How did you meet your Husband?

[lil_jenni]

So, I'm up really early because a smoke alarm malfunction woke my kiddo up and he now thinks its play time. And while he runs around, I'm on Lit and reading through some threads when I come across the "how did you meet your wife?" thread. Curious, I look for a how did you meet your husband thread but didn't find one. So, I'm starting one.

1. How did you meet your husband?
2. Was it love at first sight?
3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?

And now... drum roll... here are my answers :

1. I met Hubby through a fix up by a friend who, unbeknownst to me, was trying to help me settle down a bit (I kind of was a wild one ). I thought it was just a hookup. Boy was I wrong.

2. Yes, I think it was, but I didn't understand that at the time. I'd seen a pic pic of him, but it didn't do him justice. We met at his place because he was running late, and he looked so cute and was so nice and apologetic that I blew him right then and there (I didn't really do dates back then anyway, so going with what I knew seemed a good idea to me) . He returned the favor, which usually I didn't go for because I had some hang ups with guys focusing on my pleasure. It was so good (several big Os for me) that we fucked, which at that point I usually only did if I got really wasted, and I was barely buzzed that night.

3. I knew he was different when I spent the night, something I never did. And when we had sex that next morning, it was the first time I ever had sex without some alcohol involved. My experience was that I needed the alcohol to help me relax enough so that sex wasn't painful, but with him, I didn't need it.

I went from casual BJ girl to committed girlfriend in the span of a night, and we were together 4 years and he asked me to marry him (actually he asked several times, but I was scared because I didn't feel worthy of him). I said yes but then cheated on him a couple weeks later . We broke up and my life spiraled out of control for 6 months. I got it back together, and got him back almost a year after that (we were apart 16 long, horrible months). We then dated for over 2 months before having sex again (his idea, not mine--I would've done anything he wanted as soon as we were back together). We will be married 4 years in December. So, in RL, I tell people we've been together 10 years and married almost 4, but the truth is we've only been together a little over 8 1/2 years out of the last 10 years, with that 16 month break I don't really like to think too much about these days. He did and still does make me feel like a different person than the one I am afraid I am. He's my best friend and an amazing lover, and most days I still can't believe how lucky I am.

 

[occasional_lovers]

1. Our families shared some common distant relatives, and he came to my grandpa's funeral accompanying his mother. I must admit he was the most interesting person around my age at the funeral, and we had a little chat before and after the service.

2. No, it was malfunction at first sight. My car couldn't start, and he had parked next to me, so he volunteered to find a mechanic at the nearby village and bring him there. Then we became facebook friends and had some sporadic meetings when I wasn't travelling. It took us 9 months to become lovers, and 2 years for me to say yes.

3. He 's special, in fact very special, but he 's not the one. One of the main reasons I accepted his proposal, besides his other obvious merits, was that he knew about my frequent trips (and the few men I meet) from the very first morning we woke up together, and he never demanded that I quit.

 

[AsianGirlNextDoor]

Husband

Met my Husband at a friend's party. He didn't really leave any special impression on me, but he somehow track down where I work. I sell new home in a new community. He stop by everyday looking at the model homes and we talk a more each time.

About a week later he stop almost closing time on a Sunday. The others have left and he said he had some questions on one of the models. So we went over to the model homes. We went into the kitchen and start asking me about how much would this cost and how it would look. I got caught up in pointing out where the options would be I didn't notice he got behind me.

He put his hands around my waist and press against me. We end up doing it in the model home and soon we pick out one of the new homes with all the options as our new home.

 

[lil_jenni]

Bump!

 

[Jada59]

I used to go to a club at least once a week. I had an older BF who had kids in Oregon. He was there visiting. It was Black Friday. I was at the club with my friend and we were cold. We approached two guys sitting at a table at the back. Now this club had two stories. Upstairs was he dance floor. Downstairs was gambling. They had been down there gambling and not doing well so came upstairs to take a break.

My friend and I approached the guys. I told them we were cold and they needed to dance with us. They did. The one I had danced with asked me out. I said I had a BF so sorry, I couldn't.

A year after, again Black Friday. Same club. My BF and I were no longer together. I saw the guy I had danced with the year before. I approached him. Said, "Your name is Mike and you have something to do with a ship!"

From that day on, we were together. Not love at first sight. Not love for me a all. There was more lust on my part and he was very generous. Took me out to eat, bought me stuff, was very nice. At least back then.

We fell into a bad pattern. He kept proposing to me. 2 months into it, the first time. I said it was too soon.

He kept proposing. My mom pushed me hard to marry him. At some point, I accepted but then he back pedaled. As in... No! No! I didn't mean now! I meant some time later.

Got to where I told him not to bring it up.

Eventually he said he was ready. I was in the planning stages of the wedding. Had my dress. A clearance item. Two piece cream colored skirt and top.

He called and said we needed to get married that weekend as he had been transferred to Rhode Island. He was in the Coast Guard.

I had to ask for the weekend off at work. I ran out and bought a pair of gold shoes and a plane ticket. I flew to Reno. Met him there.

Arranged for a Limo to the wedding chapel. He got cold feet. Canceled the Limo.

I freaked! I had given up my job and my apartment to marry him. And now this? I ran, crying, in my wedding dress to a pay phone. Used my bucket of nickels to call my dad. He called the room, spoke to my guy.

We got married the next morning. I looked like crap. Had been crying all night. He looked like a cardboard cutout.

Immediately after we were married, he said he made a mistake. We went back to the room where he watched reruns of The Simpsons until I begged him to go get lunch. He did, reluctantly.

After that he gambled. I slept alone in the room at the hotel/casino. He drove me to the airport the next day. I didn't see him again for a few weeks. He was out to sea.

We moved to Cape Cod. Turned out that's whee he was transferred to. Not Rhode Island. Turned out pretty much everything he told me was a lie. He hated me and wanted me dead. He only married me because he thought my writing would make him a fortune but once married, he forbade me to write. We had been together for 8 years prior. He wouldn't let me out of the marriage. 22 years of hell. He finally divorced me.

No love story there. Sorry.

 

[varv]

1. How did you meet your husband?
with the first husband I was engaged in one sports school of track and field athletics. Our groups were engaged in one hall.
2. Was it love at first sight?
No. Can not of course say that he was indifferent to me, but we were just friends at first.
3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?
It took me a while to realize he wasn't the one. : D

 

[lil_jenni]

...No love story there. Sorry.

Shit, Jada... that's horrible. So sorry it happened to you.

 

[Asian_Flower]

We worked in the same place, not for the same company but the same building.

Definitely not love at first sight. He had a reputation as a bit of a playboy and it just wasn't my thing. He was however undeniably hot and had a great body. He was hard not to notice and I must admit he was attractive.

Strange thing is we ended up in a few group outings together before we went out by ourselves. Even then he never made any moves on me at all. It actually got to the point where I wondered why he had not tried anything. It was me who made the first "move" and boy oh boy was it worth it!

 

[givememoresir]

I met my husband at work.

It was not love at first sight, but we did become friends very quickly and definitely enjoyed one another's company.

I'm pretty sure he's not *the one*, though it's taken me some time to realize that.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

Posting to the same message board (not Lit!).

We realized we happened to be in the same college town so we met for coffee a few times. Just as friends.

Then one rainy afternoon he asked me to go to a movie with him. Afterwards we bought some groceries and went back to my place and cooked dinner.

Then we fucked. A lot.

 

[Annatartywife]

Nice questions

Finally met him through a mutual friend, though had known of him for a while.

No it wasn't love at first sight, but there was a strong mutual attraction that was more than just physical.

Yes he is 'the one'. In as much as I love him like I love no other man. But there are others who I have been in love with (2) and others who I 'love' in similar ways to Mike, but just not with the same degree of intensity and depth.

 

[Justfantasies]

Finally met him through a mutual friend, though had known of him for a while.

No it wasn't love at first sight, but there was a strong mutual attraction that was more than just physical.

Yes he is 'the one'. In as much as I love him like I love no other man. But there are others who I have been in love with (2) and others who I 'love' in similar ways to Mike, but just not with the same degree of intensity and depth.

"Others who I 'love' in similar ways to Mike, but just not with the same degree of intensity and depth" meaning you make love with them?

 

[lil_jenni]

Bumping.

 

[Shi_One81]

1. How did you meet your husband?
2. Was it love at first sight?
3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?

1. I met him on Kik in a local group he was admin of. We started chatting and discovered we only lived a very short distance from each other and he asked me to meet him for a drink. I have a really bad memory, but I remember walking through the front door of that bar and seeing him sitting there at the bar, he turned and our eyes locked and yeah, I knew I was had. We had some drinks, shared our first kiss at the bar and then he took me home, but we didn’t have sex or engage in any sexual activity. I spent the following weekend at his house and I gave him a bj. But, we still hadn’t had sex.

2 and 3. I held back with the “I love you” for a bit. He said if first and I didn’t respond back with it. I’d been hurt so bad in other relationships, I was terrified of loving someone again. But, I did eventually say it. Keep in mind, it didn’t take long given he proposed to me after just two months.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

1. How did you meet your husband?
2. Was it love at first sight?
3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?

1. We met when I went to work at a club where he was the DJ.

2. Husband material? No, didn't think about it at the time. And after I was warned of his 'playboy' ways, I decided to just let things take their course. Flirting both ways. I dated the bartender once to make him jealous...lol. We talked one night when I was working the door and THEN I knew.

3. We went out the next Friday and I didn't make it home till Tuesday. Jan 16th will mark 39 years together. I do love it when a plan comes together!

 

[sillysluttycouple]

1. How did you meet your husband?
In the middle school library when I was bringing in some books. A mutual friend introduced us but he didn't say much.

2. Was it love at first sight?
Ha, nope. He says it was for him but I really didn't like the gangly weird slouchy kid that he was at the time.

3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?
It took him leaving to travel the world, get buff, and learn so much that he makes me look stupid sitting in the same room. I know it sounds a bit silly but I really didn't date guys I wasn't turned on by and it was years before he forced me to see something other than the nerdy platonic friend from school. After that, he showed me just how lucky I was to have a true friend who really loves me and let's me ve me, even with all my faults and proclivities. Pluss he has a nice butt.

 

[AloneTooLong]

How did I meet my husband?

My BFF was 'in lust' with him (she was married to his good friend). She (BFF) wanted me to date him to keep him from getting interested in other gals until she could make her mind to get a divorce. Our first date ended up in my bed!

Was it love at first sight?

Not on my part but he was certainly a wonderful lover.

Did it take time to realize this was the one?

He was ten years younger than I was, after two divorces I really didn't plan to get married again; after six months living together he told me he wanted to get married. It lasted 29 years until he died.

 

[littlecordelera]

We met at a party while we were attending college. My husband had been badgering a friend of mine to introduce us, and he (the friend) finally gave in. The introduction was very unceremonious, but I was amused at how my husband handled it. We got to talking and our personalities mixed very well, but I wasn't initially interested in him because he is rather short in stature. Don't get me wrong. My husband is a very attractive guy, but he is small as males go.

I kept him at arms length for about a year, but all that time our friendship only deepened. Eventually, I came to realize that he had been chasing me all that time, he was so committed, and one night I asked him why. What he said was so sincere, so personal, and it really touched my heart. He made me realize how well our personalities mixed.

I was so aloof to him, and yet he kept after me. I'm so glad he did.

 

[Scareltt]

Like any other girl of the 90s

I met my husband at the shopping mall.

Yep it was a match made at the mall.

Who knew over 20 years later we would still be together.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Met my husband first day of 9th grade. For him, love at first sight. It took me 3 years. But then I saw the fireworks.
Married 30+ years.

 

[CandK_inSE]

1. How did you meet your husband?

Yahoo Personals. A thing in 2004. He answered my ad. We emailed and talked a few times, and he asked me out to dinner on a Friday night.

2. Was it love at first sight?

I liked him immediately. I liked his voice on the phone and I liked the way he wrote his e-mails. He used proper spelling and punctuation. It isn't a big thing, but to me it showed he cared enough to spend the time to do it the right way. Or, he was just intelligent enough to write correctly.

When I met him in person, he was exactly the way he described himself. He didn't lie and he didn't try to make himself into more than who he was. I knew I wanted to see him again after our first date.

3. Or did it take time to realize this was the one?

The second date. He took me to a nice restaurant for dinner. We then went to a coffee shop. I knew I wanted him and he was the one. I was so silly, I told him that I needed to show him something in his car. I don't think he was clueless as to what I was doing, but he played along. I played like I had a picture on my phone and reached across to show him, while all but grabbing the back of his head with my other hand. He felt something too. We made out for a few minutes and then he asked if we should go to his house. We did. He made love to me and he fucked me. He was only the third man I was with. He is the last I'll ever be with. We've been together ever since.