-sensitive about whether their guy talks to another lady or demanding a guy be able to account for their whereabouts at all times. I didn't want to be a hypocrite but I was a bit nervous. Here she was -and I had read some of the old love letters they shared-next door and totally single! They had a huge love affair (extremely sexual in nature) and she dumped him when her then boyfriend came home from his tour of military duty. I was nervous and expressed it to my dh. He got a big kick out of it and told me there was absolutely nothing to worry about.


I was very nice to her on the outside-polite and saying hi whenever we passed each other. I never invited her inside.
I just didn't trust her for some reason.

Well one day I came home from work heard his voice coming out of her apartment. I went into our apartment and waited for a bit, I tried to put my ear to the wall but I couldn't hear anything. He had told me he was going to go over and chit chat so things wouldn't be awkward. I decided not to just show up and invite myself over so I called my sis , left him a note, and we went out for dinner. Bad idea -she is sweet and I love her to death but she was no help. YOu can imagine the scenarios she brought up. I told her she was totally wrong about my dh's ability to resist temptation. So I came home and he immediately told me everything. She called him inside as he was getting home from work. He expressed she hadn't changed much, they chatted about mutual friends, looked at old pics. and caught up on things. Just talking with her he realized all over again they really had nothing in common besides the physical. I didn't think to ask if he felt attracted to her. As time went on she never really talked to me much but wasn't rude or catty. I totally stopped thinking about it. About this time we got a new job offer which required us to move out of state . In the process of moving I spent a few nights with my mom. During this time he gave her a ride home one day-her car was always broken. She invited him in-he accepted. She gave him a soda -said she said she'd be right back. She left the room and shortly afterward he heard a shower going. He stood up and noticed the bathroom door was open. He then shouted that he had to go and he would see her around. He called me and told me about it. I was so pissed that she would try something like that-I never said anything to her and we moved away. We have always had a totally open marriage and I'm glad that what we believe to be correct for us in theory really works in practice.


Phew! My sister thinks I am nuts-she's had three failed reltionships and I have been together with this man for eight years.
Wg

 

[Silverlily]

Wow WG, talk about keeping a calm head, I'm impressed.

(are you sure you wouldn't like to borrow my 12-gauge anyway?)

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

I moved to another state to make sure that would not happen in my
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[Weinergirl]

It definitely crossed my mind. Hey if we run into her during the holidays I'll give you a call!

Wg

 

[Jay Leno]

Big wheels keep on turning

I ran into my ex the other day. It turned out to be a very pleasurable experience. I was driving my car at the time.

 

[Latina]

Wow, shotguns and driving over one's ex. No bitterness on this BB, no siree!

I simply tried to be polite when Jack came up to me at the hospital and started talking. I think what made it somewhat awkward was that my husband Frank was there with me. But I was reminded, and Frank could see for himself, what a loser Jack is. When Frank ran into an ex-girlfriend (the one who was in FAVOR of Hitler's holocaust) a few weeks ago, I wasn't there, but he said he felt awkward and just wanted to get away. He was on his way from his office to his car when she passed him on the sidewalk and said hello. Guess he didn't think to get in his car and LITERALLY run into her like "Jay Leno" suggested!

I am enjoying the funny and interesting replies on this thread. Having an ex next door was an interesting story, and Weinergirl showed a LOT of class in how she handled it. I would love to hear from others on how they deal with meeting an ex.

I kinda wish there was a selective memory eraser so Frank and I could erase all the duds we each dated before we met. And some way to avoid meeting an ex again and bringing back unpleasant memories. But on the other hand, reminders of how bad all those exes were, only makes us appreciate each other all the more.

-- Latina

 

[GuyJD]

I can recall only once seeing an ex-girlfriend who was in worst shape than I after the breakup. We broke up after she believed others allegations of me. She lived about 2 blocks from my job at the time. About a year after our break up, she ended up pregnant for an abusive boyfriend who was in jail for murder. How lucky was she?
I handled it well then. She saw me once with a tall, sexy, younger woman at that time and didn't look too happy to see us.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Usually it's quite easy...my ex lives in Hawaii and I live in Kansas. Unfortunately, we share a child. As a matter of fact, I've got the most horrible case of indigestion/heartburn because in a couple of hours, I have to go see him to "talk." The last time we "talked" he asked me for a divorce. UGH!!!!!!!

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

Uhm..... I just say hi... hows it going... and then be polite... I could care less if I met up with an old ex...

 

[Bushido71XS]

Except for one of my ex-girlfriends/lovers, I've stayed in touch with and become even better friends than when we were together.As a matter of fact my current ex Kami and I who stopped dating, over two years ago, are the best of confidants, we make it a point to get together and relax and spend some no pressure time together.

There are exceptions to every rule though, my last Ex, Tracye, evil manipulative bitch that she is, I haven't made up my mind to eiter play like the line from Aliens and "Be afraid, be very afraid." Or just drop it and be frosty about the whole deal.

Thankfully she moved to the other side of the state so I won't have to make that decision readily.

 

[Phoenix]

the Great Escape

Here what I do when bumping into an Ex develop...........Instant Case of Amnesia. Yes just forget you saw them don't make eye contact and if the coast is clear run like hell. As a extra precaution if you know you are going to run into an ex- please keep friend behind the wheel with the engine running just in case. Hey it works for all occasion: Weddings, Dances, Malls, the dark quiet hallway in the back of the club that was good for a few quickies.


Just rememeber this credo: Although some were willing to die someday, I run like hell to see another day

 

[lala]

guys- ever wonder why a woman insists on looking fanFUCKIN'tastic if she's going to go out, even if it's just to the supermarket? it's because if i run into an ex, i want to make sure i look like i've never been better, the stars are shining on me,... cuz we know what we think when we see an ex that looks cracked out : "heh heh"

so, as far as seeing ex's goes, i'm always frosty, i'm laughing real hard, or preening, and damnit, i look good! i don't want an ex to have any satisfaction,...

i'm so cruel! i know

 

[Sammyjo]

I'm with Cyan on this one...I don't care one way or another. I also don't think any of my ex-anythings are worth the time worrying about it. I can't even recall running into an ex. I stay clear of any place they would be...like the bars, or a ditch on the freeway.

I also do NOT do what lala said. I've been known to wake up, run a brush through my hair, get dressed, and walk out the door..no makeup, no hairspray, etc. Seriously, the absolute last thing I need is one of them seeing me look good...I got rid of them for a reason, I don't want them to start hanging around again.

I guess I see one ex on occasion. We dated in high school and have known each other for 15 years. We don't have much time together, he's busy with his work, and I'm busy raising a kid. I think we both always thought we'd end up together. I know his mother absolutely adores me and my child. We get together on holidays, etc. Who knows? Life has a strange way of working out sometimes.

 

[ANiceGuy]

Dallas Texas-----------------------Dayton Ohio was my solution!!

Yeah I put some states between me and my first wife and even then she did cause me some problems. 5 years after our divorce with credit but I got it cleared up. Just was a real big hastle. She would call me every 6 months and get friendly when she was between boyfriends and needed money. For a "dumb" blonde she sure was good at "finding" me when I didn't tell her new addresses or phone numbers!!!

 

[CelestialBody]