How do I tell my wife?

[Hitchiker69]

How do I break it to my wife? I can't handle monogamy anymore! 25 years is too much.
The Dr. says my ED is not due to any physical problem. He says it's probably
boredom with my wife. He figures I need some sexual variety. I throughly agree. I see some hot young women at the gym who I'd love to fuck.
Some have even given me 'availability signals'
I miss my single days, when I never knew who I'd fuck next, but any available girl/woman was fair game and a possibility.
I would enjoy some cock every once in a while, too.
Nobody currently in my life; not wife, DR., friends, etc., know that I crave cock and used to enjoy it regularly.

I have so much pent up horniness, I'm willing to try all kinds of things. I'd love it if my wife wanted to watch me suck
cock. And I'd love to see her try lez sex...I know at least 1 woman who wants to eat her. I know she'd love it, and I'd love to watch.

But most of all I need a hot young woman with a tight body, pussy, and big tits.

How do I get there? How do I bring it up?

 

[pumperguy191]

Let her read what you just wrote.

 

[SissySalina]

Have the doctor write you a prescription and give it to her.

 

[mywife4othermen]

Have the doctor write you a prescription and give it to her.

LOL!!

 

[Sunnyade]

I'm fortunate that I have never had to have that conversation with a SO. The only female I have ever told is a lifelong friend. She is Bi so it was no problem telling her, she was very supportive.

I would have no idea on how to bring the subject up, let alone try to get her involved.

 

[CharlieBoker]

You did ask so IMHO..........

Personally I'd speak gently to my wife about sex and bring up your "wants" as fantasies you have and suggest/request that you spice things up in the bedroom department in the interests of improving your relationship and your ED. Maybe do the same for her......ask her want she "wants" sexually, she may be bored too.

Assuming you don't already, you could always then play sex games that replicate your deepest desires. See how far that goes to getting you more revved up and making you feel less frustrated.

I've been where you are now and I did just that. Previously I'd been inclined to cheat to get my sexual kicks and it never sat well with me. I love my wife but needed to be congruent to my true self so I confessed.

My wife was very understanding when I told her about my extra marital bi experiences and also my strong cuckold fantasies. We now role play and act out each others' desires........I'm very lucky indeed.

Experience tells me that, for me, cheating to satisfy my unfulfilled desires was not the answer and whilst I'd definitely be more adventurous and involve 3rd parties in our sex lives, both male and female, I respect that she does not currently want to do that. So we compromise with very open communication and trying to satisfy those desires for each other with sex toys and play.

Good luck with whatever you decide, life is far too short to be unhappy and unfulfilled.

 

[BBCfan]

You did ask so IMHO..........

Personally I'd speak gently to my wife about sex and bring up your "wants" as fantasies you have and suggest/request that you spice things up in the bedroom department in the interests of improving your relationship and your ED. Maybe do the same for her......ask her want she "wants" sexually, she may be bored too.

Assuming you don't already, you could always then play sex games that replicate your deepest desires. See how far that goes to getting you more revved up and making you feel less frustrated.

I've been where you are now and I did just that. Previously I'd been inclined to cheat to get my sexual kicks and it never sat well with me. I love my wife but needed to be congruent to my true self so I confessed.

My wife was very understanding when I told her about my extra marital bi experiences and also my strong cuckold fantasies. We now role play and act out each others' desires........I'm very lucky indeed.

Experience tells me that, for me, cheating to satisfy my unfulfilled desires was not the answer and whilst I'd definitely be more adventurous and involve 3rd parties in our sex lives, both male and female, I respect that she does not currently want to do that. So we compromise with very open communication and trying to satisfy those desires for each other with sex toys and play.

Good luck with whatever you decide, life is far too short to be unhappy and unfulfilled.

Great advice!

My wife actually found some stuff on computer so I was forced to be more honest than I likely would have been.

Thought it might be too much for her...turns out as long as I'm not lying or cheating she cool with it. Sometimes role plays with me and toys so that helps me "live it out" a bit.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Let her read what you just wrote.

What he said , first and foremost. If your account on here is a secret to her , I would maybe talk to her about that first.


Does she like to read erotica ?

 

[Fingerfuxs]

How do I break it to my wife? I can't handle monogamy anymore! 25 years is too much.
The Dr. says my ED is not due to any physical problem. He says it's probably
boredom with my wife. He figures I need some sexual variety. I throughly agree. I see some hot young women at the gym who I'd love to fuck.
Some have even given me 'availability signals'
I miss my single days, when I never knew who I'd fuck next, but any available girl/woman was fair game and a possibility.
I would enjoy some cock every once in a while, too.
Nobody currently in my life; not wife, DR., friends, etc., know that I crave cock and used to enjoy it regularly.

I have so much pent up horniness, I'm willing to try all kinds of things. I'd love it if my wife wanted to watch me suck
cock. And I'd love to see her try lez sex...I know at least 1 woman who wants to eat her. I know she'd love it, and I'd love to watch.

But most of all I need a hot young woman with a tight body, pussy, and big tits.

How do I get there? How do I bring it up?

So ..............what happened ? Did you tell her

 

[muycurioso]

great advice

Have the doctor write you a prescription and give it to her.

I will take that advice myself if my wife ever shows an interest.

 

[klippert]

Firs; a doctor told you, you're board with your wife... is he Gay.

Tell your wife you want a divorce.. or just walk out. After 25 yrs i'll bet she just accepts it... especially the part about you being board with her.

Grass isn't always greener boys... jus'sayin

 

[turbocs37]

So ..............what happened ? Did you tell her

I'm curious as well. How did the conversation go?

 

[Fishing57]

Have the doctor write you a prescription and give it to her.

I told my doc I needed that prescription once he loved it. And if the wife could not fill the prescription I could go to a 3rd party provider!! I need some 3rd party!