How do i play "the game"?

[pinky_love]

I am in a relationship of 4 years n me n my fiance enjoy sex very much. He is more into voyeurism than i am but we both enjoy a bit of sub/dom. Anything goes is our motto, and we also love taboo.

my problem is i lack imagination where he is concerned. I need to make him intrigued but dont know how. i'm probably not explaining this very well

a few weeks ago he told me to go on a walk and he would follow, i could go whereever i wanted and do what i liked. So i did, i walked along the beach n chatted to a couple of people then walked more, but that was it, i didnt have a clue what to do next then he phoned me, and asked where i was as he couldnt find me, when i told him he came and met me (boring i know) but he says that for that moment that he couldnt see me, he was really excited by the thought i was actually doing something he didnt know about.

Now i need to make him want to have sex with me, he says hes on strike until i make him want me lol
i dress up regularly so thats out so has anyone any good advice for me to play this "game"?

thanks x

 

[silverwhisper]

are you familiar with the BDSM forum here? i'm guessing the folks there would be full of ideas that might be useful to you. :>

ed

 

[pinky_love]

im new to this site, sorry, should i make a thread in the bdsm forum instead?

 

[silverwhisper]

no need to apologize--and welcome to lit!

i think that if you create a thread in the BDSM forum, you'll get more productive results more quickly, but some of those folks frequent this forum as well. :>

ed

 

[flasubm]

It sounds like he wants to watch you flirt at the least or fuck someone else where he can see. One way to indulge in this would be for you guys to find a bar near this beach and have you and your husband arrive seperately and he watch all the guys hit on you. This way, you can both see if this is what you really want before anything goes to far.

 

[pinky_love]

It sounds like he wants to watch you flirt at the least or fuck someone else where he can see. One way to indulge in this would be for you guys to find a bar near this beach and have you and your husband arrive seperately and he watch all the guys hit on you. This way, you can both see if this is what you really want before anything goes to far.

i think thats exactly what he wants but its so much easier said than done! im not fugly but not exactly a head turner either

he says that i dont need to go voer the top but subtle things like a text message saying im gonna hit on the window cleaner would be good, but now that he has told me that one i cant use it

helllllp

 

[mentionME]

maybe yall should hit the club. Everything seems closer and more intense at a club. I'm sure u can tell the guy your dancing wit explicitly that you're just trying to turn on your bf/hubby and they'll oblige if you dont have any ideas of your own.