How do I be spontaneous with her?

[nobody2000]

As some of you may remember, I broke up with my g/f (she broke up with me) in July...as anticipated, we got back together a week later, and ended it finally 2 days after that...well...

2 saturdays ago, we hung out as friends, and for the first time, I felt happy to hang out with a girl (i know, i'm pathetic) without expecting anything sexual...we watched a few movies, and talked, and it was really fun.

But then...she cut me off mid sentence....by making out with me

So things got outta hand very badly...we went further that night then we ever did in our relationship...all was a surprise, and she told me she wanted to please me for a while, and wanted to be spontaneous.

I know she's crazy...but I still am attracted to her (even though there's so much I hate about her...it's so weird) but...I aim to please, and we've decided to be friends with NICE benefits.... maybe more as time goes on...i can tell I'm her favorite, as i was her first in many aspects, and I'm prolly the only guy who wouldn't make an advance on her...and if I did, she'd prolly like it anyways...BUT to get to the point...

We're gonna hang out sometime next week, and it'll either be just in the car...teaching her how to drive, or whatever...

What can I do to really surprise her, that's spontaneous as all hell..and that will turn her on? I want this to be good...she told me she wants to be spontaneous, and I'll give it to her...

The basics are: i have to cut her off mid-sentence....

So any ideas?

Thanks.

 

[Bobmi357]

Spontaneous means unexpected. So do something unexpected. Since you've gone through a series of breakups and reunions my first impression would be to show her how much the relationship means to you. Right now you're sitting there and the impression you're giving off is you expect sex sometime during that ecounter. My suggestion would be to take her to a movie or concert she wants to see, or maybe instead of "just hanging out", take her to dinner. Just enjoy being in her company, talk, and listen to her. Don't expect that the evening will end in the sack.

Will this turn her on? Possibly, but I doubt it. I think she's probably going to be more surprised (and pleased) by your showing some real attention to her than just a romp in the sack.

Now if you KNOW for a fact that sex is whats on her mind (and what man really knows whats on a woman's mind?) then try something more romantic, Drive to the lake or shore with a bottle of wine, some cheese, a candle, put some soft tunes on the radio. Massage her feet or her neck. And don't rush. The primary difference between a fucking and a prime seduction is setting the mood. Take the effort to set the mood. With some nice tunes playing, dance with her, not some wild rap number, but a close huggy dance. Nibble on her neck during the dance.

The local makeout spot isn't romantic, its just a place to go fuck, so forget it.

Do something you think she'll enjoy, but wouldn't expect from you.

One thing young men (ages 18-26 or so) often forget.

Women are people with real feelings and like to feel appreciated. Even if this means holding her hand while in front of YOUR friends. Its a little gesture, but it means a lot.

Enjoy yourself.

 

[Jenny _S]

Ok. Listen up... First thing you do is get her real damn drunk. Then...

Oh... nevermind... Just do what Bob said.

 

[EarnestImp]

try something more romantic, Drive to the lake or shore with a bottle of wine, some cheese, a candle, put some soft tunes on the radio.

And remember (as if it needs repeating) Don't forget the cheese.

 

[nobody2000]

thanks...this sounds good...but I don't think I wanna go for intercourse...I mean, this would be great and all...but I just wanna go for the quick spontaneous thrill...you know...we're just sitting there, and suddenly, the mood changes...does a 180 from dull to sexy...something unexpected...

What situation should I choose to hang out with her in so that this can be done, and what should I do? She says she likes the sudden surprise, the thrill...the rush of sexuality...so I wanna give it to her.
thanks

 

[nobody2000]

ok let me run this idea by everyone...see how it sounds....

I drive around with her, and assumably, it'll be after 4:00pm on a given day. The museum where i work at closes then, and I just so happen to have a key. I'll "leave" something there, like a paycheck or something, and tell her I need to go get it, and insist that she comes with me, just to take a quick look around. We have some nice cushy couch rounder thingies there that are awfully comfortable (and I've done this sort of thing on them...but it wasn't as spontaneous.)

I'll look for the check up in the office...not find it anywhere...ask her to help a little, and then we lock lips in one spot, and take the rest from there.

What do you think?