How do you feel...

[Aphrodisiac]

I don't mind at all ... I dated a man with a 14 yr old girl and I did not think twice when he told me , he lied at first because he was afraid I would not want to go out with him.

Many of the women he dated before freaked when they found out he had a daugther and she was living with him.


Like, I said I did not mind, he was a great guy.

 

[calypso_21]

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Caly...these are my feelings, make of them what you will.

If someone is interested in me, and they are not interested in my children....they are history. There is nothing in this world more important than my children, and there never will be. I am not looking for some man to play Daddy to them, and I don't need him to support them or anything else, other than to simply be their friend. This is why I speak so openly of them here, they are me.... and to care for me, well, my children need to be seen for the beautiful people they are, and not a "turn off" or a "challenge".

If YOUR love interest has children...umm....I'm sorry, I guess I don't understand the question???

Was actually waiting on your post hun!

I agree with you completely. Mine are me also. You said how I feel.

The question wasn't worded well...I meant what if your new interest has children...how would you feel? Not my new love interest but yours. I'm just curious.

 

[intrigued]

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Was actually waiting on your post hun!

I agree with you completely. Mine are me also. You said how I feel.

The question wasn't worded well...I meant what if your new interest has children...how would you feel? Not my new love interest but yours. I'm just curious.

Thank you, I apopreciate that you were looking for my thoughts.

I guess I am having trouble with the question because it is a non~issue, its something you simply accept, every bit as much as you accept his hair color and his name. Its just "him"...every bit as much as my kiddies are "me".
I ached to be a mother all my life....and that mother in me just loves children and family, and it is very cool to me for a man to have children. Actually, watching a man interact with his children gives me such a glimpse into that mans heart, and thats always a good thing.
Now, if you're talking about issues such as marrying him, etc....you are asking the wrong lady. I don't plan to go that route again, but I can say that is such an individual process that only the two of you can work out. Just as you work out all the arrangements for being alone, etc.....where there is a will, there is a way.
I have only one bit of advice. For a very long time to come, I think you should keep your dating life private from your children. Its hard on them to form relationships with men that may or may not stick around......

If I have not answered the question yet, refresh me.

 

[calypso_21]

I don't mind at all ... I dated a man with a 14 yr old girl and I did not think twice when he told me , he lied at first because he was afraid I would not want to go out with him.

Many of the women he dated before freaked when they found out he had a daugther and she was living with him.

Like, I said I did not mind, he was a great guy.

Sounds like you found a good man. What happened? I noted the was...

 

[calypso_21]

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Thank you, I apopreciate that you were looking for my thoughts.

I guess I am having trouble with the question because it is a non~issue, its something you simply accept, every bit as much as you accept his hair color and his name. Its just "him"...every bit as much as my kiddies are "me".
I ached to be a mother all my life....and that mother in me just loves children and family, and it is very cool to me for a man to have children. Actually, watching a man interact with his children gives me such a glimpse into that mans heart, and thats always a good thing.
Now, if you're talking about issues such as marrying him, etc....you are asking the wrong lady. I don't plan to go that route again, but I can say that is such an individual process that only the two of you can work out. Just as you work out all the arrangements for being alone, etc.....where there is a will, there is a way.
I have only one bit of advice. For a very long time to come, I think you should keep your dating life private from your children. Its hard on them to form relationships with men that may or may not stick around......

If I have not answered the question yet, refresh me.

My pleasure! I agree with your comment on the interaction between father and child it is very true.

LoL I am no where near thoughts of remarriage. But it is there in the back of my mind. I don't know if it will happen or not...but I'm not dwelling on it. If it happens it happens...if it is meant to be it will be. and so on...

I thank you for the advice. I had actually thought of it myself. I was given the same advice by a friend after I had just came to the same conclusion and now your comment really solidifies it for me.

I'm still in the me stage right now anyway....who knows when it will end?

 

[intrigued]

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My pleasure! I agree with your comment on the interaction between father and child it is very true.

LoL I am no where near thoughts of remarriage. But it is there in the back of my mind. I don't know if it will happen or not...but I'm not dwelling on it. If it happens it happens...if it is meant to be it will be. and so on...

I thank you for the advice. I had actually thought of it myself. I was given the same advice by a friend after I had just came to the same conclusion and now your comment really solidifies it for me.

I'm still in the me stage right now anyway....who knows when it will end?

The "me" stage is a lifetime journey.....

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Sounds like you found a good man. What happened? I noted the was...

Well he was a very nice guy & he had every thing a woman is looking for ... he was established in his work , he had his priorities in order when it came to his family.

But he was 12 yrs older then myself & he was looking to get married & start a family once again. And , I was not looking to get married or anything along those lines. I told him I was not ready to get married & I was not in love with him. We remained friends for a while & then recently he called & told me he was getting married to his new gf. I was happy for him, I was happy he found some one. Yet when he called me he said that he wanted to know one last time if I would say yes ...

 

[calypso_21]

Well he was a very nice guy & he had every thing a woman is looking for ... he was established in his work , he had his priorities in order when it came to his family.

But he was 12 yrs older then myself & he was looking to get married & start a family once again. And , I was not looking to get married or anything along those lines. I told him I was not ready to get married & I was not in love with him. We remained friends for a while & then recently he called & told me he was getting married to his new gf. I was happy for him, I was happy he found some one. Yet when he called me he said that he wanted to know one last time if I would say yes ...

Wow...that is very, flattering for lack of better word. I know this situation well.

 

[Rambrat]

about a person you meet having children?

What if the children don't live with them and only visit?

But what if they do live with your new interest?

I am very curious as I am single now and have two children. I'm curious as to what to expect. Is this a turn off? Or a challenge? Or what?

Personally, it makes no difference. My reasons for being attracted to someone is for who they are as a person. I only hope that the children like me.

 

[calypso_21]

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The "me" stage is a lifetime journey.....

lol hadn't even thought of this!! Good then!

 

[calypso_21]

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Personally, it makes no difference. My reasons for being attracted to someone is for who they are as a person. I only hope that the children like me.

Knowing what I know of you...I bet children love you!

 

[Rambrat]

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Knowing what I know of you...I bet children love you!

They seem to gravitate to me because I meet them at their level...they also like beating me up. I have a soft spot for little girls and they can control me with their little finger.

 

[calypso_21]

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They seem to gravitate to me because I meet them at their level...they also like beating me up. I have a soft spot for little girls and they can control me with their little finger.

I already knew this ;O) apparently it is not just little girls!

 

[patient1]

You are so good with these tips. I will read pc's story tonite before bed. I am looking forward to it.

pagancowgirl's story is "Touched By an Angel" . She's right , it's raunchy, but it's impassioned, too.

 

[calypso_21]

pagancowgirl's story is "Touched By an Angel" . She's right , it's raunchy, but it's impassioned, too.

Raunchy? Yes. Impassioned? Yes. Hot as hell? DEFINITELY!!

 

[Up Too Late]

GREAT!

I'm not sick anymore, I feel great, strong, and ready to take on the world! Damn this feels good.

 

[calypso_21]

Re: GREAT!

I'm not sick anymore, I feel great, strong, and ready to take on the world! Damn this feels good.

So glad you are feeling better hun. Enjoy!!

 

[Up Too Late]

Why thank you sweetie

Thank you very much calypso I believe I shall enjoy!