How do you deal with Betrayal ?

[Samuelx]

I have a bit of a problem. I am a young black man who is doing alright for himself. I'm 6'2, good-looking, college undergrad and a hardworking carpenter's assistant. Things are okay in my life except in the romantic department......


Ever since my sister attacked me with a knife in August 2003 ( I disarmed her and brought her to justice even though my family members protested), I find myself unable to fully trust females. It's hard to understand them and I really don't want one of them to grab a weapon and attack me for no reason. I also find that the justice system favors women over men and that makes me sad and angry. Justice is supposed to be impartial ! I got this girl who's been good to me and she's helped me in the past but I can't trust her. She has never hurt me but I just can't trust her. I don't want to trust the wrong girl and end up betrayed.


After my sister attacked me, I grew distant and careful around women. I also hung out with men a lot more and looked into men's issues and things of that nature. I wasn't disrespectful of women. I still behaved in a polite way around them. I just didn't trust them. At all. I always thought they betrayed men. I've seen many of them betray men. Once, I learned that a lady friend of my mother's tried to kill her hubby in his sleep. That kind of news messes with my head. I'm a gentleman and I was raised to treat a lady right but what gives her the right to hurt me or betray me ? I recently experienced betrayal from my ex-girlfriend Wendy. She's the first girl I fell for. Also, I loved her enough to confess to her that I was a bisexual man. She hurt a kid and I testified against her in court. She went to jail and recently got out. The courts tell her to stay away from my home and workplace. I don't want to see her ever again.


My current girlfriend Indira has been good to me. She knows that I am a bisexual man ( After the event with my sister, I found myself somewhat atracted to males and had sex with some guys ) and she doesn't care. She's the nicest gal. My friends think she's great. My mother thinks she's cool. I think she's amazing....


Should I trust her or am I setting myself up for another fall ?

 

[deezire1900]

i divorced both of them...bastards.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Honey we can't tell you if this woman or any woman is going to wrong you... every women is different and some will let you down but there are many that will not let you down.

I suggest you talk to a counsellor about your trust issues.

 

[John Doe]

Kill.

 

[Her sissy slave]

trust

unfortunately,. trust is often broken in our lives. and it leaves emotional scars.
i am another one of it's victims.
but i am getting better.
i have found ..some..good people on here,,,,and some on collarme....
i have'a' female friend whom is my mentor,...and i trust her implicitly.
it is never, easy. we all have to ..work-through-it.

i will only say, you have my best hopes and wishes.