How do I ask my wife for a FLESHLIGHT??? ......

[Arti_man]

I'm 37 M deployed overseas, and my hand is just getting old for me. I wanted to ask my wife for a "fleshligth" but I'm too worried she will get mad.

My wife is type of women who hate's porn, and don't like the concept of masturbation. Its not about religion, is more because she feels that's cheating in some kind of way.

I have 8 more months here and if it was up to me I would prefer flesh light. to keep me from wanting the real thing. I mean in all honesty, I even consider asking for an extender, I mean why not I still have a long time here and I don't loose anything on trying them out to see if they work.

what would be the best way to bring the question? or should i just try and ask somebody else

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Why ask your wife for one? Why not just buy yourself one?

 

[Arti_man]

joint accounts.. she will spot it in the bank account

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Bummer...good luck.

 

[Booboobear84]

Don’t know if it would be any more acceptable but perhaps a Lovense device that she can control (and one for her that you control). Perhaps you start out with one for her. This is tricky and you are right to tread carefully.

 

[Jada59]

Does she seriously question every purchase? That's sad.

 

[Twistedkink]

Tell you need it to cum while thinking of her! Or would prefer you get some actual flesh

But seriously tell it would help.

 

[Twistedkink]

Does she seriously question every purchase? That's sad.

You’re always the voice of reason

 

[Ssttarr]

I'm assuming you two are a younger couple so I won't get into a bodily autonomy or privacy diatribe(like seriously do you have your toilet paper monitored, probably by your COs right? Hahahaha, jk.. kinda)

Anyway, I think that mutual masturbation while distanced from a partner is an excellent compromise like a PP recommended. If you are using your hand anyway you're kinda breaking her rules, right? So, in the light of full honesty, which is important, why not tell her how much you miss her(skin, lips, nipples, her smell, feel, etc..) and that you want to think of her while she thinks of you? 8 mos in the sandbox can get brutal, I know I've been there, especially with the blatant adulterers. Asking a significant other to work with you is pretty vital. I'm not saying you'll jump off the bridge just because everyone else does, but it can mess with your psyche pretty badly. Plus, emotional connection is easier to maintain even with just an illusion of physical bonding. That means kind of like even if you can't be with your significant other right now, you can pretend and if you both have the same intentions that will work for your greater good and help keep your bond strong during this difficult time.
In short, buy her a vibrator you can control and get yourself a toy too then set up a time to work it out together.

 

[Arti_man]

Does she seriously question every purchase? That's sad.

Yes it really sucks and not in a good way. but she mostly only question things that she don't recognize, and me being away, I really don't want to get into argument.

 

[Arti_man]

I'm assuming you two are a younger couple so I won't get into a bodily autonomy or privacy diatribe(like seriously do you have your toilet paper monitored, probably by your COs right? Hahahaha, jk.. kinda)

Anyway, I think that mutual masturbation while distanced from a partner is an excellent compromise like a PP recommended. If you are using your hand anyway you're kinda breaking her rules, right? So, in the light of full honesty, which is important, why not tell her how much you miss her(skin, lips, nipples, her smell, feel, etc..) and that you want to think of her while she thinks of you? 8 mos in the sandbox can get brutal, I know I've been there, especially with the blatant adulterers. Asking a significant other to work with you is pretty vital. I'm not saying you'll jump off the bridge just because everyone else does, but it can mess with your psyche pretty badly. Plus, emotional connection is easier to maintain even with just an illusion of physical bonding. That means kind of like even if you can't be with your significant other right now, you can pretend and if you both have the same intentions that will work for your greater good and help keep your bond strong during this difficult time.
In short, buy her a vibrator you can control and get yourself a toy too then set up a time to work it out together.

Thanks, greatly appreciated. ill start with that simple conversation. will see how it goes.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Does she seriously question every purchase? That's sad.

It's not always a trust thing. My partner eyeballs every credit card report, not because she wants to snoop on my business, but to make sure nobody else is using it who shouldn't be.

 

[cookiecat]

Does your wife really truly not masturbate the entire time you're gone? That's a long stretch with no sexy time feelings.

I'm 100% on board with the suggestion you approach her with honest comments about missing her, how much you love her, thinking about her gets you excited. You want her to feel the same toward you.

Create intimate moments without making it creepy to her and work your way up to the fleshlight.

Good luck.

 

[NightL]

she feels that's cheating in some kind of way

so you have been lying all these years to her - time to take a firm grasp of the situation and pull it together - but seriously

I think she will be fine. I doubt she will honestly believe you will file for a divorce so you can walk the aisle and put a ring on it, especially in front of family and friends.

Don't ask, just say - "Just letting you know I'm buying a fleshlight because I miss you so much and I need to dream of being with you".

Bah - she probably has a vibe under her pillow already

 

[JJA122]

Don't ask, just say - "Just letting you know I'm buying a fleshlight because I miss you so much and I need to dream of being with you"

This is the best advice.

 

[Kate_part2]

Uh..... is your hand really that bad?

 

[bobb_sledd]

I'm 37 M deployed overseas, and my hand is just getting old for me. I wanted to ask my wife for a "fleshligth" but I'm too worried she will get mad.

My wife is type of women who hate's porn, and don't like the concept of masturbation. Its not about religion, is more because she feels that's cheating in some kind of way.

I have 8 more months here and if it was up to me I would prefer flesh light. to keep me from wanting the real thing. I mean in all honesty, I even consider asking for an extender, I mean why not I still have a long time here and I don't loose anything on trying them out to see if they work.

what would be the best way to bring the question? or should i just try and ask somebody else

Squirrel away cash for a few weeks then buy a gift card to be used in purchase of your new lover. Stay safe over there!

 

[Eswardhook33]

If you get a way then also tell me

 

[live4thebj]

Recommend you buy it yourself. They can look at it as they are not good enough. I ironically just finished a session with one of my two Fleshlights. Planning to use my Aneros in the shower after. All those toys I secretly bought myself.

 

[goodolboy]

Have her dress up as Santa Claus and sit on her knee.

 

[twister947]

Just buy the damn thing and let her get mad. You can beard that lion today or live the rest of your life like this.

 

[Arti_man]

Does your wife really truly not masturbate the entire time you're gone? That's a long stretch with no sexy time feelings.

I'm 100% on board with the suggestion you approach her with honest comments about missing her, how much you love her, thinking about her gets you excited. You want her to feel the same toward you.

Create intimate moments without making it creepy to her and work your way up to the fleshlight.

Good luck.

she really doesn't, at least from what I know. I started talking to her about how much I miss her and and the feel of her skin, but so far she wont even go along with it.

 

[Arti_man]

Uh..... is your hand really that bad?

Well my hand is been faithful to me so far. But just want to make the best of it. I mean I still have more than half a year till I go home.

 

[Arti_man]

Squirrel away cash for a few weeks then buy a gift card to be used in purchase of your new lover. Stay safe over there!

Well see that was my idea before I left right. Now I have the cash, but what good is that if I'm in the middle of the desert, lol. Not like I can just get in my car and drive to the nearest Adam and eve store. Bad planning in my part.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I'm 37 M deployed overseas, and my hand is just getting old for me. I wanted to ask my wife for a "fleshligth" but I'm too worried she will get mad.

My wife is type of women who hate's porn, and don't like the concept of masturbation. Its not about religion, is more because she feels that's cheating in some kind of way.

I have 8 more months here and if it was up to me I would prefer flesh light. to keep me from wanting the real thing. I mean in all honesty, I even consider asking for an extender, I mean why not I still have a long time here and I don't loose anything on trying them out to see if they work.

what would be the best way to bring the question? or should i just try and ask somebody else

I understand your problem. My husband does all of our banking and asks for receipts. Some times I use PayPal when I need to buy him a gift and don't want him to know what store.

I also understand your toy issues. My husband all but forbid my use of toys and masturbation because my orgasms should be with him always. We don't agree.

Your circumstances are even more isolated, and you can't share them with her. I totally understand.

Do you have a buddy or brother or cousin who would help? I know my husband and his best friend talk about sex all the time and could see them easily talking about it.

If not, PM me. I am willing to help anyone serving in our military. It's the least I can do.