How did you know your role?

[Phatfeet]

For me, there is no "role" to play and I would not want to be with anyone who thought so. To me its about exploration of this other whole side of sex. I might gravitate to a "role" or position, but at any time things might change and I want him to know its okay if that is him wishing to do so, or me.

 

[Escierto]

For me my sexual activities with another male started out with us both topping & bottoming, It took
many different exploits with quite a few other men for me to realize that I am a true submissive bottom destined to be a alpha males bitch.

So over time you found it was more satisfying to be the bottom?

 

[Escierto]

Yes it took some time to find my role. My lust for cock was always present, my desire to be a pleaser and a bottom
evolved over the years. Now I know it was really that way from the start.

It's interesting to me that it took years for this to happen. I knew from the very start that I was born to be a bottom.

 

[saintcero]

For me my sexual activities with another male started out with us both topping & bottoming, It took
many different exploits with quite a few other men for me to realize that I am a true submissive bottom destined to be a alpha males

It's interesting to me that it took years for this to happen. I knew from the very start that I was born to be a bottom.

I always had bottom tendencies but as I was not attracted to men at all I just assumed it was an anal fetish. After being on SilverDaddies and Lit, I learned that there were others like me so I grew and evolved a good bit more. After my Top put me in front of a mirror so I could see my cum soaked face as he fucked me, I had to admit I was a bottom bitch (and I loved it)

 

[EdgySubMic]

It's interesting to me that it took years for this to happen. I knew from the very start that I was born to be a bottom.

He's not alone. I was almost 30 by the time I fully figured it out.
Yet, looking back, there were clear signs a long, long, long, time before that. I can't mention exactly how long on this forum, even if nothing sexual at all was involved at the time of the earliest signs that I can identify as such now.

 

[bc_smash]

I was with someone who wanted to try both top and bottom. That's how I became versatile

 

[Ciceri]

My freshman year of college I rented a room from a retired Air Force gentleman. Even though I paid to live there, I let him make demands of me -like curfew and strict rules on visitors. I liked the structure he offered and even though I'd been defiant toward authority as a kid, I accepted his control. At the time it didn't make much sense to me. When he made sexual advances I found myself accepting that, too. It began with mutual masturbation while watching porn and quickly turned into giving him oral sex. That changed everything. He controlled every aspect of my life and when I wasn't in class, I was his plaything. Never saw that coming

 

[Escierto]

I was with someone who wanted to try both top and bottom. That's how I became versatile

Do you like being versatile? No preference one way or the other?

 

[bc_smash]

Do you like being versatile? No preference one way or the other?

Exactly. I like doing both

 

[Escierto]

Exactly. I like doing both

That's cool. Good for you and your partners!

 

[bc_smash]

That's cool. Good for you and your partners!

I try to be good for them no matter what

 

[Kellieskirt3]

Well goes back years I remember play super heros and I played as hawkgirl fast forward and I luv to be innpanties dressed and serving and being fucked did not understand it all those years ago but omg do I know dress up , on knees suck then all 4's and get fucked

 

[Terrylipstick]

I started cross dressing when I was young. Dressing like a girl made me want to be a girl (or vice versa). In all of the porn magazines the women were always taking cock in the mouth, pussy, and ass. When I embraced my love of cock it was just natural to be a bottom. I love being a bottom, I’m pretty good at it (practice whenever I can), and yeah… that’s how I knew my role.

 

[saintcero]

I knew my role the same way I knew that I was right handed, it’s what felt most natural to me. Why fight it.

 

[Britva415]

For me, there is no "role" to play and I would not want to be with anyone who thought so. To me its about exploration of this other whole side of sex. I might gravitate to a "role" or position, but at any time things might change and I want him to know its okay if that is him wishing to do so, or me.

Me too.

For years I thought I was a bottom because I was with a man for a long time who just wouldn't bottom. And other men I was with when I was young never asked me to top them, though I think I probably would have. Instead, since I already knew "how to top" because I'd been with women, then taking it up the ass was something I was curious about, so, that was what I initiated with a few men before my LTR.

Then I spent over 20 years with women, and so that whole time I thought I was a bottom for men. Even though I knew I was a switch for women. Now that my marriage is open, I'm letting go of old ideas and feel free to explore new stuff, so, in addition to trying kink whereas I always thought of myself as vanilla (despite switching with women), now I find that I'm also into topping men whereas I didn't expect to discover that about myself.

You know

You just know

You know you know

You just know you know

Not everyone always does. I wonder if switches generally have to discover that through experience, like me, or, if there are switches who "just know" too? Plus people change. Did they always know they would change?

 

[Escierto]

Me too.

For years I thought I was a bottom because I was with a man for a long time who just wouldn't bottom. And other men I was with when I was young never asked me to top them, though I think I probably would have. Instead, since I already knew "how to top" because I'd been with women, then taking it up the ass was something I was curious about, so, that was what I initiated with a few men before my LTR.

Then I spent over 20 years with women, and so that whole time I thought I was a bottom for men. Even though I knew I was a switch for women. Now that my marriage is open, I'm letting go of old ideas and feel free to explore new stuff, so, in addition to trying kink whereas I always thought of myself as vanilla (despite switching with women), now I find that I'm also into topping men whereas I didn't expect to discover that about myself.






Not everyone always does. I wonder if switches generally have to discover that through experience, like me, or, if there are switches who "just know" too? Plus people change. Did they always know they would change?

Good thought provoking post.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I wanted to bottom to see if I liked sucking cock and having a hard cock in my ass. I do! I very much enjoy controlling the pleasure my lover gets as I stroke him until he is getting hard and then licking, sucking, and even nibbling on his cock. I very much like it when he groans out it's time for you to get fucked. He is well endowed, 7.5 inches long and not quite as big around as a Red Bull can. He could have turned me off to this forever if he was not a slow, gentle, lover breaking me in. I am not submissive, or feminine, in the least. We are 2 men sharing fabulous sex and intimacy!

I have no doubts that I will top with the right man. My curiosity will demand it.

 

[bimwiguy1963]

I knew from the first moment that the first cock that slid past my lips into my mouth, that my role of a cocksucker would love in forever. And 40+ yes later I can sa

 

[Escierto]

I knew from the first moment that the first cock that slid past my lips into my mouth, that my role of a cocksucker would love in forever. And 40+ yes later I can sa

Do you only suck cock? Or bend over for it too?

 

[Biguy77578]

I enjoy both. I was a bottom first but when I got the chance to top I liked it just as much. I really like the feel of my cock in a tight ass male or female. I love watching it slide in and out. I wish I couldsee the cock sliding in and out of my ass but love the feel.

 

[saintcero]

There are so many ways of finding one´s identity and role. I still remember riding home on the subway one night in a bad mood. There was this guy standing with his back to me, probably a college student like me, and his tight jeans showed the most cute ass. When the subway made a jolt, he was thrown against me. Our eyes met, he apologized and we started to talk. He was so sweet and kept stealing glances at my bulge. In the end I invited him to my place. But when we started kissing and touching, he all at once became very apprehensive, said he didn´t know if he was ready for it. He was still a virgin. As I had been only two years before! I remembered my first time and my own apprehensions but felt that he wanted me to overcome his resistance. As it turned out, I was right. Afterwards he had this huge smile on his face and said that his ass felt sore but he was so happy. When we met again a few days later, he was a totally different person, constantly talking and smiling. He loved how I was shaved on my cock and balls, so I helped him do that for himself (he was rock-hard). And when he felt my length inside him he closed his eyes to more fully enjoy. Afterwards he asked if he could top me which of course he could. So in a way I started him on his way of finding out about his role.

I bet he thinks of you often. I know I would.

 

[spraybomb13]

I was always smaller then other boys my age, so when playing super heroes, or anything like that, I was always the "girl". I always acted like I didn't want to, but I secretly liked it. I was pretty naive about sex as a kid, and when one night at a sleepover with friends, they were talking about "doing it", I was clueless. When a Hustler or Fox Hunt magazine appeared, I was memorized. The feelings were buzzing through me. Eventually, they had me laying on my belly as they took turns pretending to be "doing me", (no actual sex or anything), but I still remember the way that made me feel. I loved it.
Many years later, when I decided to try gay sex, I knew I wanted to be the bottom. I have topped a couple times, but I know where I belong. I still get the same thrill as I did so long ago.

 

[Terrylipstick]

I enjoy both. I was a bottom first but when I got the chance to top I liked it just as much. I really like the feel of my cock in a tight ass male or female. I love watching it slide in and out. I wish I couldsee the cock sliding in and out of my ass but love the feel.

I swear that when my brain is fueled by poppers I can “see” my hole stretching and “see” his cock going into me…. It’s unreal and incredible

 

[Escierto]

I have topped a couple times, but I know where I belong.

I topped the first trans woman I met a couple of times during our week together and she loved it. I fucked her because she asked for it but it didn't do anything for me. I don't miss it at all!

 

[slideby]

I knew the first time I saw a woman with a cock. I had been chatting on cam with her for months but I always had thought she was a regular woman. Finally one day she was upset and told me that she had been dishonest with me. I was confused as hell but then she confessed that she had a cock. I didn’t believe her so then she showed me.

The moment I saw her cock I was overcome with the desire to suck it and have it in my ass. It took me a decade to accept my desires and finally act on them. Once I did, I knew that there was no going back. Now I have a transgender girlfriend who is a pure top and I love being her bottom and servicing her cock.

agree! I don't think there's anything sexier in this world then a curvy lady with a bone hard cock.