How did you find out your SO cheated?

[ReadyOne]

How did you find out your SO cheated? (Or someone else?)

The classic reasons include "overhead phone call", "came home early", "story didn't check out", "found a condom", "baby monitor", "tipped off", "they confessed"...

(Just go search Loving Wives stories for cheating.)

In real life, what true scenarios do you know? Doesn't have to be your SO, could be a friend's story.

Please just be factual, and include enough details so we can see how different the discoveries were.

Again, the question is what clue started the investigation?

 

[Earthly1]

I went on to the laptop, logged on to Facebook and found that my partner had not logged out of hers; I couldn't resist having a look in her messages. There were a few, what you might consider flirty-ish messages to some male friends of hers, but I wasn't that bothered, I didn't even mention it, I've done worse myself tbh.

By the way, what does "SO" stand for?

 

[DappleDoxie]

By the way, what does "SO" stand for?

Significant Other

Rat Fink Bastard borrowed my laptop and left footprints to a dating site.
Account was six months old, 1800 messages - extremely explicit (as well as giving his phone #, hotel room (was a LHT), and personal email), listed as single, pictures that I took used and referred to as being at "a friend's place"
Then when confronted, declared that I just did not understand, he was only messing with their minds.
And he cleared himself from my house while I was at work ... after dancing the "We'll talk when you get home. Please. We'll Talk!!!" dance that morning.

 

[YorkshireMat]

Significant other

 

[bicurnow]

My best friend told me about it. He was the one fucking her

 

[flamouria]

He sent me a text saying he was at the pictures ... with a mutual friend who was standing right next to me at the time. (Mutual friend then got the, "Back me up," text a moment later.)

 

[ReadyOne]

I was young, naive, inexperienced, trusting, married 3 months. She'd never even made me cum until the wedding night. All I knew about performing sex was fingering her to orgasm.

One day she ask me to eat her pussy like {name of old boyfriend} does", describing in present tense how he did it. I looked at her, she got the deer in the head lights look, and I knew she was still seeing him.

I ask point blank, and got the (revised) story. She told me about him (a co-worker) when we got engaged, said she'd stopped seeing him. Like for maybe a week!

But they never really stopped; they even fucked the day before the wedding. When she went back to work after the honeymoon, they picked up again.

Sex with unlearned hubby was good enough for an orgasm, but sex with BF was magnificent!

Do have to give her credit for having the courage to teach me what he taught her. (Divorced 5 years later, but not for cheating.)

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Was told on the wedding night by her old boy friend I was getting a good fuck then later she told me about soliciting

 

[Shi_One81]

Got told after spending a weekend together having sex and being with friends. He chose the drive home to tell me.

 

[RockyMountainMan2]

A friend told me she was sneaking off at lunch with a co worker. I followed them one day down to the river, when I seen him fucking her in the front seat of my truck I watched and jacked off. Never told her I knew.

 

[trevorness]

My wife got drunk and fessed up after the fact.

At first I was upset but the idea has come to turn me on.

 

[screwher]

My SO

My wife cheated twice during our relationship. The first time I found out was a combination of different behaviour, busted excuses, and indirect reports. The second time she outright confessed. But now with time I don't really think of her second tryst as cheating. By that point in our marriage it was something I secretly wanted her to do. And then it brought so much joy into our lives!

 

[LupusDei]

Well, there's the story.

It wasn't a marriage, but we were counting years together and really invested in our relationship. At least I was. She wasn't that much younger than me, but was a virgin when I picked her up after having quite a wild streak in my life so in matter of experience we were almost different generations, especially considering she was a mathematician and typically slightly antisocial, having a stack of emotional problems and rather limited social circle: few female friends and her older sister and her husband and their friends. And that was where this guy come from.

He was quite interesting fellow in his own right, but didn't fit the pattern of academic types and country musicians that was her typical casual acquaintances according to her interests. There I must say, I didn't fit that pattern either, and that's why I was growing worried when we started to spend a lot of time with that guy around (since she had quite specific and I rather broad tastes it was she who planned most of our entertainment).

I and her, we had really intense communication going (on the level of handwritten love letters daily, on top of together time and endless phone calls, it was a bit crazy even, in hindsight), so it wasn't too hard one evening to steer conversation to that guy. I laid out what I said above and flat out asked what the deal with that guy is, why she seems interested in him. And she, with little hesitation, admitted all she wants from him is his big dick. I guess I could, and should, put an end to it then and there, although I'm still unsure how exactly that must have been done. But I was like, if that's really the extent of it, you may as well have some fun, but that guy, he will probably hurt you and us, he's just that type.

She admitted it's not so easy with him. Then, few days later she send me a file containing three months worth of sexting and love letters with him. That was a bit unexpected, I had no idea it's that serious. From that point on I received nearly daily reports on her "progress" on him. I inadvertently slipped into kind of competition mode myself. In a way, it was lot of fun for a short while.

Then one day she lied to me. I immediately knew what happened, and shortly it was confirmed, she had moved in with him. Somehow, it still was a lot of a shock for me, and it hurt a lot. But then I rationalised it somehow, and restarted our communication.

We both knew it won't last. Two months in, he was coming home mostly drunk and was beating her. And she was dumping it all out on me, and I was like, I told you so, and she 'cheated' on him with me. I was ready to welcome her back home anytime, and let her know that.

What happened next shocked and amused me at the same time. She did leave that guy as I expected, but she didn't come back to me, instead she went to another guy I haven't even heard about before. Needless to say, our friend big dick was completely devastated. He went and signed up for a polar expedition. Seriously.

And then that become a pattern. For next five years she went through a lot of short term mostly disfunctional relationships always ending it by bouncing to the next guy overnight, unexpectedly for anyone but me. Because I continued to be her 'best female friend' knowing everything about about her sex life, and a secret lover at the same time. Or not as secret sometimes, few of those guys she introduced to me openly declaring I'm her first and have first hand on her still, and they are just borrowing her. Now I guess she expected me one of those times to kidnap her, bring home and chain to our bed for a week. Unthinkable in our original relationship, by that time she probably would love it all.

But back then I was still too nice a guy, and in unbelievably naive honesty expected her to return on her own someday. That didn't happen of course. It was a strange relationship, we slowly drifted away as could be expected but at the same time our infrequent sex did feel almost incestuous by the end. It was like our age difference only had grown, and I had adopted her as a daughter or something.

Then she married, this time unexpectedly even for me. Happily as far I know. Telling, I wasn't invited to her wedding. I tried to let her go, and our communication finally dripped dry to nothing. That was more than a decade ago, but I still have some of her clothes in my closet. Crazy, I know.

 

[Justfantasies]

Types of evidence

1. Wife visited old lover in NYC while I was away on business. Found charge on our card and she confessed

2. GF who confessed she fucked a much older guy, because she thought he would be better in bed than me. She said he was

3. GF who went on vacation and then told me in great detail about a FFM that she had with a Spanish airline pilot

4. Wife who had to go away on a business trip to another city. When I visited we had sex but her panties were already cum filled. It seems she had fucked someone just a little while earlier

 

[oneblueye]

hey

the first time she got my cousins house key mixed up with our house key...
The second time, she took her friend with her on a tryst, her friend is a sloppy drunk, so I got her high and ask her some questions, about her and my wife partying. So she told me about the guys they were partying with that night.
The third time that she did it, she came home and told me.
The fourth and last time that I know about, There was about a week or so that I can't account for but he had a lot more scars on his face than before we ran into each other at the bar.

 

[Justfantasies]

the first time she got my cousins house key mixed up with our house key...
The second time, she took her friend with her on a tryst, her friend is a sloppy drunk, so I got her high and ask her some questions, about her and my wife partying. So she told me about the guys they were partying with that night.
The third time that she did it, she came home and told me.
The fourth and last time that I know about, There was about a week or so that I can't account for but he had a lot more scars on his face than before we ran into each other at the bar.

Did you enjoy finding out?

 

[Taster2]

I noticed a change in her behavior, so with some investigation, I found text messages, Face book messages and pics to confirm my suspicions. It had been going on much longer than my suspicions. Still married 10 years later.

 

[Justfantasies]

I noticed a change in her behavior, so with some investigation, I found text messages, Face book messages and pics to confirm my suspicions. It had been going on much longer than my suspicions. Still married 10 years later.

How long had it been going on and is he still in her life?

 

[gtnlynn]

A fraternity brother knew the guy she was going out with while we were in different colleges. We had agreed she was to date others, so that was no surprise. My friend told me that the guy never went out with a girl if he wasn't screwing her. Others confirmed it, and she told me about it much later.

 

[DrOliver]

She came home drunk from a girls night out (not unusual) and all was fine until we started making love. The 'evidence' was obvious. I moved out that night (stayed with a friend a few days) and that was the end of our relationship - 3 months before our wedding date.

I will share food, drink, etc... but not my lover. It broke my heart.

 

[ReadyOne]

Bump for all the holiday traffic.

 

[Smallchange4]

Found out wife was cheating from other guys wife

Title pretty much explains it. I got the heads up about my wife fucking another guy because his wife was suspicious and caught him out in a blatant lie. After a grilling he confessed to her . She contacted me and the rest is history.

 

[PFWilly]

She came in the bedroom and woke me up at 3AM by sucking my cock. When I was fully erect she jumped on top, she was so wet inside and worked up that I knew she’d been fucking around with our friend who was staying the night. Just before I fucked off in her, gazed over and noticed our friend naked and jacking off while he watched us. After she fucked me silly, I went back to sleep...and she went out and fucked him again on our living room couch.

The next night she divulged all the dirty details...lol.

 

[partsecond]

Mine started being very sexual, sucking me more than usual.

I didn't mind it.

 

[newhere2learn]

Three different women in my past/present so an array of options ticked.

1ST GF: excuses I couldn't go round, wasn't with friends, then found her in public with her ex "offering an ear for his problems". She also offered more than that.

LT GF: reputation, drunk she was a whore. Would get wasted and be the house party bike. Letting guys pretty much do what they wanted. We dated a while before becoming exclusive, as I couldn't trust her. I was right.

Through the whole 3 years of our relationship she was no different with retrospect. The deathknell was when I had a gut feeling she was fucking our housemate, and worse, it'd become romantic.

Mutual friends (who lived with us) wouldn't get involved directly, but nudged me in the right direction. The final clue was; gut feeling, plus whenever i arrived back they were together in his room. Or the lounge. Toward the end, when drunk on group nights out they were openly all over each other, thinking no one could tell.

Paying attention to her underwear choices, matching sets of lingerie as daily wear, and the thongs being soaked/messy was the final thing that led to heated discussion and breakup.

She wasn't a hotwife by any means, just spineless. I don't resent her though, they're still together about 12 years later.


WIFE: 3 instances from memory. Always starts as attention whoring by phone to other guys. Usually syncd with her bipolar or us having a flat phase. Chicken and egg debate. She blames me/us.... "Distant etc".

However in truth, the distance is because she's glued to her phone and treats me like shit while begging for attention off other guys.

Weirdly they're always the opposite of me, so geeky and slim. The sort she never bothers with normally. Consensus is that she goes for those as they're a safe bet. Over the years I've caught her out via various means ranging from; her lies, handwritten plans/notes, car milage being way out, her telling the truth Facebook messages being left open, her not being where she's supposed to be.

Biggest clue is ways her panties as I do the laundry. Normally they're barely marked and nigh on bone dry. When attention whoring, end of each day they're soaked and smell. Not with third party cum, her arousal.

As, she gets off on being wanted. In my eyes due to her shockingly low esteem.