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[reja]

A friend and I were having a conversation about good vs bad sex...the problem is that he would not elaborate on how he knew it was bad. I mean there is the obvious stuff like erection problems, bad hygine, no communication... what else is there?

I've never gotten a"bad" review but who knows, my guys could have lied

 

[rob35can]

lack of emotion or enjoyment.

 

[fgarvb1]

I have never had bad sex.

I have had sex that could have gone better.

I also have had sex that could have gone a hell of a lot better.

I have had sex where I thought about checking her pulse.

I have never had bad sex.

If you want to have not so good sex with a man do the following.

Act not very interested in the whole thing.

Refuse to react or participate in any acts of foreplay.

Lay there like your in a coma.

Don't make any noise or show any emotion.

Act like your thinking of anything else.

Ask if your done yet.

Don't shower or clean yourself very often.

Light up a smoke right in the middle of him going down on you.
there are many more.

It doesn't matter how you really feel these things will tarnish the whole experience for him.

 

[Etoile]

That's actually pretty well said. I would say any sex that wasn't fun would be considered bad...it should be enjoyable. (Though each individual's definition of what is enjoyable will certainly vary.)

 

[warrior queen]

you know it's been bad when all his or her friends know about it.

strangely, it's not the great sexcapades that get talked about!

 

[warrior queen]

I have never had bad sex.

I have had sex that could have gone better.

I also have had sex that could have gone a hell of a lot better.

I have had sex where I thought about checking her pulse.

I have never had bad sex.

If you want to have not so good sex with a man do the following.

Act not very interested in the whole thing.

act like it's all about coming in/on her.

Refuse to react or participate in any acts of foreplay.

ask "are you awake?"

Lay there like your in a coma.

lie there and expect her to do all the work.

Don't make any noise or show any emotion.

grunt and snort a lot.

Act like your thinking of anything else.

say another woman's name just before the vinegar stroke.

Ask if your done yet.

roll over and go to sleep when you're done.

Don't shower or clean yourself very often.

don't even get me started on dick-cheese.

Light up a smoke right in the middle of him going down on you.

compare her giving head to monica and the pres.

there are many more.

It doesn't matter how you really feel these things will tarnish the whole experience for him.

and strangely, they apply to both men AND women.

 

[fgarvb1]

Now I don't want to go off on a rant here. (like hell I don't!)

However, there are very few things in this world that piss me off more than a woman either starting or agreeing to a good romp and than fizzling out unless it is saying yes when she means no..

I want action! Goddammit I expect damned near a around the world trip as the woman is capable off or as i can stand.

I want lots of teasing, rubbing, kissing, sucking ect, ect.

If you can't get it on in proper style, than don't act like it.

If you don't like that sort of stuff you should make that very clear to start with.

If you have a kink..well than say so. I may not be the best in the world at it, but I have listened a lot of strange request...and most I was able to do.

I am not into scat, water sports or animals. That is something you should mention a head of time.

Yes, I can handle whips, floggers, CUFFS straps all manner of rope work and leather.

Note: I was raised on a farm and am way to cautious with floggers and whips.

In short I am your average middle-aged grew up in the seventies country boy.

BUT, I cannot read your mind.

I might add throw in a little dancing after a nice dinner and i'm a happy man.

 

[Missingmeds]

Now I don't want to go off on a rant here. (like hell I don't!)

However, there are very things in this world that piss me off more than a woman either starting or agreeing to a good romp and than fizzling out.

I want action! Goddammit I expect damned near a around the world trip as the woman is capable off or as i can stand.

or the man.....

I want lots of teasing, rubbing, kissing, sucking ect, ect.

Some conversation that consists of more than two words would be nice as well.

If you can't get it on in proper style, than don't act like it.

If you are not going to show, then please let me know. If it be from cold feet, building yourself up to something that you aren't, or whatever. I hate being stood up, especially when you don't have the common decency to let me know why.

If you don't like that sort of stuff you should make that very clear to start with.

And don't ask me to do something that you can't handle.

If you have a kink..well than say so. I may not be the best in the world at it, but I have listened a lot of strange request...and most I was able to do.

Don't expect me to do something that you won't do. If I say no, then I mean no. To whatever and I don't like feeling that something is expected of me either. I like to go with the flow and do what I find enjoyable.

 

[fgarvb1]

Originally posted by fgarvb1
Now I don't want to go off on a rant here. (like hell I don't!)

However, there are very things in this world that piss me off more than a woman either starting or agreeing to a good romp and than fizzling out.

I want action! Goddammit I expect damned near a around the world trip as the woman is capable off or as i can stand.

or the man.....

We do what we can!

I want lots of teasing, rubbing, kissing, sucking ect, ect.

Some conversation that consists of more than two words would be nice as well.

If your able to carry on a conversation we are not doing it right!

If you can't get it on in proper style, than don't act like it.

If you are not going to show, then please let me know. If it be from cold feet, building yourself up to something that you aren't, or whatever. I hate being stood up, especially when you don't have the common decency to let me know why.

Humph! like we men have the corner on that! ( I have found that about ninety percent of the females that i have dated were very considerate about this.) i always try to let them know if I can't make it for a date.

If you don't like that sort of stuff you should make that very clear to start with.

And don't ask me to do something that you can't handle.
And don't let your mouth overload your ass!

If you have a kink..well than say so. I may not be the best in the world at it, but I have listened a lot of strange request...and most I was able to do.
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Don't expect me to do something that you won't do. If I say no, then I mean no. To whatever and I don't like feeling that something is expected of me either. I like to go with the flow and do what I find enjoyable.

I have the strange ability to lead the untried to heights where they never dreamed they could go.

Somehow I bring it out in them.

 

[sheath]

A friend and I were having a conversation about good vs bad sex...the problem is that he would not elaborate on how he knew it was bad. I mean there is the obvious stuff like erection problems, bad hygine, no communication... what else is there?

I've never gotten a"bad" review but who knows, my guys could have lied

It's good sex when you can't come up with the words to describe it but the look on your face says it all.

It's bad sex when you cannot wait to kick his ass out of your bed and send him home, and you clench your teeth when he says how great it was.

It's really bad sex when you are thinking about the grocery list.

It's really, really bad sex when you start counting sheep and suddenly realize, holy shit, those aren't SHEEP, they're STROKES.



S.

 

[SlickTony]

It's really bad sex when he's come, you haven't and he thinks its the end of the story.

 

[mizbhvn]

Its bad sex when its obvious that your partner is just "going through the motions" out of a feeling of obligation rather than desire. When you know that he's only doing "??" because you enjoy it or want it.


It is fantastic sex when he does all the "right" things (and you as well) because you honestly get a huge gust of satisfaction out of pleasing your partner.

I get as much pleasure out of pleasing my husband as he does receiving it. ( he dissagree's with that, but what does he know )

IMHO, climax for a man is about 70% physical 30% emotional,
for women its more of an emotional than physical
response.
At least thats my take on it.

 

[mizbhvn]

Its bad sex when its obvious that your partner is just "going through the motions" out of a feeling of obligation rather than desire. When you know that he's only doing "??" because you enjoy it or want it.


It is fantastic sex when he does all the "right" things (and you as well) because you honestly get a huge gust of satisfaction out of pleasing your partner.

I get as much pleasure out of pleasing my husband as he does receiving it. ( he dissagree's with that, but what does he know )

IMHO, climax for a man is about 70% physical 30% emotional,
for women its more of an emotional than physical
response.
At least thats my take on it.

 

[SlickTony]

Oh, I dunno. There've been a few times when my husband knew that for some reason he wasn't feeling up to par and that he wouldn't be able to finish, and it turned out he'd gotten it up just for me, and I thought that was kind of sweet.

 

[Lust Engine]

Oh, I dunno. There've been a few times when my husband knew that for some reason he wasn't feeling up to par and that he wouldn't be able to finish, and it turned out he'd gotten it up just for me, and I thought that was kind of sweet.

Awwww shucks! Wotta guy!

 

[Bobmi357]

Its bad sex when your done and your first impulse is to roll out of bed and head off for a shower.

Its good sex when your first impulse is to wrap your arms around your partner and just enjoy laying there holding her (or him).

Now mind you, I'm not talking about quickies you do just before you get ready to go to work or the like. I'm talking about the times you actually spend an hour or two having sex.

 

[CelticFrog]

I'm not sure about that... well, not entirely.

Like last night -- my first response, just because the sex was so invigorating and I couldn't hold still to snuggle, was to call sheath and idolize my husband.

It was fun. I was still out of breath talking to her.

And J got a real kick out of it.

That was the first time that really happened though, so it was definitely a new thing. But cuddling isn't ALWAYS the only thing we want to do afterwards. We've both been known to get up immediately and shower together afterwards. Especially when food play has been involved. Or cook breakfast. Or lunch. You get the picture.

Ang

 

[midwestyankee]

It's bad sex when she picks up a book and reads throughout. This never happened to me but a girl I dated once told me that was how she put up with sex with her previous boyfriend. That was our last date.

 

[SlickTony]

...a girl I dated once told me that was how she put up with sex with her previous boyfriend. That was our last date.

I hang out in two BBs, I'm getting old--but wasn't it this one in which some guys lauded getting head and watching football at the same time? Tell me what's different.

That said, my first husband had me riding him reverse-cowgirl and leaned over to watch a football game. If sex had regularly been an awesome experience and he took time and care with it, I could have overlooked it, but as it was, I simply added it to my list of reasons why today, he does not even know where I am.