how do i get my grl to give me a blow???
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pisces_guy
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My friend, you can't just rush these things. They take time. Be patient. They will pay big dividends if you make her feel good about the other things first.
Now, I hope I don't come off as preachy, prudish, or rude here... but I think you might be asking the wrong question. A better one might be "Since I love my girlfriend, and she has told me she isn't ready for oral sex, and it clearly makes her uncomfortable, why do I want to make her do it anyways?"
I _would_ recommend asking her what in particular makes her uncomfortable about the idea of oral sex. It could be a trust issue, it could be that she had a bad experience with other men, that she was abused in some way, that she's just self conscious or it doesn't seem like something she wants to do.
Depending on what the problem is, you may be able to help her work through it. In example, if it were an issue of, say... taste, I'd suggest using a flavoured condom for the first few tries, and see if that works for you/her.
Obviously some things can't be resolved quite so simply, in which case time and support are the only things you can really bank on. I would be careful not to be too aggressive - not to suggest that you are doing so - as that may scare her off even further, and leave her with even less desire to attempt oral sex.
That's just my $0.02.
I _would_ recommend asking her what in particular makes her uncomfortable about the idea of oral sex. It could be a trust issue, it could be that she had a bad experience with other men, that she was abused in some way, that she's just self conscious or it doesn't seem like something she wants to do.
Depending on what the problem is, you may be able to help her work through it. In example, if it were an issue of, say... taste, I'd suggest using a flavoured condom for the first few tries, and see if that works for you/her.
Obviously some things can't be resolved quite so simply, in which case time and support are the only things you can really bank on. I would be careful not to be too aggressive - not to suggest that you are doing so - as that may scare her off even further, and leave her with even less desire to attempt oral sex.
That's just my $0.02.
It is something she has to be comfortable with in order to be any good at it. As others have stated. You must be patient. Have her start by licking your dick during a handjob and slowly work from there. It you force her into it It will not happen.
Honestly??? Don’t do anything!! You have made it clear you like it and want it. All the suggestions given are good, or so they would seem so on the surface. Trying this and that might get her to do it but it will only be because you want her to do it, and as long as that is in her mind she will not enjoy doing it for you. Now if getting her to do it is all you care about then you don’t really love her and it will show. On the other hand if you really love her you will just let her know that you really like it and nothing more. If she doesn’t want to or feels not ready then let her concentrate on doing the things she does like doing for you. If you force her into it you will know you did then neither of you will enjoy it. Sex is so much more enjoyable when you are both doing for each other because you want to do for each other.k_chait said:
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Mens answers for everything a cocklet bar/ but seriously giving head is a very personal thing and she may just see it as gross. But if you want someone to recommend it I'd be happy to talk to her. As for the taste to improve it try having something sweet before she does it like pinsapple juice and avoid asparagus it makes it tast bad. Be patient if your here first boyfriend she may not know what to do and have proformance anixety.
surfwabo said:
Mens answers for everything a cocklet bar/ but seriously giving head is a very personal thing and she may just see it as gross. But if you want someone to recommend it I'd be happy to talk to her. As for the taste to improve it try having something sweet before she does it like pinsapple juice
and avoid asparagus it makes it tast bad. Be patient if your here first boyfriend she may not know what to do and have proformance anixety.
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"i managed to introduce her to a lot-pussy eating, anal fingering, ass licking even, handjobs-"
sounds like you are doing pretty good there pal... keep your package clean and she will either come around... or not.. either way you should be happy to have a loving partner....... is getting head worth loosing that over?????
If there is anything worse then no blowjob.. its a blowjob from a woman who feels she has to and is not really into it....
Luck to you guy......
sounds like you are doing pretty good there pal... keep your package clean and she will either come around... or not.. either way you should be happy to have a loving partner....... is getting head worth loosing that over?????
If there is anything worse then no blowjob.. its a blowjob from a woman who feels she has to and is not really into it....
Luck to you guy......
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"i managed to introduce her to a lot-pussy eating, anal fingering, ass licking even, handjobs-"
And, she wont give a blowjob???? Damn, dude.......sounds like you are giving your all, and she isnt. Let me ask you a question.....are YOU the one pussyeating, anal fingering, and ass licking????
If she is fingering and eating your ass, and wont give you a bj.......well, I wonder........
If you are fingering and eating hers, and she wont blow you.....well, I see this as a one-way sexual relationship.
Her fear may be swallowing...........dont use a condom (she wont like the taste).........have her take you in her mouth while you are eating her (69), and pull out BEFORE you cum.......cum anywhere but on/in her. At least get her used to your cock in her mouth.......once she will do that, well, experiment a little..............work it to a bj for you w/o 69ing.....w/o you cumming in her mouth, etc.........
And, she wont give a blowjob???? Damn, dude.......sounds like you are giving your all, and she isnt. Let me ask you a question.....are YOU the one pussyeating, anal fingering, and ass licking????
If she is fingering and eating your ass, and wont give you a bj.......well, I wonder........
If you are fingering and eating hers, and she wont blow you.....well, I see this as a one-way sexual relationship.
Her fear may be swallowing...........dont use a condom (she wont like the taste).........have her take you in her mouth while you are eating her (69), and pull out BEFORE you cum.......cum anywhere but on/in her. At least get her used to your cock in her mouth.......once she will do that, well, experiment a little..............work it to a bj for you w/o 69ing.....w/o you cumming in her mouth, etc.........
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MarqeDSade said:
so not being ready to blow means its a one sided relationship? how does that work! with my guy, i've told him im a bit worried, because the only time i've ever sucked i was pressured into it, and my guy says that is fine, and that he can wait, and i haven't made him go down on me, he's done it because he wants to!
now maybe that seems one sided to you, but i haven't said to him "you have to go down on me but im not doing it back" he says he does it because he says he loves the taste, and because he gets really horny from making me cum!
