Cookiefour
Virgin
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I'm a bit scared of sex and never really done much about it.
Any helpful thoughts?
Any helpful thoughts?
How do I get over being scared of sex??
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tmuyo
hitokiri battousai
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hmmmm
well, in my life i was afraid of what it would mean. so i threw away the meaning. i held onto my virginity barely but had plenty of oral and manual to go around for the ladies and myself. don't do what i did tho. i felt empty and unfulfilled after every encounter. even orgies were ok while i was in them, but afterward i still felt nothing. it wasn't until i made love to my fiancee, exchanging our virginities did i feel fulfilled. love made me feel complete and fulfilled. it was much more enjoyable the i think it would have been from the girls in my high school. if you value love and ur virginity, then don't necessarily wait till marriage, but wait until ur absolutely sure you know who you want to be with and that person feels the same. i've helped too many friends male and female that have regretted having sex. i only regret whjat i did in high school...especially the orgies. i was surprised i could still speak to these girls openly in class later. i felt so dirty. but this is only what i did and chose, you may be different. just don't feel so many reasons to be scared. where a rubber tho, i can't stress that enough. i got lucky, i had 35+ different partners in high school and was glad i didn't catch a thing. got tested twice out of paranoia.
well, in my life i was afraid of what it would mean. so i threw away the meaning. i held onto my virginity barely but had plenty of oral and manual to go around for the ladies and myself. don't do what i did tho. i felt empty and unfulfilled after every encounter. even orgies were ok while i was in them, but afterward i still felt nothing. it wasn't until i made love to my fiancee, exchanging our virginities did i feel fulfilled. love made me feel complete and fulfilled. it was much more enjoyable the i think it would have been from the girls in my high school. if you value love and ur virginity, then don't necessarily wait till marriage, but wait until ur absolutely sure you know who you want to be with and that person feels the same. i've helped too many friends male and female that have regretted having sex. i only regret whjat i did in high school...especially the orgies. i was surprised i could still speak to these girls openly in class later. i felt so dirty. but this is only what i did and chose, you may be different. just don't feel so many reasons to be scared. where a rubber tho, i can't stress that enough. i got lucky, i had 35+ different partners in high school and was glad i didn't catch a thing. got tested twice out of paranoia.
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The first thing you need is a good teacher. I know I can help, but lets do this by email instead of threads. It will make things a little easier for both of us. I have a lot of eaperience in teaching young women how to get all the pleasure they can out of sex, and I would like to help you too. email me at: klogiudice@sprynet.com and we can start you on your way.
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Hi, first off, I am a 20 year old girl, i have had sex with one man, my urrent bf and i lost my virginity about 4 months ago. SO i may be clueless, i think i can help. Sex can be scary. Mostly because new things are scary. Its taking a chance on someone to do somehting you arent clear on the rules for and who you arent sure is sure either. (did that make sense?) If its the physical aspect I would suggest asking your steady guy or girl to 69 this way no one has to be the center of attention but you both get to explore and be explored. You may never get a feeling passing voer you saying NOW I'M READY TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS PERSON
but at some point you'll start asking yourself why you're waiting, debating whether or not to do it. This is the best sign. sex is fun. but its not the end of the world if no one comes or if its clumsy the first few times. all theses stories about people who have exellent sex the first time are rare. most people have a somewhat awkward, interesting time that makes them want to do it again (provided their partener doesnt embarass them or anything)
if you're worried about the emotional stuff well people do it every day with people off the street- there's no law saying ou have to love the person you're having sex with. But if you dont even like them why bother?
i think i have talked enough.
good luck?
-penthilisea@yahoo.com
Hi, first off, I am a 20 year old girl, i have had sex with one man, my urrent bf and i lost my virginity about 4 months ago. SO i may be clueless, i think i can help. Sex can be scary. Mostly because new things are scary. Its taking a chance on someone to do somehting you arent clear on the rules for and who you arent sure is sure either. (did that make sense?) If its the physical aspect I would suggest asking your steady guy or girl to 69 this way no one has to be the center of attention but you both get to explore and be explored. You may never get a feeling passing voer you saying NOW I'M READY TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS PERSON
but at some point you'll start asking yourself why you're waiting, debating whether or not to do it. This is the best sign. sex is fun. but its not the end of the world if no one comes or if its clumsy the first few times. all theses stories about people who have exellent sex the first time are rare. most people have a somewhat awkward, interesting time that makes them want to do it again (provided their partener doesnt embarass them or anything)
if you're worried about the emotional stuff well people do it every day with people off the street- there's no law saying ou have to love the person you're having sex with. But if you dont even like them why bother?
i think i have talked enough.
good luck?
-penthilisea@yahoo.com
