How Did It End?

[JckHmmr_2000]

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

You can also post about relationships other than your last one that may have a more interesting ending.

And, of course, please feel free to post about more than one relationship and how they ended.

If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

 

[SexyCleric]

Poorly.

Got Dear Johned for being a nice guy (not unexpected or unusual), but also for (I shit you not), the sex being too good.

I wish I could make shit like this up. She was unhappy or disquieted by the fact that I spent time and effort to make sure she got off often and hard. She was sensitive, so I could make her cum six or seven times. We needed a safe word for oral sex...

There is no god.

Oh, and it started at an election day party, we fooled around and went out for about three weeks.

 

[jazzyb_77]

poorly.

i went to his work (unexpectedly) to meet him and take him to dinner one evening. was parked in the parking lot beside his car and when he came out of the building he kissed a female co-worker before watching her head off in the other direction.

i broke up with him on the spot. since that time, he has begged me to get back together with him, but i'm done with his ass. i just started seeing someone that i am now VERY interested in, so there you have it.

jasmine

 

[WinterBlueAbby]

He sent me flowers and I knew right then and there it had to end.

 

[bigpecker7]

How did your last relationship end? She cheated on me Why did it end? Again cheating Whose fault, if any? Hers, all her fault, lol How did both parties take the ending? Oh i can't stand her anymore, but when I think back I am so glad its over, I am so much better off now and a lot happier.

 

[Firefly009]

Broke it off after she got passed out drunk on me and I found out she didn't like dogs.

 

[cajuncutie]

Deleted

 

[whiteskysage22]

It's hard to remember which year my last relationship ended since the years just start to blur together after a while. She wanted to stay close to her family. In her opinion, I was starting my career too far away from her family for her. Distance ultimately killed the relationship.

I never put much time into whose fault it was since it didn't really matter. She wanted to stay close to her family and I wanted to start my career where the opportunity presented itself.

 

[kinkymomjianlis]

I had one just ended tonite I gave him 25 dolloars for a hotel room we never used.
It ended because he is to dumb to realize that he is just a fuck and I have other stuff I gotta take care of first before him, my fault it ended in a way to, i just wasnt feeling him anymore, he is a total asshole
He is mad as hell, cussing, name calling, typical IMMATURE stuff

ME....IM GOOOOOD!!! Plenty of men out there....I'll be fine!!!!

 

[girlfish]

How did it end? Sadly. Lots of drama. Lots of denial leading up to it on both ends.

Why did it end? He's gay, I'm a girl. He tried to make it work, but sex was the one thing that just wasn't going to work in the long term.

How did it start? By accident, really. Had been friends for awhile, fell in love.

How are we now? We're best friends, it took a while to get over the hurt but we're alright now.

 

[ninser]

He sent me flowers and I knew right then and there it had to end.

Why? .

 

[WinterBlueAbby]

Why? .

Not going to let me get off with a vague one-liner, huh?

I am just picking one relationship from several....
It ended because it wasn't mutual love on both sides.
It ended because he was rude to his mother.
And it ended because he was a 6'7", 350#, racist police officer.

We argued over something and he was afraid the relationship would end, so he sent a dozen roses. Roses are not a tool to save relationships, so I ended it, letting him down as easy as I could (It's not you.....it's me....bleh)

We still occasionally e-mail today and I can tell he still resents me for breaking up with him. After 18 years, let it go already.....another reminder of why it had to end.

 

[ninser]

Not going to let me get off with a vague one-liner, huh?

I am just picking one relationship from several....
It ended because it wasn't mutual love on both sides.
It ended because he was rude to his mother.
And it ended because he was a 6'7", 350#, racist police officer.

We argued over something and he was afraid the relationship would end, so he sent a dozen roses. Roses are not a tool to save relationships, so I ended it, letting him down as easy as I could (It's not you.....it's me....bleh)

We still occasionally e-mail today and I can tell he still resents me for breaking up with him. After 18 years, let it go already.....another reminder of why it had to end.

Oh right,

How they treat their mother is an important one.

 

[WinterBlueAbby]

Oh right,

How they treat their mother is an important one.

Yes it is

 

[Wings27]

That restraining order I had to take out pretty much ended it all.

 

[hamishmacbeth]

if ya cant treat your mother with respect` i dont think he would treat you any better` so i`m with winterBlueAbby on this just my 2cents worth

 

[NorthernPA4U]

How did it end? Sadly. Lots of drama. Lots of denial leading up to it on both ends.

Why did it end? He's gay, I'm a girl. He tried to make it work, but sex was the one thing that just wasn't going to work in the long term.

How did it start? By accident, really. Had been friends for awhile, fell in love.

How are we now? We're best friends, it took a while to get over the hurt but we're alright now.

This is really good to read ... it's the way endings should be, if they can. Good for you.

 

[Bitch_Du_Jour]

He was 30 years older than me and married, it was doomed from the start.

 

[alyssawesome29]

How my most recent one ended ... He was married and his youngest son was almost my age ... Yeah, the age thing (he was 35, I was 18 at the time) did eventually catch up to us ... My dad actually forbid me to see him, so I stopped and I'm kind of happy I did ... It just looks kind of creepy now.

My other break-up ... Well, he was a man-whore. He took my virginity and was sleeping with several other younger chicks at the time (this was in high school ... we were both seniors, and he was literally popping sophomore cherries). I found it disgusting and I eventually mustered up the courage/confidence from a Grey's Anatomy episode ... I knew that I'd always have a soft spot w/ him, but after 10 months of not a single orgasm (and fucking at least 3-5 times after school a week), I just told him "I slept with another guy" and I stopped talking to him. It worked and I'm happy for it. If I ever did listen to what he said + got on the pill, I'd probably have clamydia or clap or some other shit, so I'm happy w/ both choices overall. I guess I just have bad taste in men...

 

[bunnylicker]

I broke up with my boyfriend last week actually.

We’d been going out for six years, since I’d just turned 16, so it was a really hard decision to make but I feel now that I did the right thing. We’d both been treating each other unfairly and without respect for at least a year, and especially so for the past six months.

It’s depressing to think that someone I’ve spent six years of my life with, and revealed the most of myself to, should hate me! I felt as though he should have been loving and supporting me, but that he was in fact playing on my insecurities and making me feel terrible about myself. So I decided that I want to spend my time with people who actually like me, and who I like.

Since we’ve broken up things have been quite lovely between us. I’ve slept at his house, in his bed, he’s hugged me, and we’ve been out for dinner and to a concert. We’ve been treating each other a lot better than we have in a long time, so I’m hopeful we’ll remain good friends.

Oh, our meeting each other... we had a mutual friend, and had spoken over the net and knew who each other were, but never spoke in real life. On my sixteenth birthday he pulled me aside as I was walking to school, and he gave me two records: Faith and Seventeen Seconds, both by The Cure. What a sweety. Though, he had a girlfriend at the time.

Breaking up, I felt as though I was letting those cutie teenagers down, but we've both changed so much there really was no point in staying together. -_-

 

[heartoftexasgrl]

My husband cheated on me with a girl who was 12 years younger than him. That was stupid enough. What's more stupid than that? Believing a 23 year old girl when she says she "can't get pregnant" and subsequently finding out that was not the truth.

Yeah, lots of drama. lol

We actually get along pretty well, now. I'm not a grudge holder, it's just not in my nature. 10 years together makes him my family, whether we're together or not. And he's a great Dad. I can't fault him at all in that respect.

 

[njgirl0863]

Well I ended my marriage of 16 years. Why, because he never grew up and thought that the world evolved around him. He had an attitude that said; If I do that for you, what is in it for me?" He treated his children very disrespectfully but couldn't understand why they didn't respect or listen to him. He couldn't keep a job for more than a year or two at a time; for example he got fired during the middle of my pregnancy and didn't get a job until his unemployment benefits were completely exhausted and I was 8 months pregnant by that time (just one of many job losses). He came home from work (when he had a job) and sat on the sofa in front of the t.v. ignoring the children and leaving it up to me to do all the house work, take care of the kids, and would holler and get upset if the kids "bothered him." In his opinion, he worked all day in a physically demanding job and I was a professional in an office behind a desk; so in his mind, even though I made more money than him he still worked harder than I. When he drank, which was not every day, he didn't know when to stop. Getting so drunk, becoming annoying and abnoxious, embarrassing and scary at times. Oh one more reason; he was HORRIBLE in bed, 5 minutes and done as soon as he got off. When he was in the mood at all; which wasn't often, one of my big jokes during the entire marriage was that I didn't know how I ever conceived two children because of his lack of desire.

Am I happy now, yes extremely. I still do everything around the house and for the kids by myself. I just do it without the stress of having him sitting around doing nothing, without worrying if he is going to have a job and bring a paycheck, without worrying if we go out with friends is he going to get drunk, become abnoxious, say arrogant things and make an ass of himself and our family.

Do we speak, nope. I do not have an address, or phone number and he hasn't even bothered to make an attempt to see our two children in more than 2 years.

Whose fault was it; both of ours. Him for being the way he was, me for putting up with it and also being so naive when I was younger not to see what type of person he is or understand what a true relationship is.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

badly
no details
but
ended very poorly

 

[MSH2]

Badly, very badly. She told me she wanted a divorce over MSN and never did give me a reason that made any sort of sense. Which left me no choice but to come up with my own reasons for it, and try to pick up the pieces and gather what was left of myself.

One thing I have learnt about relationships is that I give myself, all of myself to the relationship. When they leave, they take major parts of me with them, And I get to try piece together the pieces. Have a battered, scarred old heart, pieces all held together with elactic bands and elastoplast

 

[NorthernPA4U]

Badly, very badly. She told me she wanted a divorce over MSN and never did give me a reason that made any sort of sense. Which left me no choice but to come up with my own reasons for it, and try to pick up the pieces and gather what was left of myself.

One thing I have learnt about relationships is that I give myself, all of myself to the relationship. When they leave, they take major parts of me with them, And I get to try piece together the pieces. Have a battered, scarred old heart, pieces all held together with elactic bands and elastoplast

That is really rough. Really, just shoddy treatment. No courage at all. It should never be like that.

When my wife left me, it wasn't quite that bad, but ... My wife left when my daughter and I were on vacation ... we came back, she drove me over to the house she said she had been working to get for about 14 months, and said she was taking my daughter so they could start school in her new school

Since my daughter was old enough to choose, and hated the school district I lived in ... she went.

It was quite a surprise, a rather bad ending to vacation.


Since then I've had one relationship that ended quite well I think, overall, but then she is a much better person than my wife was.