How do you deal with it

[AnotherDude99]

So, I'm just posting this, to get some .. understanding and help on how you deal with this. Here's the situation:

Known this person awhile, we played and laffed together for months.. many many months.. and then shit changed. I don't know how to describe it. We just stopped playing.

You think you are connected.. only to find out you are not. I'm sure not many would comment on this, but ... what the fuck. I hate this.

 

[ian370]

So, I'm just posting this, to get some .. understanding and help on how you deal with this. Here's the situation:

Known this person awhile, we played and laffed together for months.. many many months.. and then shit changed. I don't know how to describe it. We just stopped playing.

You think you are connected.. only to find out you are not. I'm sure not many would comment on this, but ... what the fuck. I hate this.

Just my two cents, of course. Change is not always an easy thing. That does not mean it always has to be for the bad, either.

I know it's easier maybe said than experienced. Not much maybe makes some of us more uncomfortable than simply not really knowing.

Connections of any kind are usually hard. Since, they definitely only work when mutual and perhaps even ongoing.

Initial instincts may be beneficial. Nothing really good can come from what may be or feels forced. All should perhaps just come naturally. It may be best to go with the change at times as opposed to trying of fighting against it.

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

So, I'm just posting this, to get some .. understanding and help on how you deal with this. Here's the situation:

Known this person awhile, we played and laffed together for months.. many many months.. and then shit changed. I don't know how to describe it. We just stopped playing.

You think you are connected.. only to find out you are not. I'm sure not many would comment on this, but ... what the fuck. I hate this.

Without knowing specifics, backgrounds, history, things said, etc., etc.(which are none of my business), it's hard to say and it could be due to a number of reasons.

You said "shit changed" and you "just stopped playing." Maybe something was said that was taken the wrong way unbeknownst to you, maybe your person had a life event that changed them that they didn't tell you about.

You also said "You think you are connected." Perhaps you thought you were, but the other person didn't feel the same, and considered your relationship as just a passing fancy. You won't be the first or the last.

I could continue to speculate but I don't think that will help you any. If it's really bothering you to the point of distraction, then you may to talk to someone you know and trust and get some counsel from them. Maybe they can shed some light on it for you.

Anyways, I wish you the best.

 

[EdwardsOtherSide]

So, I'm just posting this, to get some .. understanding and help on how you deal with this. Here's the situation:

Known this person awhile, we played and laffed together for months.. many many months.. and then shit changed. I don't know how to describe it. We just stopped playing.

You think you are connected.. only to find out you are not. I'm sure not many would comment on this, but ... what the fuck. I hate this.

Been there, brother.
It hurts a lot.

Let them know you still care and are there for them, but understand that saying that might change nothing for them.
You can't dictate how they feel, you can only shape how you deal with it.
Sometimes the best answer is to accept that can't change or control them, and move on. It isn't easy, but it is a thing within your control.

 

[WillDarcy]

IRL relationship maybe

Might just be that your play friend got an IRL thing going on and that space took over. They didn’t know how to tell you, or that they needed to because this was an online thing.

I’m sorry, it hurts sometimes.

 

[AnotherDude99]

Thanks to all of you - really appreciate your time and thoughts

for all your answers. and you all have given me things to think on.