How did you first learn abot sex?

[bangmywalls]

I was raised in a vey strict Catholic family. Sex was never discussed, and the only thing the nuns taught me about sex was never to let a man put his face between my thighs, that was wrong and evil and dirty and disgusting! I couldn't wait to move out, and the day I turned legal (18), I did. I got a job working as a maid at a motel.

I wanted a boyfriend and wanted to go wild, find out what sex was all about.

I did start dating, but I didn't find anyone I really wanted to have my first sexual exprience with. It took me a couple of years.

I was 20 and was dating this one guy pretty steadily. We'd always end the date with a kiss at my door. The kisses were starting to get pretty passionate.

Because of my curiosity about sex, I read two magazines a lot: Cosmopolitan and Playgirl. Some of the other maids told me that men get much harder than what they show in Playgirl, so I was curious about that, too.

One article described in quite explicit detail how to suck a man's cock. It said to practice on a banana, and how to do that. The article said a man's cock has very sensitive flesh, and if you could suck on a peeled banana without breaking it, and without gagging on it, you were ready for the real thing.

After one of my dates with my boyfriend, I felt I was ready. At the end of our date, I told him I had a surprise for him. For the first time, instead of kissing at the door, I invited him in. I was so eager to try out what I had leared and had been practicing, I wasted no time getting his pants off of him and doing to him what I'd been practicing. He trembled and he fired into my mouth. I hadn't really expected that, and damn did he taste NASTY! I rushed to the bathroom to get rid of the taste.

We talked for a while and he finally asked me if I wanted him to make love to me. I thought that sounded pretty good to me, I wanted to experience that. He shoved his way into me, he wasn't at all gentle and it really HURT! But by the end of the night, I began to feel better about his thrusting, and I started to enjoy it a little.

From then on, we would always end our dates in bed. The sex felt good, in a plaeasant sort of way, but didn't really excite me.

One day he told me he didn't want to go out at all, just make love to me. I realized he was only interested in me for sex, not for ME, and I threw him out.

Boyfriend #2 (at age 23) was a fireman. Firemen are supposed to be HOT, right? I mean, think of fireman calendars! But when I got him naked, I was surprised to find a beer gut and not much of a cock. Our relationship didn't really work out. It's kind of ironic, because my current husband owns and restored an old fire truck (but he's not a fireman) and he has a couple of firefighters uniforms, and sex with my make-believe fireman is always a whole lot hotter than with that real-life fireman was!

At 26 I married a coworker with whom I'd been instantly smitten. It wasn't until after our I Do's that I found out this man had almost ZERO sex drive. We were married 17 years and made love all of 6 times! He died when I was 43.

I didn't meet The KittyKatEater until 2 years later, I was 45, he was 40. He was surprised that I had never had an orgasm, and sweet man that he is, on our 4th date, he slowly, patiently, teasingly worked on me until I did come, all over his face! He always enters me slowly, gently, until I feel completely STUFFED full of him! (Mmmmm, I love that!). And I love to suck on his cock, and I don't mind swallowing, he actually tastes pretty good, certainly a whole lot better than that first guy in my 20s. And he's much more appreciative of my sucking him than that first guy was all those years ago. Plus I love him so much, I think that makes a BIG difference in my enjoyment of him.

I think I've learned more about sex in my 10 years of my second marriage, than I ever did in my first 45 years! Now I find myself trying to come up with sexy new things for us to enjoy, and to show KKE how much I love him. Things I've intrroduced into our love life include mutual spanking (gentle and playful, never hard), romantic bubblebaths for two by candlelight, and sex in semi-public places (in the woods, in lakes, we even once made love in a freight elevator lobby after-hours in a mall, with only two big potted plam trees to hide what we were doing if anyone should have showed up).

So....how did YOU learn about sex?

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

You were married for 17 years and only made love 6 times? YIKES! That kind of reminds me of Sex in the City when Charlotte was married to Trey.

My mom and her siblings grew up in a strict Catholic house. My mom and her sisters ended the strict Catholic rules thanks to the hippy era.

I know I asked what sex was before I was insteresting and boys and sex. I probably heard the word somewhere and just asked what it was. I was fairly young, so my mom just explained to me what it was on my age level at the time. I remember her saying something like "When two adults love each other they kiss while naked". When I got older and started to get insterested in boys I started to ask more questions and my mom was able to explain in more detail since I was older and would be able to understand. She also always told me that she would prefer to wait until I was an adult to have sex but if I did choose to have sex to make sure I ALWAYS wear a condom.

I remember when I was about 14-years-old my mom was dating her boss. I called my mom at work and I her boss/boyfriend answered. He talked to me for a while until my mom was able to come to the phone. I asked him what a blow job was because I heard the word in school. He told me he'll have my mom answer that question. Since she was at work she couldn't really go into detail what it was, but she did tell me.

I always wanted to wait until I was married to have sex. I got that part from my grandmother. I'm a very emtional perso so for me sex is emotional. When I was 18 I met this guy who was in the Navy. He was the first guy I never loved. I thought he loved me too. One day while we were making out I just undid he pants and gave him a blow job. It was out of passion for love and I honestly thought I would marry him someday. I then told him it was okay if we had incourse. We never wound up having intcourse because he got soft when he tried. He went back to Virigina where he was stationed a few days later and before I knew it he was a completely different guy. He suddenly turend into a jerk and before I know it he was trying to commit suicide and when I told his mom about it he broke up with me and never wanted anything to do with me again.

About a year and a half later I met a guy who was 17-years-old than me. He asked me one day to have sex. I asked him "Are you at least planning on taking me out on a date first". He told me no. I was like then there's no way I'm having sex with you because I don't do casual sex. I was having low self-esteem at the time so he finally convinced me to have casual oral sex. When he saw me nude he told me I was too fat and needed to losoe weight even though he wanted more from me. He was a smoker so his penis and sperm didn't taste so good. The guy wound up really hurting me.

I then eventually met my husband and now he'll be the only person I'll be having sex with.

 

[koalabear]

How did you first learn about sex?

I had a fantastic Babysitter.......

 

[bangmywalls]

I had a fantastic Babysitter.......

Thanks for making me laugh!

 

[bangmywalls]

You were married for 17 years and only made love 6 times? YIKES! That kind of reminds me of Sex in the City when Charlotte was married to Trey.

At least he didn't say "all righty!" In his defense, he was terribly ill his last 3 years before he dies. But that still doesn't expain why only 6 times in our first 6 years. I even had a tough time getting him to make love with me on our Honneymoon! I guess in his own way he loved me, and I know I loved him or I wouldn't have stuck by him so long.

Thankfully, my second husband loves making love with me, any time, anywhere.

I asked him what a blow job was because I heard the word in school.

Reminds me of the day our daughter (KKE and I were both single parents when we met) asked KKE, "Dad, what's cunnilingus?" I guess I didn't help things any when I cracked up laughing at the way she asked that, just blurting it out like that!

He asked where she heard that, and she told us her best friend (female) said she wanted to do that with her. KKE, who is usually so calm, was totally flustered for a moment before he could answer her! Again, I wasn't terribly helpful, since I found myself cracking up again! But he did explain it to her, and our daughter said that sounded cool. Our daughter would later introduce this friend to us as "my best friend and lover" and told us they are both bisexual, so draw your own conclusions.

Well, our daughter's now engaged to a wonderful man, and is much more conservative in general now.

He was a smoker so his penis and sperm didn't taste so good.

You're braver than I am! I could never stand it to even KISS a smoker! Total YUCK!

I then eventually met my husband and now he'll be the only person I'll be having sex with.

100% agree there!

 

[koalabear]

Reminds me of the day our daughter (KKE and I were both single arents when we met) asked KKE, "Dad, what's cunnilingus?" I guess I didn't help things any when I cracked up laughing at the way she asked that, just blurting it out like that!

Reminds me when the cub ask me how to masturbate. As a responsible and sensible parent I told him what he needed to do. GOOGLE IT!

 

[bangmywalls]

Reminds me when the cub ask me how to masturbate. As a responsible and sensible parent I told him what he needed to do. GOOGLE IT!

Damn...wish I'd thought of google when our son asked me that same question years ago!

How do you get away with that avatar? Some site administrator went through and yanked every photo my husband had posted of HIS cock! We wre told it violates the rules. Apparanetly you can show butts and chests but not cocks or pussies. Pisses me off, since I took most of those photos!

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

Reminds me of the day our daughter (KKE and I were both single parents when we met) asked KKE, "Dad, what's cunnilingus?" I guess I didn't help things any when I cracked up laughing at the way she asked that, just blurting it out like that!

He asked where she heard that, and she told us her best friend (female) said she wanted to do that with her. KKE, who is usually so calm, was totally flustered for a moment before he could answer her! Again, I wasn't terribly helpful, since I found myself cracking up again! But he did explain it to her, and our daughter said that sounded cool. Our daughter would later introduce this friend to us as "my best friend and lover" and told us they are both bisexual, so draw your own conclusions.

Well, our daughter's now engaged to a wonderful man, and is much more conservative in general now.

Haha! My mom actually laughed at me when she got me on the phone and realized I asked her boyfriend what a blow job was.

My mom was very open to explaining what things were, but I don't think she would have been to pleased if I said something like "Oh, that sounds cool"". I have no idea what she would say if I did say something like that. I'm a different type of person than your daughter is, so I guess my mom eventualy knew I would have no instrest in doing anything sexual at that point in time. Like I said, I wanted to wait until marriage. I guess I picked that part up from my grandmother who I also lived with most of my life.

I do know I had no surprises when I did finally have sex. I didn't freak out on anything and because my mom always told me it was okay if I masterbated my first time didn't hurt. Well okay, my mom didn't come straight out and say "Honey it's okay if you want to masterbate", but when I asked about it she told me it was a safe way to realease your sexual urges.

 

[bangmywalls]

Haha! My mom actually laughed at me when she got me on the phone and realized I asked her boyfriend what a blow job was.

My mom was very open to explaining what things were, but I don't think she would have been to pleased if I said something like "Oh, that sounds cool"". I have no idea what she would say if I did say something like that. I'm a different type of person than your daughter is, so I guess my mom eventualy knew I would have no instrest in doing anything sexual at that point in time. Like I said, I wanted to wait until marriage. I guess I picked that part up from my grandmother who I also lived with most of my life.

I do know I had no surprises when I did finally have sex. I didn't freak out on anything and because my mom always told me it was okay if I masterbated my first time didn't hurt. Well okay, my mom didn't come straight out and say "Honey it's okay if you want to masterbate", but when I asked about it she told me it was a safe way to realease your sexual urges.

You're lucky. My parents told me nothing about sex, I had to find out for myself. From what the other girls in school said, I thought sex was supposed to be great, but my first few times were pretty miserable. When I married my first husband, because I loved him, sex was pleasant, as it was with the man I love. But come on, just 6 times in 14 years (I won't count the last 3 years when he was too ill for sex) wasn't enough, and though it was pleasant, I didn't umm, ENJOY it, if you catch my drift.

KKE is such a contrast. He's a totally unselfish lover. He just wants me to enjoy myself, which I always do (our first time, his fingers and tongue brought me to my vey first orgasm of my life, and by dawn he'd given me 4 more!), and he asks for and expects nothing in return. Which just makes me all the more eager to please him, by either sucking him or riding him (although that's not JUST for his benefit: I enjoy both, every bit as much as he does!). We both sometimes express regrets that it took us to our 40s to find what we have together, but we also know how lucky to have such a wonderful and passionate sex life at all!

KKE's mom explained the facts of life to him in very technical medical terms, so he walked away totally confused. He said reading erotic stories written in real-world language was how he came to understand what it's really all about. That, and the fact that his college swetheart taught him how to eat pussy. At first that kind of bugged me, I was a bit jealous that he'd tasted other pussies before mine, but now I realize I'm the lucky and happy beneficiary of what she taught him, so I don't mind at all now! Plus, mine's the first and ONLY pussy his lovely thick cock has ever entered (he willingly and happily surrendered his viriginity to me on our 4th date, and I very happily accepted that precious gift from him), so that makes me special and unique for him, even if he has eaten a few other pussies before mine. And as KKE's mom (my mother-in-law) told us, "It doesn't matter if you weren't each other's FIRST, as long as you're each other's LAST!"

Anyway, my point is, since it took us so long to find each other, and to fnd great sex, and since we had parents who didn't help or encourage our sexual curioisties, we were both determined not to be that kind of parents. We taught our kids not to be ashamed of their bodies or their sexual feelings. So when our daughter told us she's bisexual, and when we caught our son and his girlfriend lying naked atop the pool table (our son on top), we tried to take it all in stride, as a normal and natural exploration and expression of the sexual side of who they are as a person.

I remember one morning, our son came into our bedroom, upset about something that had happened at school the day before. We were both naked in bed, so we pulled the sheets up high so he wouldn't see, but he'd noticed KKE's bare chest. "Get dressed!" our son shouted angrily to my husband. "Mommy does NOT want to see you naked!"

Well, I didn't want our son going around thnking women don't enjoy seeing their men naked. That's just a WRONG notion. So without even thinking about it, I instinctively smiled and replied, "As a matter of fact, mommy DOES like seeing dady naked! I like it VERY much!" Maybe I shouldn't have said it, as it just got our son madder, but I think it also helped him grow up to realize that women enjoy sex too, we have needs and urges and desires just as men do, and to grow up to be as considerate and attentive a lover to HIS woman, as his "new dad" (we NEVER say stepdad, with all the negative connotations of that word) is to me.

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

You're lucky. My parents told me nothing about sex, I had to find out for myself. From what the other girls in school said, I thought sex was supposed to be great, but my first few times were pretty miserable. When I married my first husband, because I loved him, sex was pleasant, as it was with the man I love. But come on, just 6 times in 14 years (I won't count the last 3 years when he was too ill for sex) wasn't enough, and though it was pleasant, I didn't umm, ENJOY it, if you catch my drift.

KKE is such a contrast. He's a totally unselfish lover. He just wants me to enjoy myself, which I always do (our first time, his fingers and tongue brought me to my vey first orgasm of my life, and by dawn he'd given me 4 more!), and he asks for and expects nothing in return. Which just makes me all the more eager to please him, by either sucking him or riding him (although that's not JUST for his benefit: I enjoy both, every bit as much as he does!). We both sometimes express regrets that it took us to our 40s to find what we have together, but we also know how lucky to have such a wonderful and passionate sex life at all!

KKE's mom explained the facts of life to him in very technical medical terms, so he walked away totally confused. He said reading erotic stories written in real-world language was how he came to understand what it's really all about. That, and the fact that his college swetheart taught him how to eat pussy. At first that kind of bugged me, I was a bit jealous that he'd tasted other pussies before mine, but now I realize I'm the lucky and happy beneficiary of what she taught him, so I don't mind at all now! Plus, mine's the first and ONLY pussy his lovely thick cock has ever entered (he willingly and happily surrendered his viriginity to me on our 4th date, and I very happily accepted that precious gift from him), so that makes me special and unique for him, even if he has eaten a few other pussies before mine. And as KKE's mom (my mother-in-law) told us, "It doesn't matter if you weren't each other's FIRST, as long as you're each other's LAST!"

Anyway, my point is, since it took us so long to find each other, and to fnd great sex, and since we had parents who didn't help or encourage our sexual curioisties, we were both determined not to be that kind of parents. We taught our kids not to be ashamed of their bodies or their sexual feelings. So when our daughter told us she's bisexual, and when we caught our son and his girlfriend lying naked atop the pool table (our son on top), we tried to take it all in stride, as a normal and natural exploration and expression of the sexual side of who they are as a person.

I remember one morning, our son came into our bedroom, upset about something that had happened at school the day before. We were both naked in bed, so we pulled the sheets up high so he wouldn't see, but he'd noticed KKE's bare chest. "Get dressed!" our son shouted angrily to my husband. "Mommy does NOT want to see you naked!"

Well, I didn't want our son going around thnking women don't enjoy seeing their men naked. That's just a WRONG notion. So without even thinking about it, I instinctively smiled and replied, "As a matter of fact, mommy DOES like seeing dady naked! I like it VERY much!" Maybe I shouldn't have said it, as it just got our son madder, but I think it also helped him grow up to realize that women enjoy sex too, we have needs and urges and desires just as men do, and to grow up to be as considerate and attentive a lover to HIS woman, as his "new dad" (we NEVER say stepdad, with all the negative connotations of that word) is to me.

I remember KKK talking about your son walking in on you one time. I thought that was kind of cute.

Yes, I feel very lucky to have the mother I have and I feel lucky that I got to have my grandmother live with me for most of my life. My grandmother tried to go along with my mother because she knew she was the mother now, but she still had her opinion that you should wait until marriage before sex. I'm a very emotional person so if I didn't agree with my grandmother's opinion I probably would have gotten hurt if I chose to have sex any sooner. I just could never be the type of person to have a one night stand.

When my husband I have children I want them to know about sex and I want them to feel comforable with their sexuality, but at the same time I would really like it if they could wait for the right person. So I'll probably wind up just doing what my mother did and saying "I really dont'want you having sex until you are at least 18 and you think you are with the right person, but if you do choose to have sex before then make sure you use a condom and make sure you ALWAYS use a condom".

 

[bangmywalls]

I remember KKK talking about your son walking in on you one time. I thought that was kind of cute.

Yes, I feel very lucky to have the mother I have and I feel lucky that I got to have my grandmother live with me for most of my life. My grandmother tried to go along with my mother because she knew she was the mother now, but she still had her opinion that you should wait until marriage before sex. I'm a very emotional person so if I didn't agree with my grandmother's opinion I probably would have gotten hurt if I chose to have sex any sooner. I just could never be the type of person to have a one night stand.

When my husband I have children I want them to know about sex and I want them to feel comforable with their sexuality, but at the same time I would really like it if they could wait for the right person. So I'll probably wind up just doing what my mother did and saying "I really dont'want you having sex until you are at least 18 and you think you are with the right person, but if you do choose to have sex before then make sure you use a condom and make sure you ALWAYS use a condom".

A good philosophy to raise your kids by. Don't be afraid of exploring your sexual desires but ALWAYS protect yourself. Too bad there's no protection against a broken heart!

By the way, my husband is KKE (KittyKatEater: he likes to eat-out women's kitty-kats, get it!) not KKK (Ku Klux Klan, a hate group). A previous girlfiriend dubbed him The KittyKatEater, and I can personally attest the name suits him VERY well! Anyway, KKE is an ardent supporter of the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC), a law firm that fights hate groups and teaches tolerance in schools all across America; they are the ones who bankrupted the KKK! We love the story of HOW they bankrupted the KKK: this woman who was a victim of the KKK's hate crimes and sued them through the SPLC, won in court and wound up getting EVERYTHING the KKK owned, including the huge mansion that used to be the KKK's headquarters! Now THAT's justice! Of course (unfortunately), other hate groups still exist, but at least the terror and power the KKK held over the south for 150 years is gone now. Anyway, I don't think my husband would appeciate being called KKK instead of KKE.

Take care, hun.

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

I'm sorry I wrote his name as KKK rather than KKE. I should have checked what I wrote before posting it. I was getting tired last night and trying to hurry up so I could give the computer to my husband. Apparently that was a bad idea.

 

[SexyAxeSlinger]

When I was a young teenager in high school (I'm 30 year old male btw), I started watching porn videos and looking at porn magazines underage at the age of 16, I believe. I was pretty sneaky with my parents about that stuff when I was a kid. That's when I first discovered masturbation of course. I was just too curious to see what women look like naked right away so I had friends who were old enough to buy porn videos/magazines for me to view. In all honesty though, I think everyone first learn about sex in high school for health class, we all have to learn sex education.

 

[avasogently]

I stumbled upon my dad's used condom on the bathroom sink and began asking questions.

 

[maybenicegirl]

Yeah, the nuns just said that because they wanted their faces to be between your thighs.

 

[mina678]

You know those romance novels you buy in grocery stores? That's where I first learned of sex! Haha I was an avid reader as a kid and I wasn't expecting anything about sex in those books. So I read on.. But when I get to the sex scenes in the books, I was quite shocked! Shocked enough to not turn away from the pages. So there, that's where I first learned of sex. I was probably 12 or 13 back then. That was why, when I did have my first experience with my boyfriend at 16, I kinda had a fair amount of knowledge of what might/would happen! Kinda regret having to read through all those books though, it somehow made me have high expectations about sex only to be disappointed when I was actually doing it.

 

[xJBHx]

i wish i had an interesting story.
sex? i saw a porno at a young age....also from animals at the zoo
masturbation? i guess i just figured it out on my own. it felt good.




j/k about the zoo part

 

[Simon]

I was quite young and visiting a cousin. I ended up sharing her bedroom and in a sleeping bag on the floor. The only exposure I had up to this point was a Playboy magazine which I didn't understand. We were talking as we were falling asleep and she was asking me questions about boys and if I had done anything with girls. She told me she had played around with some boys and was going to go all the way with her boyfriend soon. She was about 5 years older than me and obviously more experienced. I learned a lot that night as she told me different things about what guys and girls did together...I learned more on following nights!

 

[Climaxamus]

I had a fantastic Babysitter.......

Thats not a joke. At least not for me.

 

[human_male]

Sex, hmmm. *thinking* Nope, doesn't ring a bell.

 

[chk_a_lck_a_dck]

my parents really did not talk with us so probably at school from friends and then maybe during the act itself.

 

[S_D_R_R]

Mother kept bugging my father to have a talk with me about sex. His response to her was, "What do you want me to ask him?"

Too much credit where credit was never due!

 

[mehiali]

I learned by reading

My parents never restricted what I read, and I read all the "hysterical romance" novels my mom had - including the very graphic sex scenes. I developed early physically, and realized when I was about 12, the effect reading the scenes was having on me. Self indulgence came soon after that and I must say I have enjoyed a healthy sexual lifestyle for a number of years now!

 

[stageleft]

discovery

a girl in my class at school found some porn magazines in a carrier bag hidden in bushes in the park.she hid them somewhere else & asked if i wanted to look at them with her after school.

 

[Corbie]

and as you looked at them?