How Do I make the very first time speical?

[Shawn01]

Good Evening Ladies and gents,

Coming up in April I will be getting married and my soon to be wife and I will be having sex for the first time. We have done everything else but pure sex.
So I was wondering will she feel pain?, cause i dont wanna do that. How would you suggest that we jump into this? I mean do we go and take a shower together, eat before, just plain old do the foreplay thing?

Any suggestions are welcomed


Thanks


Shawn

 

[CuriouslilQT]

well the way I probable will like it or want it done. I would take a shower with the person but not actually have sex. Having sex for the first time with someone should in a place where you both are extremely comfortable. I suggest the classic bed. The best position I would suggest is having her ride you. That way she controls how deep you penetrate her. But dont worry whatever you guys do you will enjoy it as long as you guys join each others company which obviously you do to marry one another. But dont put to much emphasis on it...the best sexual experiences I have is when they are not planed!
Enjoy amd Congrats!
PS: dnt forget the roses on the bed!!! Hehehe.

 

[Justine]

Congratulations, Shawn!

So I was wondering will she feel pain

That varies from woman to woman. Some do, some don't. Go easy, and ask her to let you know if she gets some kind of discomfort.

Best wishes!

 

[rexfelis]

Making it special means, in large part, recognizing the value and intimacy involved. Take your time. Relax. Remember that you're not perfect.

You can get a good idea of how much it will hurt her by getting to know her vulva first. Her hymen ripping on first penetration is most of what hurts. Some women have thick, complete hymens, some have thin, or almost none at all. You can help her out by slowly, gently, and thoroughly stretching her out with a finger or two first. But make sure your hands are clean, well manicured, and that there is no way you can scratch an itch with your fingernails, because if you have sharp edges, you can hurt her. seXieleXie has suggested the use of rubber gloves, which I heartily second. They make it almost impossible to have a problem with fingernails.

Make sure you have lots of lube on hand. Remember to use all you think you'll need and then use some more.

Remember that she'll be nervous. Remember that being nervous makes you tense. Remember to take your time for this reason, when you are first penetrating her. Being tense and contracted can make it more uncomfortable. Remember that this woman is giving to you something precious, and appreciate it - and her.

I suggest caressing, cuddling, making out, and massaging her before you do much. I also suggest eating her. Make sure that no matter what, she has had a pleasurable experience, because you may find that (being human) you get inside her and it's all over. But that is not necessarily going to be the case, so don't expect it. Women feel pretty awesome. That's why I always try to give my lover at least one orgasm before I get inside her. Sometimes you just don't see it coming. Pardon the unexpected pun.

Make sure that she is as aroused as you can manage to get her, too. That should make it easier.

And I suggest cuddling and snuggling afterwards.

And then, if it does not hurt her, do it all over again.

Key words: Love, trust, open and honest communication (ask lots of questions!), take your time, be gentle. Touch her. Show her how special she is to you, both in word and deed. Honor her by taking the time to find out how she likes it.

It may take a few times before she really comes to enjoy penetration, depending on how much it hurts her the first time.

Hope this helped some.

 

[foxxxyred]

Making it special means, in large part, recognizing the value and intimacy involved. Take your time. Relax. Remember that you're not perfect.

You can get a good idea of how much it will hurt her by getting to know her vulva first. Her hymen ripping on first penetration is most of what hurts. Some women have thick, complete hymens, some have thin, or almost none at all. You can help her out by slowly, gently, and thoroughly stretching her out with a finger or two first. But make sure your hands are clean, well manicured, and that there is no way you can scratch an itch with your fingernails, because if you have sharp edges, you can hurt her. seXieleXie has suggested the use of rubber gloves, which I heartily second. They make it almost impossible to have a problem with fingernails.

Make sure you have lots of lube on hand. Remember to use all you think you'll need and then use some more.

Remember that she'll be nervous. Remember that being nervous makes you tense. Remember to take your time for this reason, when you are first penetrating her. Being tense and contracted can make it more uncomfortable. Remember that this woman is giving to you something precious, and appreciate it - and her.

I suggest caressing, cuddling, making out, and massaging her before you do much. I also suggest eating her. Make sure that no matter what, she has had a pleasurable experience, because you may find that (being human) you get inside her and it's all over. But that is not necessarily going to be the case, so don't expect it. Women feel pretty awesome. That's why I always try to give my lover at least one orgasm before I get inside her. Sometimes you just don't see it coming. Pardon the unexpected pun.

Make sure that she is as aroused as you can manage to get her, too. That should make it easier.

And I suggest cuddling and snuggling afterwards.

And then, if it does not hurt her, do it all over again.

Key words: Love, trust, open and honest communication (ask lots of questions!), take your time, be gentle. Touch her. Show her how special she is to you, both in word and deed. Honor her by taking the time to find out how she likes it.

It may take a few times before she really comes to enjoy penetration, depending on how much it hurts her the first time.

Hope this helped some.

Where do i sign up for a night of what rex has described???

 

[funwdi]

Way to be!

Way to go, Rex...excellent answer. If I wasn't such a lesbian...

 

[rexfelis]

Where do i sign up for a night of what rex has described???

Obviously, you have to ask me for a sign in sheet. Of course you should realize that you have been on it for a few months now. lol

 

[rexfelis]

Re: Way to be!

Way to go, Rex...excellent answer. If I wasn't such a lesbian...

If you weren't such a lesbian what? You'd give me your virginity? lol

Actually, I have never taken a woman's virginity. I would really love to introduce a woman to sexual love for the first time, but I don't see it happening anytime soon.

 

[Shawn01]

Thank you very much everyone, i can atleast have a start, only if everything else cooperates. We will have a house by then ( If nothing else happens) and we will be able to have all the cuddling time we need. Just hope the ol feller dont let me down, I just want her first time to be as perfect as i can possible can, being a virgin and all, How does one become perfect with no practic? lost of planning right? But can you really plan a night of passion ? .....



Shawn

Again Thank you everyone that replied to the post

 

[rexfelis]

Thank you very much everyone, i can atleast have a start, only if everything else cooperates. We will have a house by then ( If nothing else happens) and we will be able to have all the cuddling time we need. Just hope the ol feller dont let me down, I just want her first time to be as perfect as i can possible can, being a virgin and all, How does one become perfect with no practic? lost of planning right? But can you really plan a night of passion ? .....

Shawn

Again Thank you everyone that replied to the post

Nervous guys have a harder time of it the first time. That's why I said relax and realize you're not perfect. If you're upset, you could have trouble getting it up, or you might have trouble getting off.

My first time, it was plenty willing to stand up. I just couldn't relax enough to come... which actually made for an amusing story, because she thought I was a stud since I just kept going. LOL She didn't know I was a virgin until the condom broke and I stopped.

Anyway, good luck.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

First of all, let me congratulate you on your thoughtfulness. My first time was with someone who was nowhere near as sweet as you are. Let me share with you some tips that I wished someone had given both me and my lover...

Things I wish I knew...
*she may bleed...a lot and be sore afterwards
*it only hurt for the first few moments
*you will feel VERY vunerable and young afterwards
*it's not like it is in stories....it's been years and I've never experienced simultaneous orgasm with anyone, no matter how much we loved each other
*don't put your expectations too high...Yes...in your case it will be wonderful...but it will most likely not last for hours on end (nor will you want it to)
*it may take a couple of tries for you to feel comfy enough to completely let go of your inhibitions
*lube is your best friend...learn it live it love it...

Things I wish he knew...
*make sure she comes first....go down on her, massage her, tell her how special she is, how much you love her and no matter what your body is screaming at you, be patient
*if she's comfortable with it, try having her on top (like others said, it gives HER more control and will possibly make her feel more at ease)
*hold her afterwards...and tell her exactly how much you enjoyed it...she'll be worried that she may not have done something right
*Lube....Lube Lube Lube Lube Lube...I think I've made my point
*you may (most likely WILL) come within moments of entering her as it's your first time too and you will be VERY excited....don't feel worried...you can always go for another round

Be honest with each other...nothing is worse than no or poor communication with each when it comes to sex. If either of you is not comfortable with something, be ready to share it and to ask your partner to try something else.

I wish you the best of luck...and remember...it's not supposed to be serious and work...it's fun and enjoyable and messy!

 

[rexfelis]

First of all, let me congratulate you on your thoughtfulness. My first time was with someone who was nowhere near as sweet as you are. Let me share with you some tips that I wished someone had given both me and my lover...

Things I wish I knew...
*she may bleed...a lot and be sore afterwards
*it only hurt for the first few moments
*you will feel VERY vunerable and young afterwards
*it's not like it is in stories....it's been years and I've never experienced simultaneous orgasm with anyone, no matter how much we loved each other
*don't put your expectations too high...Yes...in your case it will be wonderful...but it will most likely not last for hours on end (nor will you want it to)
*it may take a couple of tries for you to feel comfy enough to completely let go of your inhibitions
*lube is your best friend...learn it live it love it...

Things I wish he knew...
*make sure she comes first....go down on her, massage her, tell her how special she is, how much you love her and no matter what your body is screaming at you, be patient
*if she's comfortable with it, try having her on top (like others said, it gives HER more control and will possibly make her feel more at ease)
*hold her afterwards...and tell her exactly how much you enjoyed it...she'll be worried that she may not have done something right
*Lube....Lube Lube Lube Lube Lube...I think I've made my point
*you may (most likely WILL) come within moments of entering her as it's your first time too and you will be VERY excited....don't feel worried...you can always go for another round

Be honest with each other...nothing is worse than no or poor communication with each when it comes to sex. If either of you is not comfortable with something, be ready to share it and to ask your partner to try something else.

I wish you the best of luck...and remember...it's not supposed to be serious and work...it's fun and enjoyable and messy!

No matter how much experience I have otherwise, I have neber done it, and it is also nice to see this from a woman's point of view. Thanks for sharing. I learned a few things.