How do I orgasm w/out masturbating?

[littlebitshe]

I am on a mission to find out how to orgasm without having to masturbate. I am female and I have never been able to orgasm with just penetration alone. I always have to stimulate my clit while being penetrated, to achieve orgasm. ANY suggestions on helping me to achieve orgasm while being penetrated and w/out masturbation???? Thanks!

 

[singletolong]

masturbation is good too

hi , i have a partner who is much like you , she is very clit orientated , very very rarely she can achieve an orgasm without rubbing her clit or having me do it . After a lousy sexless marriage previously it is such a wonderful thing to watch a woman masturbate , in fact our sex is 80% masturbation , either each other or ourselves in front of the other . If you need to rub your clit , what is the harm or worry ? having said that try insertion where whatever is in you rubs against your clit . if you are fucking , get your partner to rub his cock ( or dildo is a woman ) towards your clit . Try also while vagina penetration , some anal play , it is a very stimulating area . if you would like to talk more PM me please ty bye

 

[littlebitshe]

There is nothing wrong with it.... I would just like to achieve orgasm without maturbation for a change. My hubby loves playing anally while fucking doggiestyle. Maybe i'll have him do that and try to orgasm w/out my fingers. I've always just used my fingers so who knows it just might work cause anal stimulous can really get me going! Thanks for the suggestion!

 

[SweetErika]

A good number of women can't come without clitoral stimulation - their bodies just work that way.

I don't very often, but the following things help me:
- Going straight to sex after I've orgasmed
- Anal stimulation, as mentioned
- Mental stimulation from words, fantasies, new people, or doing new, highly exciting things
- No pressure or distractions and being completely relaxed

But then I could care less how I get there, and find orgasms from the right kind of clit stimulation to be far more pleasurable, so it's not something that's important to us.

 

[sunandshadow]

You could apply a dab of mentholated cream or similar sensation-causing stuff to your clit before having vaginal or anal sex. Or some women can come from a combo of nipple stimulation and penetration, maybe also kissing.

 

[SubNebGuy]

from all I've read (scientific and anecdotal), more than half of all women cannot orgasm from penetration alone.

so, you are quite normal.

the position your partner thrusts from can help, but if you're just not wired to cum without some clit play...well things could be worse

 

[ms.read]

who said playing with your clit while being penetrated by partner or object was masturbation?

 

[littlebitshe]

from all I've read (scientific and anecdotal), more than half of all women cannot orgasm from penetration alone.

so, you are quite normal.

the position your partner thrusts from can help, but if you're just not wired to cum without some clit play...well things could be worse

Thanks! That's assuring! I didn't realize that this is a common problem. I am still going to try a few things and maybe "train" myself to be able to do this. I'm just looking for something different from the norm. But it is nice to know that I'm not the minority in this one

 

[Mr.G]

Sad

that with all the knowledge out there available on the Net etc it is STILL a common misconception that intercourse easily causes orgasm in women. It does NOT. The vast majority of women simply can not cum through regular PIV sex.

Oral, digital and vives are the back up and it is NOT considered masturbation when one enhances direct clitoral stimulation during sex in order to achieve orgasm.

So there !!!

If you CAN achieve orgasm from masturbation you are well on your way to training your bod to "get there from here." Many women have trouble just having an orgasm through ANY means and by the time they are into a long relationship the general modus operandi is to FAKE IT and that will last years and years sometimes. The guy simply never knows that all his thrusting and pumping and sweating may feel good and make her feel loved but has no hope of ever achieving an orgasm that way.

If you can achieve GSpot orgasms try this technique and then position yourself during intercourse so that his erection is hitting that same spot and you'll be able to achieve your orgasms without tools or fingies interferring in the intercourse part.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

Good luck.

 

[littlebitshe]

that with all the knowledge out there available on the Net etc it is STILL a common misconception that intercourse easily causes orgasm in women. It does NOT. The vast majority of women simply can not cum through regular PIV sex.

Oral, digital and vives are the back up and it is NOT considered masturbation when one enhances direct clitoral stimulation during sex in order to achieve orgasm.

So there !!!

If you CAN achieve orgasm from masturbation you are well on your way to training your bod to "get there from here." Many women have trouble just having an orgasm through ANY means and by the time they are into a long relationship the general modus operandi is to FAKE IT and that will last years and years sometimes. The guy simply never knows that all his thrusting and pumping and sweating may feel good and make her feel loved but has no hope of ever achieving an orgasm that way.

If you can achieve GSpot orgasms try this technique and then position yourself during intercourse so that his erection is hitting that same spot and you'll be able to achieve your orgasms without tools or fingies interferring in the intercourse part.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

Good luck.

Thank u for you insight. Just to make myself clear, when I say Masturbating.... I simply mean that I am stimulating my clit during intercourse as I would during Masturbation. I am aware that this would not be called masturbation if done during penetration with a partner. It was simply the only way i could think to explain it.

Mr. G.... I read your post about the G Spot O yesterday and I'm very very eager to try this! I don't think i've ever had a G-Spot orgasm. I will also try having my partner stimulate my g-spot with his penis. It should be fun!

Thanks!

 

[perfect_deb]

There is nothing wrong with it.... I would just like to achieve orgasm without maturbation for a change. My hubby loves playing anally while fucking doggiestyle. Maybe i'll have him do that and try to orgasm w/out my fingers. I've always just used my fingers so who knows it just might work cause anal stimulous can really get me going! Thanks for the suggestion!

anal is the only way i orgasm spontaneously - i actually have to breath and hold back or i cum with seconds of penetration

 

[littlebitshe]

anal is the only way i orgasm spontaneously - i actually have to breath and hold back or i cum with seconds of penetration

That's interesting.... I'm not a huge fan of anal, but a finger is ok.

 

[perfect_deb]

That's interesting.... I'm not a huge fan of anal, but a finger is ok.

to be honest, it's something you have to get used to - i had a bf that was seriously into it so i persisted - once you relax and get used to it its really stimulating

 

[nickollette]

im the exact same way, very clit oriented, and i think its so sad now that it took me 3.5 years of a non orgasmix sex life to figure out how to fix it. for whatever reason, i have found that being on a hard floor, or having a pillow under my ass to prop me up makes me orgasm really quick and substantially without any clit interaction. im not sure why, well shit, i dont really care why, its just awsome.

 

[littlebitshe]

im the exact same way, very clit oriented, and i think its so sad now that it took me 3.5 years of a non orgasmix sex life to figure out how to fix it. for whatever reason, i have found that being on a hard floor, or having a pillow under my ass to prop me up makes me orgasm really quick and substantially without any clit interaction. im not sure why, well shit, i dont really care why, its just awsome.

Luckily i figured out how to click my mouse early in the game I have always enjoyed sex and always reach orgasm.... I just want a different way.

I'll try your technique

 

[singletolong]

all this talk

well all this talk of masturbation and anal sex mmmm think i will go and enjoy a wonderful solo cum he he he . Try advancing with anal play , well it will turn me on thinking about you doing it

 

[neon_noodle]

Have your husband slip his dick in you, then slide a lubed finger in you ass. His cock head will rub against his finger, working the tender part of your body in between. He should suck on your rock hard nipples too.

Then think about what a nasty girl you are, being penetrated in both holes, and cum like a bottle rocket.

Works for my girlfriend!

 

[WriterDom]

It is possible for a woman to come from thought alone or from command, but I think those who can do that are very much in the minority.

 

[littlebitshe]

Have your husband slip his dick in you, then slide a lubed finger in you ass. His cock head will rub against his finger, working the tender part of your body in between. He should suck on your rock hard nipples too.

Then think about what a nasty girl you are, being penetrated in both holes, and cum like a bottle rocket.

Works for my girlfriend!

Wow! That's hot just to think about it!

 

[BigM]

This might sound odd, but my wife loves her cervix to be rubbed with the tip of my cock during intercourse. Not pounded, just rubbed back and forth. She can cum that way.

I say 'odd' because I've read on Lit that many women don't like their cervixes touched.

 

[somberReality]

I love having mine BANGED. It helps me to orgasm quicker and stronger.

 

[somberReality]

This might sound odd, but my wife loves her cervix to be rubbed with the tip of my cock during intercourse. Not pounded, just rubbed back and forth. She can cum that way.

I say 'odd' because I've read on Lit that many women don't like their cervixes touched.

I meant my post to be in response to this.

And i can orgasm with penetration, without playing with my clit during sex. After reading the other posts, i feel quite lucky.