How do you get over a breakup?

[zerimar1231]

Do you start dating right away? Do you wallow for a while? Do you hang out with friends so you can have a shoulder to cry on? Or do you simply close yourself off to the world?

 

[bisexplicit]

Different things work for different people.
I would suggest against rebound dating. Try to give yourself a reflective (and/or mourning) period. Spend time doing activities you enjoy and try to remember that you don't need a significant other to enjoy life.

 

[liloleme]

Time. Time heals all wounds, no matter how cliche it sounds. Time gives you percpective on the relationship, and time takes the pain away.

It took me a while after my last relationship, but I feel like a brand new person now!

Just try to stay busy while the time passes. Hobbies, hanging out with friends, take a class maybe...

I'd suggest you not rebound date either. Looking back on a couple guys I dated right afer my ex, all I can think now is that I wasn't thinking at all.

Take care.

 

[DarkMuse]

Um....with the ex fiance....when it ended, it ended (minus the break up sex).

With the ex boyfriend, we stayed friends (and actually, helped each other heal over the breakup, since all our friends were trying to make one of us the bad guy, when there wasn't one).

With the one I'm with now...we're "paused".

 

[rcuhljr]

Um....with the ex fiance....when it ended, it ended (minus the break up sex).

With the ex boyfriend, we stayed friends (and actually, helped each other heal over the breakup, since all our friends were trying to make one of us the bad guy, when there wasn't one).

With the one I'm with now...we're "paused".

Read your paused thread muse, sorry about that, it sounds like you really like him, I hope he can let you in.

As to generaly dealing with a break up, two words.

Roadtrip, Ohio.

Would I steer you wrong?

 

[FurryFury]

I can't, not, see people, and date after a break up. Interested folks come of out the woodwork on those rare and fleeting occasions that I am free. Much to my surprise. I was screwing my current husband (who was a long time good friend) within two weeks, maybe sooner of the other one walking out. I had special needs though. I was pregnant and my hormones were driving me nuts. The ex didn't "git r done" so someone needed too. *snickers* Oh and despite the fact that rebound relationships "don't work" we've been very happy together for 15 years now. Don't you just love it when life hands you a sweet slice of heaven at a time you least expect it?

Fury

 

[nycphoto]

Go for the girls who just want to get laid. Best way to forget another body is to share youself with another body.

 

[RavenousRae]

I was broken up with a couple months ago. Since it was in the middle of my school semester and I work full time, I was really busy which helps me. Keeping my life in a normal routine, maybe with a couple extra phone calls to friends and being with people that I know care about me, is my way to go about it. Still not sure how I feel about dating again but I know I need to get out there to prove to myself that I can.