how do you get it going?

[Faremistress]

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[SirFace]

This article helped me realize that I could be who I am and still learn new things and try things without having to conform to someones idea of what a "Dom" is. Took a lot of pressure off. Once I understood and witnessed the pain to pleasure connection, I was no longer afraid of "hurting" her.

Hope it helps him and you.

http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/domadvic.html

 

[Dread_Pirate_Roberts]

You need to really comunicate with your SO. Talk a lot more. You need to define what you really want just as he has to tell you in advance what he wants during the "session". If he thinks he would be interested in dominating you, maybe you should find some info. on the older threads here and get your husband read them. Also, I wouldn't say you are topping from the bottom, you are just trying to get what you want. Nothing wrong with that, my lovely one. Good luck.
Dread.